I am really into Coldplay & Silverchair Music these days,
but I wanted to share what others might think as a song
of love (love song) for them, but has always been a
"song about life" in my perspective, everytime I listen to it.



"Ever Since The World Began"

I'll never know what brought me here,
As if somebody led my hand,
It seems I hardly had to steer,
My course was planned.
And destiny it guides us all,
And by it's hand we rise and fall,
But only for a moment,
Time enough to catch our breath again.

And we're just another piece of the puzzle,
Just another part of the plan,
How one live touches the other,
Is so hard to understand.
Still we walk this road together,
We travel through as far as we can,
And we have waited for this moment in time,
Ever since the world began.

Taking in the times gone by,
We wonder how it all began,
We'll never know and still we
Try to understand.
And even though the seasons change,
The reasons shall remain the same,
It's love that keeps us holding on
Till we can see the sun again.

(sigh) I love your reply post very much Ma'am

I prefer to savor it, dwell on it and smile about it,
instead of commenting on it.

Thank u very much

I checked it Sir.
Astrology software, it says.
I am not interested in reading it,
I dont have the time too.

Thank u for the suggestion though.

Thank u Ma'am

Yes, I am particular with
what I do not want in my life.

I will not really mind if I will be
not the best mother or best wife,
just as long as I will not
fail my future child or future husband,
I think Im already good with it.
I always like just being average

Your last 2 lines are so full of wisdom Ma'am,
I like it very much.

Thank u.

I am a bit sentimental
with regards to my books,
I canot throw them out

"People are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime"
- I agree word for word on this^^^

"Sometimes it is to learn 'how not to be'"

- I learn not to be comfortable with alcohol.
Only 1 bottle of beer after river trekking
or if I have lasagna or pizza for dinner,
if I run out of red wine.

- I learn not to be mindful if I took a different path
than others. I admit it is not the fastest way,
nor the easiest way,nor the most effective way,
but it is the path I choose that I am sure,
I will not lose myself in the process & give in to
other people's demand of how I should live my life.

I want to do it my own way SassyEuro2.

I wanted to get an honest opinion of others,
who are already ahead of me in experience,
regarding marriage & parenting.
Did their past make a more direct impact to them
or their childhood experience.

I pride myself, that I am one of those people
that can filter out honest opinions from
mischief & ridicule.
or from some preposterous off mark suggestions
to ridiculous insignificant/inconsequential garbages
that I cant understand & could not apply or relate
in my life.

I really can filter out SassyEuro2, not dead on
but after thinking it over and staying away from
politics.
Too misleading & confusing to follow in there.

Being in mingle forum actually gives me
enough input than reading books for so many years.
Interacting with them, makes me learn things
I only wonder on books.

"Sometimes it is to learn 'to walk away' "

-I am good at walking away without
looking back SassyEuro2.
10 years or 15 years is too short a
time to communicate again, if I choose
to walk away from people I love.

"Just ask yourself what you deserve & what you will & will not tolerate. And just live without over analyzing. "

- I love this very much ^^^
I really can learn from this.
I am still working hard to achieve this^^^

Thank u.

Thank u for the input.
I appreciate that u approach my OP
as a man instead of a male psychologist:)

Goes to say that what u are implying is,
it would still depend on me & the person
I will choose to become my partner.
But I have always wondered the probability:)

Anyway, books are good. It gives u an explanation
why others behaves as such.
Sometimes, a woman just wonders
if she will be fit to be a good wife or a nurturing mother.
Or will I be better off as being single.

I like rubiks cube too.
But there are just things that are
too important, to just base on logic
& intelligence.
There are just important things,
that mind, heart & soul should in
be in one first before a person will
make life changing decision

Am I a bad person?
Im average. I have bad attributes.
But I also have good ones.
In my opinion I am a bad daughter though.
It took me many years to contact my parents again.

Every adult knows what is right & wrong,
but mostly it is the application that I am
concern about.

Whether we admit it or not,
our past is what made us who
we are now.But it is also not
something to be ashamed of.

U peg me right on that,
I am mindful of what makes me
who I am now,
but it still remains to be seen
if I would indeed let my past
affect me being a woman that I am now.
Or how it will affect me, if I will
become a wife or a mother someday:)

Looking back,
I never excelled
in anything:)

I love Math, but
Math does not love me.
(ever since I can remember
my lowest grade was always Math )

Always the average,
no bad grades but
never been on the top
of the class.

Im a big fan of sports in
school but always as a spectator.
I do not like competing.

To maintain my scholarship,
I am required most of the weekends
on Out Reach Programs,
so I get to travel most of
the time to some indigenous tribes
& teach children Alphabets &
Basic Addition & Subtraction.

It was in my college years that I learn
to love tennis, loves to jog, & get
fascinated so much with river trekking
& mountain climbing.

I do not know how to draw & paint
but I have always love Art,
Anything about Art fascinated me.
Im a huge fan, that is what makes me
interested & in love with History,
Ruins & Museums.

