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Dating but still no ring?
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Dating 8 years but man makes excuses about getting married? 8 years. You would know by now how much u love him, wedding ring or no wedding ring. He would know by now what will make u really happy. How marriage is important to u. You would both know by now what are your goals as a couple. What u want to achieve as a couple. Makes excuses. - even u acknowledge that those are just excuses and yet u stayed with him for 8 years -does that mean he makes u happy & complete even without marriage? 8 years ago did he promise a ring & marriage someday that is why u still hope? Because that means it is ridiculously long to keep a promise. U know, he will not marry u. or 8 years ago u both decided marriage is not that important in your relationship? That would be unfair for the guy. You stayed in the relationship for 8 years without marriage why change it now? Will it not put a strain to your healthy relationship? How big deal is marriage to u now? More big deal than making him happy & not pressured to do something he does not want? At the end of the day, the opinion of others will not matter, the big question will be which is more important to u, your relationship with him or your need to get married? |
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Gratitude List
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things I am grateful today:
1. leftover lasagna 2. black coffee 3. Suave Waterfall Mist Shampoo & Conditioner |
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Upbringing
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Do you think women need to be submissive to be a good wife? No. I see a lot of my office mates who are dominant but are good wives. Most them are married for more than 2 decades, that should say something. I see married couples too who shares control and it works for them perfectly. Case to case bases I guess. ----- Need to be submissive? Yes for me, personally hahahaha if I want to be a good wife, I really want a husband who can lead me, who can make me follow his orders and make good decisions for both of us. I know it is a bit archaic. But I value my independence so much and work hard to maintain it to make me just give it up or squander it with just anyone. He has to be someone who can make me submit and still make me love him & be loyal to him. Otherwise, being single is really not that bad  |
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The cost of dating
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So then, just sum yourself up in a word or two maybe. Bum; cheapskate; big spender; or what? Dutch Date. That way, no matter how the date will end, you will not feel u have just used someone or being used by someone. To dignify more than that would mean questions like - what if u will find another one hotter than your date? does that mean goodbye? what if u will find another one more generous & big spender than your date? does that mean goodbye? there will always be people hotter, sexier, more beautiful, more understanding, more compatible, who can spend more, give more - at the end of the day - it will always be not what u can give but what u can live with and respect with. Just my take. |
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After reading the link in Bustle, I would like to give my 2nd take. I actually find the whole thing sensible after reading & internalizing it. I do not agree with everything but I can see home truths in every corner and few lines. I just find some other things impractical, especially for career woman. Between the eating of junk food, movies, gossiping & road trip, crying & sleeping. I wonder if the woman's work will not be affected. I mean how many companies these days will allow an immediate Vacation Leave(VL) with pay for a week without valid reasons? Isn't it counter-productive to wallow in pain? A sensible woman will hold on more to her career, especially if her personal life is going thru rough times. The best course of action, normally is to bury yourself with work, challenge yourself to focus not on the pain but on your responsibilities. And let time heals. |
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No Players Please
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there is a very lovely definition of the word player earlier in the thread (hint: people PLAY games, players do too,, disingenuine and all about the win) Base on this^^^^ I would like to declare myself a player in the forum Ms. Harmony if I may. I want to interact in the forum, so I can get to know the person better and give a more accurate take to his/her persona. instead of running away to the opposite direction like I did on my 1st & 2nd month. It did not do me any good. It makes me just more confused of who is genuine & who is not. It is important to me that what is on the instant message match with what is on the forum, the only way I see, is to interact and not shy away from giving my own takes. |
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Gratitude List
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1. orange juice 2. bagel |
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dealing with girls
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How to treat girls accordingly Be yourself. Treat them the way you want to be treated. Interact with them. If the girl will run away, well tough luck, the brighter side is you dont have to always deal with someone you cant be yourself or who cant accept u. If she stays, bond, get to know more and always respects each others boundaries. I dont know with other girls this might not be true to all but most of us hates mind games. If we want to play mind games, we play chess against a computer and see if we can level up. We take time to express ourselves so we will know who can accept who we are, & not go through all the process of bs. We interact to see who can make us feel alive and good, who can make us laugh & think, & who can make our hearts beat faster than the usual. |
