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Situation: You and a guy (or girl, if you are a guy reading this) have talked online for a little while (at least a month), and have been talking on the phone for about 2 weeks. You get along pretty well. You are aware that about a month before you started talking, he'd broken up with a girl he'd seen for a short time. Then, today, you are talking to him and he says that he's decided to get back together with her, and is even planning on moving in with her. He says that he wants to continue to be your friend, and now that he's moving, he'll be close enough that we can actually meet and be friends (he currently lives about an hour and a half away, and will be moving about 20 minutes away). He also says that if things don't work out with the girl this time, you will be the first to find out, because he is in fact interested.
What do I make of this? Part of me says, "I don't want to be a fall-back girl, eff off"... but at least he's being honest, right? And we have never said or done anything that wasn't platonic. I am disappointed, obviously, but I'm also okay with just being friends with him. And if something is meant to happen, it will happen later. Unless I'm being stupid. Which is a possibility? |
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Girl he wants his cake,frosting,icecream, and wants to eat it too!
Tell him to take a hike! Hes a PLAYER!!! I feel bad for the girl he is going back to... |
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if he is getting back with his girl....in fact moving in....
Well....let's put it this way...if you were moving in with yours...would you want another chick calling or meeting him...even if it was just Platonic???? Respect yourself enough to let him be....while he is building a relationship with his new ROOM MATE!! |
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Nah, man....let it go. You're gonna get hurt because you're already thinking "something" may work out later... friends is friends...if you're gonna hold on to some secret hope (I'm guilty of this, too) it's gonna hurt you...
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That SOB!!!
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Your being put on the back burner girl. if you can handle it. then so be it, but if not, Then don't play the game...
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 Girl he wants his cake,frosting,icecream, and wants to eat it too! Tell him to take a hike! Hes a PLAYER!!! I feel bad for the girl he is going back to... |
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Your being put on the back burner girl. if you can handle it. then so be it, but if not, Then don't play the game... |
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Situation: You and a guy (or girl, if you are a guy reading this) have talked online for a little while (at least a month), and have been talking on the phone for about 2 weeks. You get along pretty well. You are aware that about a month before you started talking, he'd broken up with a girl he'd seen for a short time. Then, today, you are talking to him and he says that he's decided to get back together with her, and is even planning on moving in with her. He says that he wants to continue to be your friend, and now that he's moving, he'll be close enough that we can actually meet and be friends (he currently lives about an hour and a half away, and will be moving about 20 minutes away). He also says that if things don't work out with the girl this time, you will be the first to find out, because he is in fact interested. What do I make of this? Part of me says, "I don't want to be a fall-back girl, eff off"... but at least he's being honest, right? And we have never said or done anything that wasn't platonic. I am disappointed, obviously, but I'm also okay with just being friends with him. And if something is meant to happen, it will happen later. Unless I'm being stupid. Which is a possibility? fall back girl..sloppy seconds..suck for u... I say move on.. If u 2 r getting along so well..then there shouldn't be this indeciceveness in him....he should know who he would like to be with... For u..u r setting ur self up for disappointment... he isn't mature enough for a relationship at this point.. thats apparent.. Don't second quesss urself..not a good trait to get urself trapped in.. There are many more out there..take ur time.. Friends...again..I think u need to let him go...the whole situation will only then come around full circle.. Best of luck to u.... Zanne 
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eat 14 bananas and call me in the morning!!!
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I did ask what his girlfriend was going to think about him having a girl friend, and he said she'd better be okay with it, since she has so many guy friends and he knows almost nobody in OKC...
I don't know... I mean... did I mess something up? |
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could be setting yourself up to get hurt. Why wait and get your hopes up for someone who may never come around?
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Amen msteddy......you need to leave that alonf and move on....adding fuel to the fire!!!
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nope!!!!! move on....find someone...he has!
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Edited by
zanne46
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Thu 02/14/08 02:43 PM
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I did ask what his girlfriend was going to think about him having a girl friend, and he said she'd better be okay with it, since she has so many guy friends and he knows almost nobody in OKC... I don't know... I mean... did I mess something up? u should reread this whole thread...again... it's ur call.. best advise given here.... 
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Start running and don't stop (he or her) is not the right one if they were they wouldn't ask you to wait until (he or she) plays
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wanna buy a bridge?
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I appreciate everyone's advice. It just really sucks!! It's not often that I meet someone anywhere near me who shares my values. I spent a long time just repressing this whole part of my life, and I was perfectly fine being single and didn't even think about it. Maybe I should just go back to that.
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Situation: You and a guy (or girl, if you are a guy reading this) have talked online for a little while (at least a month), and have been talking on the phone for about 2 weeks. You get along pretty well. You are aware that about a month before you started talking, he'd broken up with a girl he'd seen for a short time. Then, today, you are talking to him and he says that he's decided to get back together with her, and is even planning on moving in with her. He says that he wants to continue to be your friend, and now that he's moving, he'll be close enough that we can actually meet and be friends (he currently lives about an hour and a half away, and will be moving about 20 minutes away). He also says that if things don't work out with the girl this time, you will be the first to find out, because he is in fact interested. What do I make of this? Part of me says, "I don't want to be a fall-back girl, eff off"... but at least he's being honest, right? And we have never said or done anything that wasn't platonic. I am disappointed, obviously, but I'm also okay with just being friends with him. And if something is meant to happen, it will happen later. Unless I'm being stupid. Which is a possibility? Wow! You mean you would actually have to even CONSIDER this??? I'm not trying to be mean or anything..that's a legitimate question??? Why in the world would you EVER want to be "next in line"??? Show more RESPECT for YOURSELF! Anytime ANY man brings up crap like that, not only DROP HIM..But kick his AZZ TO THE CURB! He's not worth a tinkers damn! Just my opinion.
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Okay, okay, I get it! This is why I have to ask, because people generally cannot make fair judgments from the center of a situation.
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