I did not finish College:)

I am really curious about this.

I have an almost next to nil experience
on relationships and I am kind of
curious Minglers, what will have a more
direct impact or effect,
if ever I will get married & be a parent.
My childhood experience or my
traumatic experience after I left home?

I have read a lot of books but somehow
they did not make any sense or impact to me
on this.

Say my childhood is average experience.
Pampered because I have 2 protective
brothers and doting parents.
Their only cardinal rule is no
riding of bicycles.
Protect the legs hahahahaha.

Another thing though, my father might be 1
of the best father in my corner
of the world but he will not be in the
best husband top 1000.

My father has issues with whiskey.
He fights with my mother in front
of the 3 of us, if he is drunk,
but is sweet & apologetic when
he is sober which is 80% of the time.

Will that have an effect on me when I
get married? As an adult I can now
accept the smell of whiskey without
misgivings?
What will be the probability that it will
affect my being a mother or a wife,if
I will decide to marry & have a kid?

Then about being the youngest and only daughter,
pinching is the strongest disciplinary
action I get.

The downside is, if u get all the
attention, u crave for freedom.
U crave to be taken seriously.

No matter how serious my question is
about life, or about our family
or about the government, my brothers
have the tendency to just find it
so hilarious.

98% of the time,they just laugh
so hard but never answer my
questions, of course my parents
think I just read too much.

In my arrogance & my need of freedom
I walk away from home.
Without the protection of my parents,
brothers & bestfriends, I did not
know life is really quiet hard.

Then that traumatic experience happened.

After that, I never wanted to go home.
I did not even contact them for so many
years.
I feel that I will just be a burden to
them.

But I was already adult at that time?
Will it have more impact on me
when I get married?
will my traumatic experience makes
me probably a bad wife or bad mother?
if I will choose to get married?

I want to know the probability
if with the combination of an
undisciplined-pampered childhood
and a traumatic experience in your
20's will actually make u a bad wife or
a bad mother?

What do u think is the probability
Minglers?

Does anyone here in Mingle has the same
experience and still get married?
Did it affect your marriage?

Is there a possibility that it will be
a doomed marriage, from the start,even if u
will choose your partner carefully?

Can anyone live a bachelor life?

I dont know with other people
but for me - Yes, of course u can.



I do not think it has something to
do with your being bachelor
or the lack of sex hahahaha.

Why?
Because of your question -
"Is sex a need or just a game for enjoyment?"

You are suspecting that u are starting to be
unhappy just because of sex or lack of sex?

Think.

I like this very much Ms. Crystal^^^

My ex was and is still the best that ever happened in my life,
but my ex was and is still is my biggest failure:)

It taught me that no matter how hard you try
& give your best, if in the end, it will hurt the
one u love most, then I have to walk away.

Makes me think of one the Carpenters' song

If the person u like or love believes
that being who u are right now is not enough.
Chances are, no matter what u will do,
u will never be enough for that person:)

Be proud of who u are.
Be proud of what u are.
Dont be what that person, want u to be,
just because u want that person to love u.

Do not lose yourself for the sake of love.
If its the real thing, it normally
brings out the best in u, it will complement u.
It will complete u.

I know it sounds idealistic.
But if u will take time to think about it,
it is the most basic.

Sunscreen - Baz Luhrman

Ladies and Gentleman,
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering experience...
I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth;
oh never mind; you will not understand the power
and beauty of your youth until they have faded.

But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos
of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
how much possibility lay before you and
how fabulous you really looked...
You're not as fat as you Imagine.

Don't worry about the future; or worry,
but know that worrying is as effective
as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life
are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind.
The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts,
don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy;
Sometimes you're ahead,
Sometimes You're behind.
The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults;
If you Succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know
what you want to do with your Life.
The most interesting people I know
didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't,
maybe you'll have children,
maybe you won't, maybe you'll divorce at 40,
maybe you'll dance the funky chicken
on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don't Congratulate yourself too much
or berate yourself either.

Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can...
Don't be afraid of it, or what other people Think of it,
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own...

Dance... even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings;
They are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,
but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography
and lifestyle because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard;
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise,
politicians will Philander, you too will get old,
and when you do you'll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable,
politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse;
but you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair,
or by the time you're 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy,
but, be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
and recycling it for more than it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen..

Compatibility Isaac is
important to others.

Not the best of the best
but someone who u would
be sure u can live with for
the rest of your life.

Others take time in choosing
because they do not want
trial & errors.

Others take time in choosing
actually because marriage is
sacred for them and they want
what their parents have.
They wanted their own family
raised the way they
were raised.

Because there are still people
who do not want to make babies
outside marriage.

Because there are still people
who wish that if ever they have
children they should be raised in
a traditional way,
than what it is now in the
modern world.

To each of his/ her own I guess on this.

