My parents are still devout Catholics.
I am not, since College days.

My parents are never interested in Politics
as far as I know.
I have always been interested in Politics,
ever since.

I grew up in a household not having much
in terms of finances.
But my mother always makes sure we do not
sleep with empty stomach.
My lifestyle maybe different now, because
of the career I've chosen, but part of me
always wanted to live a simple non-urban life,
like my parents do.

For 2 years now I am in night shift in the office &
few months now in graveyard shift.
And work on Christmas & New Year Holidays.
I have decided recently, that no matter what,
I will do my best to change this kind of lifestyle.
Someday I will start my day with sunrise &
end it too with sunset.
Just like my parents do.

Boulevard of Broken Dreams - Green Day

I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don't know where it goes
But it's home to me and I walk alone

I walk this empty street
On the Boulevard of Broken Dreams
Where the city sleeps
And I'm the only one and I walk alone

I walk alone
I walk alone
I walk alone
I walk a...

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
'Til then I walk alone

Ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-ah, aaah-ah,
Ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-ah

I'm walking down the line
That divides me somewhere in my mind
On the border line
Of the edge and where I walk alone

Read between the lines
Of what's ****ed up and everything's alright
Check my vital signs
To know I'm still alive and I walk alone

I walk alone
I walk alone
I walk alone
I walk a...

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
'Til then I walk alone

Ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-ah, aaah-ah
Ah-ah, ah-ah

I walk alone
I walk a...

I walk this empty street
On the Boulevard of Broken Dreams
Where the city sleeps
And I'm the only one and I walk a...

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
'Til then I walk alone...

http://youtu.be/aGzgoSg5OZg

Unconditional love for me means-

- loving the person with all of my heart despite
my "standards & conditions" of what is love should be.

- accepting the person that someday,
there are days, this person I choose to love
will fail me, will hurt me, will misunderstand me,
but even with that knowledge,
I still feel the need to show my best & worst for that person.
I still feel the need to be apart of that person's life.




No. I do not have someone right now.

Right now, I do not have anyone in real life and in Mingle
who even comes close to make me think about acceptance.

Right now, I do not even find anyone interesting to call a "crush".
Right now, it is even an effort to just be "interested enough" to read someone's post.

I promise myself, that if & when I will have the chance
to experience this "unconditional love"

I will make sure that everyone I interact with will know.
I will place it is in my blurb.
I will post it in the forum & fb.

Why?
Because unconditional love for me means, being proud of your choice.
Because unconditional love for me means, it should not be a secret.
Because unconditional love for me means, everyone should know that
you are in relationship with that someone.
Because unconditional love for me means, u do not particularly care what other people will say to both of you, you just want to let the world know that you have found each other & love each other.

I really like this " Promise Myself" Piece from
the Quote of the Day Thread.

I like it and ended up internalizing it.
And it makes me want to express myself



Please do not make me promise to be strong.
May I promise instead to survive the blow.
Take it in stride & walk at my own pace,
at my own terms, & live as I choose to?

Health,Happiness & Prosperity
is for everybody to talk about.
Health,Happiness & Prosperity
is not for everybody to just grab.
It is only for people who
can convince & will themselves
to be healthy, happy & prosperous.

Please do not make me promise to be
optimistic & gentle always with my friends.
Like me, sometimes they need harsh words,
and not compliments.
Like me, sometimes they just need someone
to listen to, and not necessarily agree with them.
Like me, sometimes they need a dose of reality,
for them to grow & be a better person.

Please do not make me promise to only expect the best.
I cannot, will never will. My best maybe mediocre for others.
Please do not make me promise to be
enthusiastic of others success,
I really sometimes envy them,
and wish that I can be as successful as them.
That is the sad part of me.
I promise instead to give my best
to keep up with them.
I promise instead to give my best
to be diligent & work harder
to be like them someday.

Please do not make me promise to forget
the mistakes of the past.
Those mistakes are part of who I am now.
Those mistakes made me what I am now.
That is why I cant always be cheerful.
There are just days I need to cry.

