one glass is drinking if you are an alcoholic. I don't date men who drink; go ahead and drink. I won't try to change you. My other brother drinks.

I have to follow my dr orders he say one glass of wine is good for my heart, so just consider it medicine. there is drinking and there is getting drunk. you can have one glass without getting drunk. well maybe you cant I dont really know.

an alcoholic cannot have "one drink". An alcoholic cannot drink at all. I don't drink and I don't date men who drink. I don't judge people who drink, I have friends and family members who drink. I don't date men who drink at all.

there you go again, putting words in my mouth.I think it's the voices in your head, honestly.

What I am saying is that an alcoholic cannot have one drink. I am an alcoholic; have not had a drink in 20 years.

I have no opinion on anyone else really, I am qualified to speak only for myself. Having one glass of wine a day does not look like alcoholism to me; however, I would never tell anyone else that they are or are not an alcoholic. It's not my place and I am not qualified.

I just don't like being around people when they drink.

Honestly what it is, is fear of people who drink. Even people who barely drink can occasionally drink too much and become drunk. Drunk men scare me, because I have been physically hurt by them. Men who don't drink at all never accidentaly get drunk and come home to abuse their partners.

The other thing is a compatibility issue. Someone who drinks may want to go out for a drink once in a while, and I don't want to do that. I don't like bars. So right away there is a cause for friction. I don't want to change anyone. I don't want anyone giving up or cutting back on alcohol for me. So I prefer to just date people who don't drink anyway. It's just easier.

I am sure you can find plenty of women in your homestate who will date a guy who has one drink a day, is retired, and has all the time in the world to devote to her. You'll do fine.

Yes Im doing ok and it wont kill me not to be considered by you or any other woman who dosent like a person who has a drink once in while. Dont you think that might be the problem with a lot of people here. They wont bend or flex and are too ridged in their wants and desires. Im thinking I could flex alittle on a few things but not on all of them. smoking is one of my lock out items but I have been known to over look that just to get to know the real person.I have this idea in my head that if a person really loves you they could give up a bad habit. like a drink once in awhile if it bothered someone. I sure would. Having that drink isnt as important as having someone in your life. They wouldnt be changing us we would be changing ourselfs because we wanted too.whats wrong with asking someone to stop doing something we cant handle? It might just show we care about them and want them in our lifes.

Concerning our hypothetical date that was never going to happen it would be considered incest..... remember Sis

oh yes one more thing a abusive person is just that they dont need a excuse.... drinking or not. so your not protecting yourself there that much.

I read your profile and I think your a little high in what your expecting in a man!!!!!!! Try fantasy land!!! Good luck!!!!

I had to really crack up at this one.

The woman says she's looking for a man who isn't a loser.

And this guy says to try fantasy land.

I guess he doesn't have a very high opinion of men on earth.

I don't think it is so unusual for an alcoholic person not to date people who drink. It just doesn't mesh. And I really don't want anyone giving anything up for me. If you enjoy your glass of wine each day, that is your right and you shouldn't have to give it up for anyone. Most women would have no problem at all with that; I have issues. They are my problem. So it's nothing against you; I never said that I don't like people who drink; I said I can't date people who drink. I think we all have preferences and we are entitled to that. I can flex on a lot of things but not that. Does that make me a bad person? Anyway, Moman, you live in Missouri and I live in PA. Dating is not really an option for us anyway.

I agree that abusive men are abusive men all the time, but it's just a bad connection that I have in my mind. Every time I have been woken up in the middle of the night, thrown through a window, had a pillow held on my face,had chunks of hair pulled out, it was by a guy who was drinking.It just brings back too many bad memories. Anyway, you don't really like fat chicks, I suspect. It's better this way.

What are the best places for a 50 female something to meet men?

I was a pretty heavy drinker till my mid 30s I never thought of myself as a alcoholc but other might. when I was in vietnam I probably drank a half a quart of wiskey a day. It never made me abusive thats something you either have or you dont. Im what you call a happy drunk just brings out the nice guy in me.I know some drunks are fighter you have all kinds of people that cant handle drinking.I did ok even in my heavy drinking days,I gave it up for health reason I just couldnt handle it with my aging the hangover were killing me. I didnt drink anything for about 8 years not one drop then started just have a glass of wine everyonce in a while when they started saying it was good for yor health.I dont drink every day. a gallon bottle could last a month or more. sometime I even forget to have a drink thats now less I could care about drinking. If i didnt see any health benfit i probably woundnt drink. one glass is nothing I get no effect from it. might as well drink grape juice only thing its sweeter.

as far as dateing heavier women I have no problem with that as long as they are healthy without medical problems. You forget I have been over weight all my life why would i use that for a lock out factor. who knows over weight better than me. I didnt get divorced from my wife because she was over weight it was becasue we didnt love each other. life is getting shorter its not worth spending it with someone you dont love anymore. now the distance thing is something thats hard to overcome. till two people meet in real life and see if there is some kind of chemistry you never know if your matched. all the photos in the world and emails cant do what nature can do in 30 seconds. any man that only looks at a woman on the outside isnt worth even considering . Most need to look in a mirror and see what they look like. Unless they have loads of money they shouldnt be so picky . the same goes for those women looking for mr right or their prince charming . some are prefect and can demand more. others have to be more honest with themself. but just like you they shouldnt settle for less than they will be happy with. Being healthy is my main weed out factor. I have spent enough time visitig the hospital. If a person has good health that usually means they are eating right getting exerise and not smoking or drinking too much.If a person has to drive around a parking lot looking for the parking place closet to the entrance rather that parking out back in the lot then they are avoiding a little exerise.

I read something in your profile which is probably a bigger weed out factor than distance that would be whats first in your llife.i know its your daughter and rightly so it should be that way. I was the same way thats why I stayed married so long, that and all my wifes medical problems. I learned a lesson from trying to live with some one if you dont come first in their life its not going to work. I would put who ever i lived with first even over my family now that they can care for themselfs. I see so many profiles with women listing what come 1st to them and if its not a man in their life they arent seriouly looking for one. they maybe just wanting a friend or someone to take them to dinner who knows what else . to me dating and friendship has to lead to something for what other reason was man and woman put on the earth than to live togeather and enjoy each other company. once the kids are gone the ture test of the marriage is there right in your face no work to hide behind.I think some guys work till they are dead just for that reason maybe some women do too. so we were doomed from the begining even before all the other factors came into play.

I think a man that demands to be first in a woman's life is an insecure man. A secure man knows he is loved and does not need a constant display of attention. Even once my daughter grows up I would not want to be with someone so needy. I need to have my own life and my own space and not be somebody's siamese twin. There are men out there who feel the same way.

Pharmacies?

Anyone ever try the gym?