The miniscule thing he put me down about was the fact that I did not use punctuation in text messages.

I figured at that point if he was going to be that controlling, I didn't need it in my life anyway.

This weekend was rough too. Drove 3 hours to meet a guy I met here with plans to go Whale Watching this morning. He never showed up because he partyed too much with his friends the night before and didn't leave their place in time to meet me.

Ya know, screw this looking for anyone thing. I got my cats, a great job, a good mind. This looking for a mate thing sucks.

Cheer up. Things always get better eventually.

Awwwww I'm so sorry to hear that...

A

I think ive just had an epiphany(sp) as to why there are so few nice guys vs jerks.

I think at an early age..most guys are genuinely a nice guy..but ladies are into the 'badboy,' whatever types--and the nice guys gets 'crapped' on. They then get too frustrated with the 'good guy' scenario-and become jerks (cause they think thats what the ladies want).

Hell, maybe I just gotta go that route--tired of feeling the burn--least with a 'cold heart' dont gotta have that ****ty 'emotion' smacking me in the face

I've actually thought about turning into the *****y role. I mean, that is who gets the guys anyway. Be a drama queen! But... it is not in me. I will not change because the rest of the world does, I will be true to who I am no matter what. No matter what the cost, I will not do myself false.

Ya, maybe a little stubborn german pride in there somewhere...

i found that out long time ago

I think people jump to LOVE way to fast.
Need to get to really know people first.
Build a friendship to a relationship.
Lasting LOVE takes time, work & sacrifice.
Love hurts in the building, to make it last.

Regardless still does not say ones can't remain as friends though there have been a few I have chatted with for one reason or another it want be any more than friends but at least I will keep them as friends for friens are nice to have and to share things with.

Some men I have met recently definitely fall in love waaaaaay too fast. One had bought me a diamond promise ring before we even met. The other one wanted me to move in with him after 1 date!

I'm not one to feel in a box, or to like other people are making decisions for my life without consulting me or giving me a voice.

See, it's better to be single... or, at least with my current attitude it is.

The single life sucks...the relationship 'searching' sucks.....its a 'Catch 22'

True THAT my friend, and BREAK-UPS suck to but all that we have to GO THROUGH in this life...

You're thinking of the single life from only one view. The single life also equals less stress. You determine what stress enters your life because your life is not influenced by another persons decisions (or, lack of decisions...)

So, try to look at the positive attributes of being single. That's how I get by.

Ya, the single life does suck sometimes. But, it better to be single than to settle for someone who is not a good fit.

true..but maybe its just me...but i genuinely enjoy sharing moments (from mundane housework/chores, to intimate situations) with that significant other....Id rather much 'share' myself.

AMEN, to that!!!!!!

Oh, I enjoy sharing times together as much as the next person. Just the simple enjoyment of figuring out what the best cleaner to use on the bathtub, then trying it out, and complaining afterwards is priceless!

I think I will call it vulnerable times. The times when you let your guard down and are just simply "there" with another person. When you're up to your elbows in flour, or car repair, or redoing the electrical in your home. Or, the obvious, making love-not f------g... making love.

You can't share your vulnerabilities with everyone though. You'll get hurt.

Maybe my guard is up too high. Maybe just for today it will be.

Damn I wish you guys lived in the Central Valley, California.

Ya, back to location... again...

you think it sucks trying being single for 16 years it sucks big ones lol

16years....HOLY BABY JESUS!


Im working on 15months and im bout ready to loose my mind!

im at 2 years.. and it sux.... i hate being alone.. but then again.. its better than being with someone just to be with someone....
ether way.. it sux!!!!

cheer up Izzie....we wont all be single forever....will we?




i swear...you ever just sit around and think sometimes--"Im gonna become that lonely cat person I knew growing up as a kid" :P