Ariel u may want to ponder on this more^^^
if I may dare say, give it more a thought-
it may change an angle in your perspective.




If I may suggest,
u might want to read this advice from Ms. Crystal
twice or thrice Ariel & internalize it.

Because your OP did indeed sound like- because
of your parents choices & mistakes,
u have that kind of perspective.

Remember, those are your parents choices
Ariel.They have their own lives to live,
u have yours.
Would u really prefer they stayed together
miserable with each other,
than having separate lives & be happy
with someone else?
I may not go as far as calling it a trauma
when parents get divorce but it may be
the main factor why you have
such opinion of marriage at such a young age.



In fairness to the 19 year old girl Ms. Crystal
I think she is just terrified of loving someone
because her parent's marriage did not work out.
She even go as far as saying that she wants to
actually meet someone who can make her happy.

Which even me as an adult can relate.
She is just 19 years old, she is not pushing
someone away.She just have a bad concept of
marriage.

I beg to disagree Ma'am, with all due respect:

"that it is a path of self-sabotaging
& hurting another people in the process."

She is not even allowing someone to
be in her life yet, though she wanted to.

I feel her, I actually can understand where she is
coming from.
I am an adult, but I am skeptical & scared of
marriage even if my own parents never get
separated.

Ariel just thought that marriage is the
worst thing that can happen to someone.
Her reasons are valid.

To say that she is hurting & needed healing
is I guess a bit too much.
Why would she suck out the life of someone
just because she is cautious & wary
about marriage?
I have witness few couples that are happy,
productive & going stronger without the benefit
of marriage in their relationship.



With all due respect for this^^^
I will still beg to disagree.
I say let Ariel take her time.
She is young, her convictions
are not but impressionable.

There is nothing wrong with being
cautious, skeptical & preserving
oneself.
Especially about as sacred as
marriage.

Life anyway has always a way
of teaching us, what is worth it
and what is not.

Dust In The Wind

I close my eyes, only for a moment, and the moment's gone
All my dreams pass before my eyes, a curiosity
Dust in the wind
All they are is dust in the wind

Same old song, just a drop of water in an endless sea
All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see
Dust in the wind
All we are is dust in the wind


Now, don't hang on, nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky
It slips away
And all your money won't another minute buy
Dust in the wind
All we are is dust in the wind
All we are is dust in the wind
Dust in the wind
Everything is dust in the wind
Everything is dust in the wind
The wind

5:24 PM
Monday
November 30, 2015
Pasig, Philippines

From observing people & learning
from them, there a lot of people
like u who finds marriage the worst
thing that can happen to them.
Mostly I know though are males.

If I may dare say,
u are still 19 years old Ariel,
marriage might not be for everybody,
but there is also the possibility,
that it could also be the best
thing that can happen to u.

My parents married at a young age
and until now, even though
all of us, their 3 children
have already left home & have
our own respective lives,
they are still together.
They have pets, they have
each other.They wither the odds.

If I may dare say,
take your time.
Learn from life,learn from
other people.
It might change your perspective
of things.



U are 19 years old.
Not a time to be terrified.
Time to take on the world.
If there is a time to make
mistakes, it is when u are young
hahahahaha.

Just know when to draw the line.
Learn to preserve yourself.
What will always define u
are the decisions u have
made for yourself.
Know what is important to u.
Know what is worth fighting for
or not?

Dont take my word for this,
find out for yourself,
but there is love that lasts
till death.
I've seen & witness it from other
couples.
I have never been married & I too am
skeptical & scared of marriage
but it is sacred Ariel.
It will take all of u to
choose the right for u to make it work.
Others find their suitable partner for them
the first time around, others after a few tries.

It will always depend on u
and to the man u want to spend
the rest of your life with.



What is to fear of love?
Maybe u mean the consequences
of loving someone?
Educate yourself more.
Read more.
Learn from others mistakes.

Never mind how old u are
before u will be ready to
say, "u are prepared to
tackle love," because
even if u are not ready
Ariel, sometimes life has
a way of throwing u a curve ball.
And the only thing u can do is
do your best & handle it the best
way that u can without
destroying yourself &
the one u are in love with.

At the end of the day,
it is what makes u at peace,
happy & positive about life
that counts.
With or without a partner,
your choice.

This is another open letter
from a person whose country
enjoys Mutual Defense Treaty
(USA-Philippines) since August, 1951.

With the Enhanced Defense Cooperation
Agreement (EDCA)last April, 2014 in mind,
I from my country would humbly
like to give my appreciation &
full support of the US Military.

We not only like the fact that u are
nearby, but it is your military
superiority that gives a level of
assurance & security, in
International Military Affairs.

Your state of the art technology
& medicine never failed us
during emergencies & natural disasters.

We more than respect, appreciate
& admire your Military superiority,
most of all we value the
sacrifices u have made
in the name of Freedom & Democracy.

7:41 PM
Sunday
November 29, 2015
Pasig, Philippines