I often lurk and don't post and watch some of the people and what they have to say. I often wonder if people honestly think about what they say and how much it could hurt someone else. I mean seriously.......aren't we on a dating site to at the minimum meet friends. Why would anyone want to be friends with anyone that is down right mean and disrespectful to the point that an all our war starts? I am finding that some don't have enough respect for themselves let alone respect for others. Everyone says something they don't mean once in awhile, but some of this stuff is down right evil and mean.

I see the excuses like.......they asked for the opinion so they got mine, yet they don't realize that being nasty to someone else has given others an opinion about them. I'm just wondering why some place that gives all of these people right to you in the click of a few keys for free do we have to make it so ugly and mean. Do people think that being a smart a$$ is attractive? Maybe my reasons are differnt for being her than others. The forums are a way to show people what type of person you are. Please try to remember that when you post something nasty and hurtful to someone.

I always put it down to the person not thinking before they post. I think everyone has been guilty of this at some level. If it is a pattern though I would think that would be a problem.

I agree whole heartedly and being the brunt of the "opinion that I asked for" just recently, I can vouch for the fact that it does hurt one's feelings. I probably should have ignored it. It was painful and I am just lucky to have nice people on this site that were supportive.

I think there are a few that have a pattern of it......I guess I was raised as a child to always think before I speak. I just think people should read out loud before they post it.JMO

Very well said, NO one could have said it better



CHEERS



Compliment for you : Not only are you smart and kind
but beautiful as well...

Good luck Kirota

I read that battle and I feel bad for you. It shouldn't matter the opinion that you ask for......I think that there is always a way to be respectful of the way that you give your opinion.
BTW, I think you are a very beautiful woman.

Thank you.....I feel honored to have someone as beautiful compliment me.

I've noticed that too and I am hardly on here. I think it makes them feel better about themself for a minute somehow. Anyway you have a nice smile so keep smiling

Madi can vouch for me, im nice right? lol

I think you know you are attractive and just need some reassurance.. we all do sometimes... you will be ok..I know you are a strong woman..


but back to this topic..
people are mean and hurtful. sadly it has come here as well..

i agree...one very horrible comment about a paralized woman comes to mind...emotions can make people say very ugly things..but adults have the god given sence of reasoning befor acting out on impulses

I agree....especially when you can read it again before it is seen, unlike real words in the real world.

perhaps i did go to far when i told them off...but a man is able to take the punches where put downs are conserned...but we were talking about a woman who was facing the most hardest and nightmarish strugle of her life...she deserved better,my italian/german anger exploded i guess

You Rawk gurlie!!!

I didn't see any of that. I know that stuff gets blown out of proportion when emotions are involved. Like they said earlier it is a serious problem when it is a pattern and several have a pattern of it.

I'm still very, very new to this place and already I've seen what is being talked about in this topic. But I've also seen really wonderful people say really nice things to/about others. Its those people who make me feel like its worth it to stick it out here.

Hi friend

Thank you......

The good totally out weigh the bad most of the time......just don't really understand why there has to be bad. I guess my heart is way to close to the surface.