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No Players Please
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ok. Mot sure if this will take hold But,,, during any given month there are literally DOZENS of threads from 'nice guys' who feel like they are being overlooked,, and since we ladies dont have time to pick through every profile on mingle to decipher who is or isnt a 'nice guy',,,, I am opening up this thread as an opportunity for the good ones to speak up what separates you from the players? I really like the OP and am interested so I googled player(dating) than pretending to know what it exactly means  Player- A male who is skilled at manipulating ("playing") others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. Player - guy who is sustaining supposedly exclusive relationships with multiple girls simultaneously. A bit  How will the woman know that the man is really a player? How will the man know that the woman is really a player? Do we just have to take each other's words? Where can we draw the line? Is being sanguine on the forum tantamount to being a player? Is having crushes on the forum tantamount to being a player? Where can we draw the line of being played at? Is bantering on the forum considered playing at each other? When can we say we are being played at or we are just interacting with what is being posted? I thought the real thing is on the instant message, and it should match with what is on the forum. Is admiring someone in the forum tantamount to being a player? |
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Stranger Sex
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(No digs for guys, I know they have different set of standards and I always respect those) I just want to give my take: Sex is big deal for me Ms. Kitty, like love,family & money, I want realistic compatibility- but while it is very tempting when you are lonely & everyone is pushing you to do it, because it is the healthier thing to do, than being on a relationship, ( i am speaking of peer pressure inside the office) what always stops me is the idea that I am a woman & my set of principles since I dont have a God. what always stops me is the idea that I will be intimate with a stranger, and he can just kill me anytime, or abuse me anytime because he is stronger than me. It is always my need to be safe that stops me from giving in to the situation. I tend to always double check. I prefer to get to know the person well enough to assure me, I am safe with him. So, no strangers, even after meet & greet and coffee. It is very important for me, to get to know the person first. |
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Gratitude List
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3 things I am grateful for today:
1.Gatorade 2.Rubber shoes 3.New Hair Cut |
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A Few Clouds
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Edited by
chronicliar75
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Mon 10/12/15 12:01 AM
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http://www.strangeplaces.net/weirdthings/sex.html 1. But everybody looks funny naked! 2. You woke me up for that? 3. Did I mention the video camera? 4. Do you smell something burning? 5. (in a janitor's closet) And they say romance is dead... 6. Try breathing through your nose 7. A little rug burn ever hurt anyone! 8. Is that a Medic-Alert Pendant? 9. Sweetheart, did you lock the back door? 10. But whipped cream makes me break out 11. Person 1: This is your first time... right? Person 2: Yeah... today 12. (in the No Tell Motel) Hurry up! This room rents by the Hour! 13. Can you please pass me the remote control? 14. Do you accept Visa? 15. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ 16. On second thought, let's turn off the lights. 17. And to think- I was really trying to pick up your friend! 18. So much for mouth-to-mouth. 19. (using body paint) Try not to leave any stains, okay? 20. Hope you're as good looking when I'm sober... 21. (holding a banana) It's just a little trick I learned at the zoo! 22. Do you get any premium movie channels? 23. Try not to smear my make-up, will ya! 24. (preparing to use peanut butter sexually) But I just steam-cleaned this couch! 25. Got any penicillin? 26. But I just brushed my teeth... 27. Smile, you're on Candid Camera! 28. I thought you had the keys to the handcuffs! 29. I want a baby! 30. So much for the fulfillment of sexual fantasies! 31. (in a menage a trois) Why am I doing all the work? 32. Maybe we should call Dr. Ruth... 33. Did you know the ceiling needs painting? 34. I think you have it on backwards 35. When is this supposed to feel good? 36. Put that blender back in the kitchen where it belongs! 37. You're good enough to do this for a living! 38. Is that blood on the headboard? 39. Did I remember to take my pill? 40. Are you sure I don't know you from somewhere? 41. I wish we got the Playboy channel... 42. That leak better be from the waterbed! 43. I told you it wouldn't work without batteries! 44. But my cat always sleeps on that pillow 45. Did I tell you my Aunt Martha died in this bed? 46. If you quit smoking you might have more endurance... 47. No, really... I do this part better myself! 48. It's nice being in bed with a woman I don't have to inflate! 49. This would be more fun with a few more people.. 50. You're almost as good as my ex! 51. Do you know the definition of statutory rape? 52. Is that you I smell or is it your mattress stuffed with rotten potatoes? 53. You look younger than you feel 54. Perhaps you're just out of practice 55. You sweat more than a galloping stallion! 