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Topic: Help...Hard to Date a Hard Man
MsMello's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:32 AM
I'm seeing this man that doesn't like to show his emotions. When he's not working out of town he'll call me to see what I'm doing then ask what I'm doing later. I always say what I'm doing at the moment but have no plans later, hoping to leave it open for him to invite me... He just says what he will be doing and he'll call me later. I think he just calls so I can ask to see him. Why does he do that? Why is it so hard for him so say can I see you?

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Sun 12/30/07 08:35 AM
i think that if he wanted to ask you, he would

Muddysneakers77's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:36 AM
Hes calling to 'check up' on you...if you say your doing nothing...your in a 'safe zone'

next time tell him..."I just bought this hot new skirt and top with some sexy boots and am gonna hit the clubs tonite"....I bet hell ask you alot more questions--and if he can get together :)

geektothetenth's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:40 AM

I'm seeing this man that doesn't like to show his emotions. When he's not working out of town he'll call me to see what I'm doing then ask what I'm doing later. I always say what I'm doing at the moment but have no plans later, hoping to leave it open for him to invite me... He just says what he will be doing and he'll call me later. I think he just calls so I can ask to see him. Why does he do that? Why is it so hard for him so say can I see you?


GRRRR why not just say "I don't have any plans at the moment, if you don't have plans either why don't we hang out and do something together?"

Why do you have to leave it open for him to ask you?

mrosebro's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:42 AM
thank you geektothetenth!!!!

Robm248's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:52 AM
You know, some guys have a hard time asking a woman to go out. It's not exactly something easy if you really like them... it's nervewracking. Try be straightforward and honest, and let him know what you are thinking and feeling. If he responds well, and see how he responds.
He may just be having a hard time asking you out. He might have something else going on. Unless you ask you'll probably never know.

Nervesgone's photo
Sun 12/30/07 08:54 AM
Next time tell him "I've got nothing planned, why? Do you have an idea?"

See what happens then!drinker drinker

photogirl's photo
Sun 12/30/07 09:02 AM
Edited by photogirl on Sun 12/30/07 09:03 AM
I agree with muddysneakers.
He wants to know what you are doing. He may have control issues.
I have a friend that has this guy calling her to ask her what she is doing, who is she with, and rarely makes plans with her..

Beware of men that hide their emotions.

You should move on.

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Sun 12/30/07 09:04 AM
Maybe you should let his calls go to voicemail a few times dont be so available or give him the idea that you are a desperate woman without options you could invite him over and jump on him as soon as he walks in:) no just be cool and good luck!

Fade2Black's photo
Sun 12/30/07 09:09 AM

Hes calling to 'check up' on you...if you say your doing nothing...your in a 'safe zone'

next time tell him..."I just bought this hot new skirt and top with some sexy boots and am gonna hit the clubs tonite"....I bet hell ask you alot more questions--and if he can get together :)


I totally agree ....... give him a run for his money honey :wink:

geektothetenth's photo
Sun 12/30/07 09:27 AM


Hes calling to 'check up' on you...if you say your doing nothing...your in a 'safe zone'

next time tell him..."I just bought this hot new skirt and top with some sexy boots and am gonna hit the clubs tonite"....I bet hell ask you alot more questions--and if he can get together :)


I totally agree ....... give him a run for his money honey :wink:


I find it hilarious that some people on this site have rallied against the whole PUA thing (pick up artist) and have such a negative view on it (usually women) and this is totally a PUA tactic. Demonstrating higher value.

wouldee's photo
Sun 12/30/07 10:08 AM

I'm seeing this man that doesn't like to show his emotions. When he's not working out of town he'll call me to see what I'm doing then ask what I'm doing later. I always say what I'm doing at the moment but have no plans later, hoping to leave it open for him to invite me... He just says what he will be doing and he'll call me later. I think he just calls so I can ask to see him. Why does he do that? Why is it so hard for him so say can I see you?



He is submissive and introverted.

he probably wants to be wanted like you say

if that works for you then you will understand him

if you two build trust, I would expect everything will be better and growng.

but you know best.

smokin drinker bigsmile

photogirl's photo
Sun 12/30/07 12:26 PM

Maybe you should let his calls go to voicemail a few times dont be so available or give him the idea that you are a desperate woman without options you could invite him over and jump on him as soon as he walks in:) no just be cool and good luck!


That is game playing.

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Sun 12/30/07 12:37 PM
Hey I thought this thread was about 'HARD MEN'!!!!noway devil :wink: laugh

Bring out the clowns!!!laugh laugh laugh

blonderockermom's photo
Sun 12/30/07 12:40 PM

Hey I thought this thread was about 'HARD MEN'!!!!noway devil :wink: laugh

Bring out the clowns!!!laugh laugh laugh


OMG!!!...leave it to gypsy!!! laugh laugh laugh

Nervesgone's photo
Sun 12/30/07 12:41 PM

Hey I thought this thread was about 'HARD MEN'!!!!noway devil :wink: laugh

Bring out the clowns!!!laugh laugh laugh


laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Sun 12/30/07 01:20 PM
Drop him! I lived with a cold hearted snake like that and he and I are no longer even friends. They are all about themselves and not what a true man should be.

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Sun 12/30/07 01:21 PM
Nervesgone:

I love your answer. That's a great one!drinker

KeeconMom's photo
Sun 12/30/07 01:32 PM
Ive been here before. Have you ever read, He's just not that into you? Great, funny book! Tells it like it is...bottom line.... if he is interested.. he would be asking you out! Men are not shy or THAT afraid to make the first move! Get busy and find someone else!

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Sun 12/30/07 01:40 PM
Edited by BlueskyJ on Sun 12/30/07 01:50 PM
If you want to go out with him, then ask him out....its called Honesty

If you want him to ask you out, then do what Nervesgone said, "I've got nothing planned, why? Do you have an idea?"

Or just tell him you prefer for the man to ask the girl out....its called Communication!!!!!

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