I guess you've been fishing with the wrong bait (see Rock's reply).

I've had a man turn up with a box of expensive bonbons on a first date. Before meeting he'd suggested to do an entire day, and maybe a hotel...
my reply: -I'm not that kind of girl, I don't move that fast. Let's meet for coffee in the afternoon.
He quickly adjusted his story, seeing me differently, not being a pushover, and buying me expensive bonbons instead. And no, he did NOT try to get sex. The message had been very clear.

Another first date bought me a gorgeous rose quartz crystal of some 3" diameter as he knew I loved crystals. He'd gone to a crystal shop especially for me and chose the crystal intuitively.

Men being cheap and only after sex? Not my experience.
I've made it a point to also have a small gift for a date if he's driven quite a bit to meet me. Showing gratitude is important.


Since your date suggested sex its the same as what i said before. They only want a hookup. All men only care about is sex. These gifts they give is a trade off for sex. Yea they may consider your feelings but there intentions are not always what you think.