Please do not make me promise always to improve myself.
Sometimes, I dont want to budge & just be stubborn.
Sometimes, I really resent changes & even progress.
Sometimes, I am just too scared to even try to change myself.
But I can promise to learn at my own pace.
I can promise to strive harder to be a
better person someday.
Just dont please rush me.
I want to take it one day at a time.

Please do not make me promise not to criticize others,
I am still working on my being tactless & being disagreeable.
I always end up "criticizing words" of other people.
I always feel this need to give my own perspective.
Even if it sometimes hurt me & other people
I am interacting with.


Please do not make me promise -
"To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear"
It is never possible for me. Even if I live a 100 & 20.
I just cant. I dont have it in me.
May I promise instead to be not always a worrier.
May I promise instead to be slow in anger.
May I promise instead to face my fears, not as someone too strong
but as someone too stubborn to admit defeat without even trying.


Please do not make me promise to think well of myself.
There are just realllllly days that I hate myself.
There are just days I hate myself for the decisions I've made.
There are just days I hate myself the way I treated other people.
There are just days I hate myself for saying the wrong things.
There are just days I hate myself for not holding back.
There are just days I hate myself for feeling
more emotions than others.
There are just days I hate myself for just being myself.
May I promise instead to accept myself.
May I promise instead to be kinder to myself.
May I promise instead to manage on my own.
May I promise instead to give my best shot.
May I promise instead to shove back hard at life,
with all the will & strength I have in me.

It actually did change sir hahaha
I was initially looking for my Mr. NeverBeAlone.

After almost 90 days,
I still keep on misinterpreting posts.
I am barely on the same page with everyone.
I'm beginning to wonder, if i can really keep up hahaha

I decided to just interact in the forum.
Educational. Healthier.
Safer in getting to know people by reading
their posts.

I am posting this song-

In honor of the authors of the thread:
1."Dating but still no Ring"
2."Married Lesbians"

and to all Minglers who can relate-


this is just a reckless suggestion,
feel free not to mind it:

if this song can make you smile
& feel sentimental
then hold to your partners,
be grateful with what u have.
be contented with what u have.
other singles like me
can only dream with what you have.
You have it in your grasp.
Give your best shot to make
the relationship work,
strive harder to make,
happy memories together

if this song,echoes & pierces your soul,
then there is a hollow,
your partner does not complete u,
in a way that will make u both
happy & fulfilled.
Be kind to yourself & to your
partner.
Find courage to walkaway.
Give yourself both a chance to
be a better person with someone
else who can both complete u.

Please do not mind the lyrics,
word for word,it will
defeat its purpose.
focus on the music,
what it evokes inside
yourself.

where Do I Go From Here - England Dan

Autumn days
Lying on a bed of leaves
Watching clouds up through the trees
You said our love was more than time
But it's colder now
The trees are bare and the nights are long
I can't get warm since youve been gone
And I can't stop singing sad songs

[Chorus:]
Where do I go from here?
Tell me where do I go from here
You said you'd take me through the years
So where do I go from here?
Where do I go from here?
Tell me where do I go from here
You said you'd take me through the years
So where do I go from here?
Lovers plans
Like falling leaves on windy days
Flutter past and then fly away
I thought I know you oh so well
And I need you now
I need to feel you in the night
I need you smiling so warm and bright
I wish my mind could let you go

https://youtu.be/sDdyA7Ka40Q
----------------------

My long way of saying, let us try to give our best shot
in real life outside mingle.
We owe it to ourselves. Dont u think?

I initially registered to Mingle
to find my date of a lifetime.
A kindred spirit that will be
compatible with my personality.

After of almost 90 days in Mingle,
my rose-tinted glasses of online
dating crushed:)
I am still dusting off the
shattered fragments hahaha

I choose to not date online yet.
I just found out, I lack the
full knowledge on how it should be.
I do not want to hurt myself more
than what is necessary to adjust,
instead of making myself happy & someone else.

I choose to be cautious.
I choose to be skeptical.

I choose instead to:

-not loose hope
-not to be discourage
-be optimistic

that is why,

I choose to always go back
in Mingle to interact in the
the forum.
Get to know people by reading
their posts.
Not by reading my instant messages.