56. They're not cracker crumbs, it's just a rash 57. Now I know why he/she dumped you... 58. Does your husband own a sawed-off shotgun? 59. You give me reason to conclude that foreplay is overrated 60. What tampon? 61. Have you ever considered liposuction? 62. And to think, I didn't even have to buy you dinner! 63. What are you planning to make for breakfast? 64. I have a confession... 65. I was so horny tonight I would have taken a duck home! 66. Are those real or am I just behind the times? 67. Were you by any chance repressed as a child? 68. Is that a hanging sculpture? 69. You'll stil vote for me, won't you? 70. Did I mention my transsexual operation? 71. I really hate women who actually think sex means something! 72. Did you come yet, dear? 73. I'll tell you who I'm fanatasizing about if you tell me who you're fantasizing about... 74. A good plastic surgeon can take care of that in no time! 75. Does this count as a date? 76. Oprah Winfrey had a show about men like you! 77. Hic! I need another beer for this please 78. I think biting is romantic- don't you? 79. You can cook, too right? 80. When would you like to meet my parents? 81. Man: Maybe it would help if I thought about someone I really like... Woman: Yourself? 82. Have you seen "Fatal Attraction"? 83. Sorry about the name tags, I'm not very good with names 84. Don't mind me.. I always file my nails in bed 85. (in a phone booth) Do you mind if I make a few phone calls? 86. I hope I didn't forget to turn the gas oven off. Do you have a light? 87. Don't worry, my dog's really friendly for a Doberman. 88. Sorry but I don't do toes! 89. You could at least ACT like you're enjoying it! 90. Petroleum jelly or no petroleum jelly, I said NO! 91. Keep it down, my mother is a light sleeper... 92. I'll bet you didn't know I work for "The Enquirer" 93. So that's why they call you MR. Flash! 94. My old girlfriend used to do it a LOT longer! 95. Is this a sin too? 96. I've slept with more women than Wilt Chamberlain! 97. Hey, when is it going to be my friend's turn? 98. Long kisses clog my sinuses... 99. Please understand that I'm only doing this for a raise... 100. How long do you plan to be "almost there"? 101. You mean you're NOT my blind date? Educational. No wonder my friend says why wont u just try bungee jumping instead of online dating.. if they wont break your neck & heart the experienced men will scare you to death about sex hahaha Did not know it can really be this bad with sex? I hope the general idea of lovemaking is not as bad & as cold. The 1 to 101 is almost calculating & abrupt. Justsayin 
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Topic:
Expressions of Love
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Refer to this handy list of romantic sayings the next time you're looking for a special phrase to personalize a purchased greeting card, add variety to a love letter or email, include in a text, write on a bathroom mirror or use in a note tucked inside a book. http://www.yourtango.com/experts/jim-carrie-gordon/25-romantic-ways-say-i-love-you-expert 1. You, sweetheart, are my one and only. 2. You take my breath away. 3. Lovingly yours. 4. With you, forever won't be too long. 5. To the world's best wife! 6. When I see you, I think "Good job, God!" 7. You are the love of my life! 8. It's awesome to spend my life with you! 9. Love you, sweetheart! 10. I treasure you. 11. I adore you. 12. Sweetheart, you stir my soul! 13. I'm head over heels for you. 14. I cherish you. 15. You turn me on! 16. Life is incomplete without you. 17. To the one I love: 18. We were made for each other! 19. You're my soulmate and the love of my life. 20. You're one hot babe! 21. I'm looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together! 22. Sweetheart, you add peace, subtract sorrow and multiply joy in my life! 23. I can't even conceive of life without you. 24. The best thing in life is spelled Y-O-U! 25. You, my love, are my inspiration. Love can be expressed in many ways. Words and letters are but one method. There are little acts of love that hold more meaning than any words can. We should explore this... Mushy & Cool^^^^ At the end of the day they are just words. What will always count is if those words matter to the person we utter those words. You have up to No.25, right? may I dare add No. 26 just for the heck of it? #26. You dont make my life easier, but you really makes me feel alive, dam#n!  |
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Edited by
chronicliar75
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Sun 10/11/15 10:11 PM
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 http://www.bustle.com/articles/103423-how-to-get-over-a-breakup-lorelai-gilmore-style-in-7-simple-steps How To Get Over A Breakup Lorelai Gilmore-Style In 7 Simple Steps Lindsey Kupfer August 17 Entertainment Going through breakups are never easy, but everyone has his or her own method of moving on after a split. Some people bury themselves into their work, while other people hide and sob into a tub of ice cream (I am the second one minus the ice cream, plus several bottles of wine). Between watching Lorelai Gilmores relationships fall apart and her advice to help Rory move on, there are actually some valuable lessons we can learn from Lorelais coping/parenting methods with respect to getting over someone. Of course you have to keep in mind that Lorelai was always much better at doling out advice versus following her own advice, but isnt that how we all are? Lorelais way of coping with a breakup may seem unorthodox, but she makes some solid points as to why sometimes we need to do weird things in order to feel better. On top of that, its better that we take Lorelais break up advice than Rorys. I love the girl, but Rory Gilmore is the worst at break ups. Did anyone else notice how she never