This most likely has been a topic before but I would like to know how
far would you go to be with someone.

Some of you had said that you would move to be with them but have you
really thought about it and how much you would leave behind. Not to
mention all your things you need to move with you.

For me I would if I found the right person. I would sell most of my
things and sense my family is all over the place it wouldn't matter as
far as family goes leaving anything behind.

shadow, i moved almost 3000 miles to be with someone i met online. i got
rid of most of my stuff and packed my car and drove from seattle, wa to
new jersey. i had no furniture, just dishes, pots and pans, clothes and
my computer when i moved here. i left my daughter with her dad for
almost a month until i got settled and then i moved her here with me.

HUmmmm very good question. And a very hard one to answer also first I
had once thought I had found that very special one and did refuse to
move where he was due to my kids and grandbaby and all my family is
right here in the area I live. Well he ended up moving here it only
lasted 2 months so guess I was dead wrong about him and me but was very
happy that I made the choices I did one was not to marry him till we
lived together for 6 months which I dont think he was happy with but
damn glad, I did't lol But now if I every do find that special one and
it really was all that I have been waiting for yes I would consider
moving but only if I could come back at least a few times each year to
see them all. For now I believe I'm more ready to give more to have that
special relantionship than I was in the past. And as far as leaving
things OHHHHH well I do have a lot and would just have to put some
things in my storage shed I have and guess let my kids move into my
house for that is one thing I'm not given up I will never be left
without a home again been there done that bought this one on my own and
will always have a home to go back to just in case lol

herwego I would think that when you first moved that is was a little
scary and I would think that's how I would feel but as I see you have
settled in. It is a big step in life but I'm willing to take that
chance.

Txs, I can appreciate what you are saying. I would never sell my home
unless I knew it was "the real thing". And even at that, my home would
be good rental property.

If I find a guy that I want to marry, I wouldn't sell that quickly . . .
you never now, as you said, when you need somewhere to call home. In
the meantime, my son can live here.

I hear you Txs and I always have some place to come back to if this ever
happens. The reason I brang this up is if you think about it most people
that you meet and maybe interested in live far away. I don;t know why
that is but it just is.

shadow, it was very scary, i left my family and my friends for this guy
and it was the biggest mistake i ever made. well, except for marrying my
ex-husband (but that's another story). i was scared, fortunately the
company i work for had a location opening out here and was able to
transfer, found a place to live in 4 days and went home and packed. i'd
consider moving again, for the right guy.

SHADOW, I FEEL ABOUT LIKE TEXS DOES, I WOULD GO TO HER AND FIRST KNOW
THAT WE WERE ALL THAT FOR AT LEAST A COUPLE OF MONTH'S BEFORE MAKING
THAT DECISION, BUT OH,YEAHHHHHHHH
IF WE WERE GREAT IN EVERYTHING WE DONE AND WENT THROUGH IN TWO
MONTH'S YES, WE WOULD HAVE ALREDY MADE OUR PLANS AND THEN BE THEIR FOR
US TO REALLY SHARE LIFE TOGETHER!!!!!

AND HEREWEGO,,,,,IM SO SORRY, THAT YOURS DID'NT WORK!!!!!

thanks IAM, but i'm not... he was a liar, cheated on me, etc. live and
learn

Herewego I moved from LA to San diego it wasn't that big of a move but
when I did I realize that it was the best thing I did for me. Then I
moved from San Diego to San Luis Obispo where I am now. I think it's
just geting past that first stage of moving after that the rest fall in
to place.

I arleady have moved, more than once also. I am sure many others make
that choice. If I had to do it again? Half my things seem to be in
perminent boxes, I rumage through them to find things. I am flat broke
from the number of times I have moved in recent years, and would do it
all again if I thought I would be with her.

One of the reasons I will be searching for a while is simple. I ask
anyone I am chatting/talking with if they would move. If thier answer is
no, without hesitating I walk away. You see finding someone who is
willing to go to any lengths to find love is one thing. Going to any
length to keep it is a whole different story. I have my career just like
anyone else, yet at a moments notice if I find her I would give it up. I
have twice and would do it again. How many people can or will give up
everything to find and keep the love they find?

G

you only live once, literally. do what you gotta do

shadow, that is true... but if you live in a state that you can't stand,
but stay for the sake of your child would that be stupid? my daughter is
in college and i won't leave the east coast until she is finished with
school. then i'm open for just about anywhere that is better then here.

HELL ITS HARD TO TELL IF IT'S GONNA WORK AS FAR AS MINE WE HAD BEEN
FLYING BACK AND FORTH FOR A YEAR BEFORE HE MOVED HERE SO GO FIGURE LOL
BUT I DONT HAVE ANY HATE FOR THE GUY JUST GLAD I DID NOT MARRY HIM AND
WHAT WAS TOUGH IS HE IS THE FIRST ONE THAT HAD LIVED WITH ME IN THE 15
YEARS WE ALL LEARN FROM OUR MISTAKES AND I CAN SAY EVEN FROM THAT
REALANTIOSHIP I DID LEARN SOME THINGS FROM IT NOT SAYING I WOULD NOT END
UP DOING SOME OF THE SAME THINGS AGAIN BUT HEY WE ARE ALL ONLY HUMAN AND
MAKE MISTAKES LOL

Gruphyn I would feel that way to If I'm willing to go all the way then
you better to or it will never work out. That is what seems to be the
problem in to days world that most are not willing to go all they way.
Yes it take two and it takes time but there has to be some willingnes to
show that you want that relationship.

herewego, that's exactly what kept me here in Virginia. When my ex
passed away, my son was still in high school. My family epected that I
would move "back home" to new england, but Virginia is my home, and my
son is here. This is where I will stay for the time being

Herewego NO that would not be stupid she is your daughter and if you
think about it she is almost done right. So it's up to you now what and
where you want to go in life.

onalark, i'm glad that i'm not the only one staying where they are for
their child(ren). my family thought i'd move back also.

WELL, WITH ME I GAVE UP MY PLACE, THROUGH A DIVORCE OF 16 YEARS AND MY
JOB, IS NOT ONE PLACE. I CAN WORK AND DO WHAT I DO IN ANY STATE WE HAVE,
AND MAKE ABOUT THE SAME MONEY.
SO UP-ROOTING FOR ME WOULD BE NOW, A SIMPLE TASK!!

shadow, she just started college this year, so she won't be graduating
until 2010 or so. i'd move to other locations on the east coast as long
as i wasn't that far from her. right now, i travel about 4 hrs to go see
her in college.