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Topic: Moving for Love, Would You?
SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:07 PM

Yes I would. With my being a traveler, I haven't accumulated very many things. So pretty much everything I own, other than the family property, fits in my car. It makes more sense for me to move. And we would still have the family property in the Keys to stay at once in a while for vacation.

That is a good feeling! And great to not be stuck to any one place.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:09 PM

Internationally? No. Covid/Delta has changed my opinion on this. Once I may have considered it, but now it is a definite no. Our borders are closed here in New Zealand and will be for some time. I feel very safe here. A long distant, virtual relationship is not appealing to me. I have already experienced that, it is expensive and exhausting working through the visas.

Nationally? Perhaps. But I would not want to live with them.

Locally? No. I really do value my freedom and independence.

Clear! So for you it'd be LAt-ting as well.

Riverspirit1111's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:10 PM


Yes I would. With my being a traveler, I haven't accumulated very many things. So pretty much everything I own, other than the family property, fits in my car. It makes more sense for me to move. And we would still have the family property in the Keys to stay at once in a while for vacation.

That is a good feeling! And great to not be stuck to any one place.


Yes it is, it gives me a real sense of freedom. Though it does have it's drawbacks, definitely makes it difficult for that special man to find me and work at getting to settle me down in one place, haha.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:12 PM

I have done it before, and it was a disaster. I'd have to be really serious with someone before I'd consider moving. Like engaged serious. Because for me, "moving" means giving up a career and lifestyle that I absolutely love.

I get that. It is a big step for sure! And indeed in your case the lifestyle change would be huge.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:13 PM


I'd move.
We could always alternate a year in each country so that way we get the best of both worlds bigsmile :heart:

Haha, could be fun! But would also have implications for a job.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:15 PM

I did move for love, 17 years ago I made a decision to move to another state to allow her to be near family when moving in together, it was more scary for her, I had no real ties geographically, so it wasn't a huge sacrifice

She passed in 2020, and I would not have done it differently for the fact that she gave me 17 wonderful years, but we each have circumstances, variables that make the decision more or less difficult.

So sorry to hear that, Mark! And that's still really recent. Sending you love & light!
flowerforyou :heart:

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:18 PM

I had a romance once and he moved 3,000 miles to the other side of the country, we
co-mingled our stuff (lol, furniture, pets, dvd’s guys), and after 3 months I was like, ugh,
this isn’t working. It was a hard conversation to have, but we split as friends and back
to west coast he went. Then I almost moved to Arizona, but thankfully, I found out what
a scoundrel he was before doing so.

I’m settled, close family, no intentions to ever marry again, so, no, never moving for love.
Dating locally only. Lessons learned.

Understandable! Indeed feels like a difficult conversation, pfff... And we do get more settled in where we are, don't we.
I'd find it hard to be further away from my kids.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:19 PM

Yeah, most certainly I'd move.

It does me good to hear there are men who are willing to go for the move!

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:22 PM

I'd move. I rarely stay in one place for more than a year anyway. Been in my present place for almost 3 years now. Pretty long term for me. My kids are scattered all over the country so I haven't lived near family in a long time.

A good feeling, I bet, to feel free to go!
I used to have that too, when my girl was still in the US. But now it has changed for me since she came back and I now have both my kids nearby. We don't see each other very often, not like weekly or something. But we are close and the thought of us being further apart doesn't appeal to me.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:23 PM

Been there/done that = never again
I've chosen to only date local women.

But then you can still get the issue of moving in together or not. That's not only for people that live hours apart.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 09/30/21 02:24 PM
I hadn't seen that there had been so many reactions!
Thank you all. Wonderful!

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