moved on from any of the three guys she dated over the course of the show? Lorelai may have had backslides, but everyone knew she was going to end up in the arms of Luke Danes. Anyways, we could all use a little Lorelai life lessons, so here is the Lorelai Gilmore guide to getting over a breakup. You'll thank me (and Lorelai) later. Step 1: Break Up Box  Collect everything in your room that reminds you of the person and put it in a box (yes, even Colonel Clucker). Hide the box, but do not throw it out. According to Lorelai, it might be nice to keep and remember things when you arent feeling sad about it. So pretty much bury it in the closet, never to be seen until youre 100 percent over this person. Step 2: Rent Bad Movies & Eat All The Junk Food  The next step to a Lorelai Gilmore breakup is to hunker down with terribly great movies (basically the Lifetime Movie Network) and a plethora of trash food from candy and chocolate to burgers, Chinese food, and anything else that you wouldn't dare test your stomach's endurance with if you weren't in desperate need of cheering up. Step 3: Wallow  Probably the most important step is wallowing. You have to wallow, cry, and sit around feeling terrible about the whole ordeal before you can get better. You cant just go on acting like nothing ever happened, because eventually it will all catch up to you. Think back to when Rory and Dean ended things. You must wallow because if you dont, you'll probably kiss Chad Michael Murray and then wallow in front of him, instead. Step 4: Tell The Gossip Chain  Tell the one friend you know will be the news bearer to everyone in town, a.k.a. your own personal Miss Patty, so you don't have to tell your sad break up story over and over again to everyone you know. Step 5: Road Trip  Sometimes Lorelai doesnt follow her own advice, but occasionally when youre feeling very pressured, you just need to get out. You need to hop in the car and just drive somewhere, so grab a friend and hit the road. Lorelai would tell you not to bring a map, but you absolutely need to remember music. Otherwise youre on a road trip with no music, which is a fate worse than death. Step 6: Call An Ex  I also never said Lorelai's guide to getting over a breakup was smart. Every time Lorelai breaks up with someone, she calls Christopher. Hes pretty much her I-need-attention-right-now kind of ex. I think most of us have that person and while its not smart, calling this person up actually might make you feel better. But whatever you do, dont call your most current ex. That move is more pain waiting to happen and is not Lorelai-approved. Step 7: Sleep It Off  Sometimes you just need to lie in bed for a week and alternate between sleeping and crying, especially if this break up is someone you were with for a long time and maybe even thought was the one. Eventually you will get up, but why push yourself before youre ready? Also, you can find yourself a Rory to bring you food in bed. Follow these steps and you'll bounce back just like Lorelai. And you'll get to feast on the best set-up of snacks known to womankind along the way. Win, win, win. First Reaction 2nd Reaction:  3rd Reaction: Checks the profile of the author of the OP Says: Crazy enough to be fun , grounded enough to have roots - Hmmmm..cool  4th Reaction: Shakes head & smiles ..aah yes the drama where are we?
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Magic Carpet...
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I used to dream of becoming a tennis pro
Of course it was just a dream. I used to dream of being on a Road Bicyle Racing. Of course until now I still dont know how to ride a bicyle |
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Topic:
Please be honest
Edited by
chronicliar75
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Sun 10/11/15 09:44 PM
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I love her but i know she is just using me. She is using me for money as well as sex. I cannot get over here. We have been together for more than 5 years. I can't do without her. What should i do? This may sound callous but you and the girl deserves each other. 5 years? Money & just sex? You cannot get over her? Even if for 5 years she is just using you for money & sex? Something is really wrong. And not just with the girl, if I may be upfront. I mean you. To allow her to do that to you. No. I wont believe you that you are in love with the girl. If you really love her and care for her, you will move heaven & earth to stop her from being that way. Even if you will hurt her in the process. Love does not gratify. Love corrects. Love disciplines. Love does not corrupts. Real love let go, if there is no other best course of action for both individuals to grow & be a better person. |
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I Love You
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Those 3 words...most abused by all..they can sound innocent, convincing, full of hope & blah...however, the next time a woman says those to you be very wary....coz it might be right before she Stabs you    Unknown_ Romeo  I love you..  |
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I Love You
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Those 3 words...most abused by all..they can sound innocent, convincing, full of hope & blah...however, the next time a woman says those to you be very wary....coz it might be right before she Stabs you Unknown_ Romeo I love you.. |
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I Love You
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Those 3 words...most abused by all..they can sound innocent, convincing, full of hope & blah...however, the next time a woman says those to you be very wary....coz it might be right before she Stabs you Unknown_ Romeo I love you..
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