For a widower like me who is looking for life long love second time, Finding someone is a lot like house hunting weather its in my country of origin Portugal or where I was brought up - Oman or my adopted country for more than 21 years - NZ. Everyone has a wish list - three bedrooms, walk-in pantry, fenced backyard, etc. Then your agent shows you an improbable house that meets none of your requirements. However, there's a quirky little room off the kitchen that's too small to be good for much, oddly situated. There you are, standing in it, and the afternoon sun is slanting in through the windows all buttery and warm, making everything golden. You envision bookshelves, a comfy chair, a side table for a glass of wine - and suddenly you NEED this house. Never mind the lack of closet space and the horrid carpet; you need the life you imagine for yourself in that room. Finding someone is just like that - any list of "requirements" goes right out the window when you meet the right person. I am looking for a woman who's happy with herself. Great if she is relaxed and have some goals of their own. It's pretty important to me that we match on things like wanting to work towards a committed relationship. Someone who understands how to form a connection with a person first, then let the feelings grow from there romantically. And it helps if you have moved on from your last heartbreak emotionally as well as physically before engaging with anyone new. I'm ready and hope you are at the same place in life.