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Topic: Three is a crowed
lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 03/07/08 03:28 AM
not to defend all men or dis the ladies..I'm a single dad with four kids living here with me and I think women are the same way when it comes to dating someone with kids, and I dont hold it against anyone weather they have already raised their kids or dont have them and dont want to raise someone else's children. The thing is I dont allow anyone I'm seeing (when I was actively dating) to even meet my kids. I remember a saying that says it takes an entire village to raise a child. brian maybe you have something to contribute to their upbringing and maybe not. Did you ever think maybe she doesnt want another father for her kids, what about just being their mentor? or one of their mentors. Peace folks, and remember,... peace and love

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Fri 03/07/08 03:28 AM Edited by DTHRomeo on Fri 03/07/08 03:29 AM
Oh sh*t dude you've done it now Run

briancarr Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 3310	Fri 03/07/08 03:29 AM
Know i must add that i did express my feelings about raising another family. Her reply was, she is not looking for another Father for her Kids, she is looking for someone for her. She says she does not want to think about living with, or marring a man until her last child is out on their own. She just wants a consistant, and respectable relationship. I guess what she wants doesnt count. angry woman allways think Other woman are Brainless victims. Good luck dudes.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Fri 03/07/08 03:30 AM
Oh sh*t dude you've done it now Run I heard that!!!!!!!

briancarr Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 3310	Fri 03/07/08 03:30 AM
not to defend all men or dis the ladies..I'm a single dad with four kids living here with me and I think women are the same way when it comes to dating someone with kids, and I dont hold it against anyone weather they have already raised their kids or dont have them and dont want to raise someone else's children. The thing is I dont allow anyone I'm seeing (when I was actively dating) to even meet my kids. I remember a saying that says it takes an entire village to raise a child. brian maybe you have something to contribute to their upbringing and maybe not. Did you ever think maybe she doesnt want another father for her kids, what about just being their mentor? or one of their mentors. Peace folks, and remember,... peace and love Please read everthing. I wrote that.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Fri 03/07/08 03:33 AM
Oh sh*t dude you've done it now Run I heard that!!!!!!! Me 's ya sis

SuzinVA Joined Wed 04/25/07 Posts: 28730	Fri 03/07/08 03:34 AM
Know i must add that i did express my feelings about raising another family. Her reply was, she is not looking for another Father for her Kids, she is looking for someone for her. She says she does not want to think about living with, or marring a man until her last child is out on their own. She just wants a consistant, and respectable relationship. I guess what she wants doesnt count. angry woman allways think Other woman are Brainless victims. Good luck dudes. What she does want does count. My point was, wants and needs change. Everything changes, it's the nature of the world and of people. What are you going to do if she decides she wants something more? Or what if you decide you want something more and she doesn't? These are things you need to think about BEFORE, not after. If it was just her and you, great, go for it. But it's not.

briancarr Joined Mon 12/17/07 Posts: 3310	Fri 03/07/08 03:40 AM
Know i must add that i did express my feelings about raising another family. Her reply was, she is not looking for another Father for her Kids, she is looking for someone for her. She says she does not want to think about living with, or marring a man until her last child is out on their own. She just wants a consistant, and respectable relationship. I guess what she wants doesnt count. angry woman allways think Other woman are Brainless victims. Good luck dudes. What she does want does count. My point was, wants and needs change. Everything changes, it's the nature of the world and of people. What are you going to do if she decides she wants something more? Or what if you decide you want something more and she doesn't? These are things you need to think about BEFORE, not after. If it was just her and you, great, go for it. But it's not. You are right. We allways try to think of whats best for us in life. Some things work, and some things dont. But please understand, when children are involved an extra step is taken to protect them first. It doesnt allways work as planned, but youtry to make it as respectfull as possible. Thank you responding to all the information, and not just being angry

blueeyedbarbie Joined Tue 01/22/08 Posts: 310	Fri 03/07/08 03:58 AM
With me being a single mom of four i alway's say you must like kids as i have four. I'm not saying that the Guy has to step in a be their father they just have to realize that they get more than just me they get 4 kids as well. They have to be understanding that there will be times that i won't be able to do anything cause i eaither have the kids or the kids have extra activities for school.

lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 03/07/08 05:24 AM
not to defend all men or dis the ladies..I'm a single dad with four kids living here with me and I think women are the same way when it comes to dating someone with kids, and I dont hold it against anyone weather they have already raised their kids or dont have them and dont want to raise someone else's children. The thing is I dont allow anyone I'm seeing (when I was actively dating) to even meet my kids. I remember a saying that says it takes an entire village to raise a child. brian maybe you have something to contribute to their upbringing and maybe not. Did you ever think maybe she doesnt want another father for her kids, what about just being their mentor? or one of their mentors. Peace folks, and remember,... peace and love Please read everthing. I wrote that. I got it, just trying to put it another way

lonedaddy Joined Sun 03/02/08 Posts: 159	Fri 03/07/08 05:26 AM
barbie maybe we should get together between us we would have 10!

Nickinolosers Joined Thu 06/07/07 Posts: 15208	Fri 03/07/08 05:31 AM


LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 03/07/08 05:31 AM
When I was much much younger, I got involved with several slightly older women who had kids. In every case, it turned out that they weren't really interested in a relationship at all, they just wanted someone to come in and play Daddy. Being stupid and naive, I tried to go along with this; but eventually came to the realization that I simply do not have a parental bone in my body. I'm grateful for the experiences, though, because they helped me reach an understanding about what it is I do and do not want. As for the OP's question -- all I can say is good luck with that! Not a position I would ever be in, though....

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 03/07/08 05:40 AM Edited by Fade2Black on Fri 03/07/08 05:41 AM
Is there anyway to commit to a woman with three kids, but not the Kids? I like her, but i dont want to raise another family. If you aren't willing to be a family .. then you should keep it movin' ... I had a guy from NYC like that. Sorry. Thing is part of who your woman is IS her kids. You can't separate that out. It's like taking part of HER and dividing it out. No can do ..... and more importantly no SHOULD do. Oh ya .. and in my case. My children have a great dad, but I would still want a man in my life to be in theirs as their friend. BIG difference.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 03/07/08 05:43 AM Edited by Fade2Black on Fri 03/07/08 05:47 AM
Can anyone say 'Bootycall'? Want a piece of the mama, but ditch the kids.... oh yeah.... is that a penis I see walking around with a man attached to it? well if it is (& I'm not confering either way - don't know this guy) then it's not a MAN attached Just a boy in a man's body. Sorry. True be that. Oh and no anger here. In fact I think the woman you are dating should be thinking long and hard about what that would mean to her kids. Even if she waits til they leave the house, they will never leave her heart. Geesh, we'll always spend holidays and vaca's together. My kids still live at home, but someday they won't. But they will be over I'm sure, plenty. We are very close. I would want my guy to be part of that. I'm surprised a bit about her attitude but I think she's probably foolin herself, and honestly would be denying the 'family' in her future then.

Peachiepoohie Joined Wed 09/13/06 Posts: 2124	Fri 03/07/08 06:40 AM
Is there anyway to commit to a woman with three kids, but not the Kids? I like her, but i dont want to raise another family. No, that's shoplifting the pooty...seen Jerry McGuire?