With instant messages
I automatically block them,
if they are not from the forums.
If I wanted that sort of thing,
I will date in real life,
not on online dating.

I choose to always go back
in Mingle to express myself
and my individuality
by answering posts.

I choose to always go back
in Mingle to keep up,
learn from my experience,
& from others experiences,
improve my English grammar
& comprehension.

Maybe someday i will try dating online
or maybe never.
For now, I am contented,
expressing myself & my
individuality.

u are a mother.
u are a wife.
(some single women like me can only fantasize )
yet u still feel alone?

that.should.tell.u.that.something.
is. very.wrong.

u are depressed.
u should be.
u are hurting yourself
& your family
by being unhappy with what u have.

everyone knows that in
varying degrees all humans are selfish.

How bout your husband?
do u think he is not depressed
just because he is very supportive?

How bout your children?
do u think they wont know & feel
if their parents are unhappy
with each other?

I dare to say,
find courage to
stop using your husband Ma'am
as a shield & protector.
Be ashamed at least on that
aspect, he is the father of your
children.
He deserves more than that.

I dare to say,
find courage to
stand on your own 2 feet.
Face violence & being disowned
by your family or any other
issues that affects the lives of
your immediate family.
You owe them that.
You owe it to yourslef.

I dare to say,
find courage to be kinder to yourself
and to your husband.
You deserve to be with someone who can
make you happy, not depressed & alone.
Your husband deserves to be with someone
who will love him and want him only.
Your husband deserves freedom
to be with someone who can make him complete,
not just as a protector.

I dare to say,
your children deserves
parents that are happy with
their choices than parents
who choose to be unhappy both
for their sake.

No.


Pansytilly?

Treading slowly to keep up
and learning at the same time.

peace of mind for everyone

yup hahaha..

Ms. Annie?

No.
Pansytilly? (hahaha, just wishing, I miss the girl)

Ms. Storm?

What makes your knees buckle?

Holding hands privately

While it is so uncomfortable & awkward
for me to hold hands in public,

but when a man holds my hand privately
even if we dont talk & just listen to music
it makes my knees buckle.

It is just melting haha

things I am grateful today:

1. acoustic guitar
2. flowers
3. Non-flowering plants

The pictures are good.
Your blurb is a good read.

Good luck in your search.
Welcome to Mingle.

I actually like the take of the OP a bit
regarding- The cold hard facts of online dating
Especially about the
"old fashioned way and face your fears and go talk to people"
but with all due respect,
I would beg to disagree on few things
about the benefits of dating online -

In real life date
people dress & cologne,
you would think physical appearance is everything,
and not personality & compatibility.

In Mingle (dating site)
people read & interpret words
it holds more credence than any pictures u posts
or lack of pictures
You could actually check & dwell more
on personality & compatibility.

In real life date
people eat a hearty meal,
enjoy some music & lots of laughter
& always keep their distance so
nothing will be construed as something serious while
both are still getting to know each other if they are compatible.
And yet put their best "foot" forward.
Ironic.Tiresome.Monotonous & Predictable.

In Mingle (dating site)
people just express themselves by
answering posts, to get a better
take at each other,
-everyone has a choice to believe
each others word or not.
-everyone has a choice to put
his/her best or worst"foot' forward.
-everyone has a choice to just have
fun or want to be emotionally involve.

In real life date-
U cant even get to know the person
better behind the gentleman smiles,
& unrealistic attention to details.

So a 2nd date & 3rd date is in order.
And people have to make
room with it in their busy schedule
and for what?

Another predictable, almost
scripted date?- u would almost wish
the guy would put his worst
foot forward first,
to see if u are compatible or not
and skip the uneccessary bs

In Mingle (dating site)
-everyone has a choice at his/her own pace
-u could even take a break in
getting to know a person for as long as u want,
before u make a choice or not make a choice at all.

In real life date -
Women have to be picky & cautious
if u do not want to go home
after a date
with bruised wrist, bruised
forearm and a cut lip because
there are just men, who are
very gentlemanly in words & gestures
but when u dont give them what they
want, they resort to violence.
U feel the need to teach them a lesson.

In Mingle (dating site)
people still need to be picky,
even extra cautious & skeptical,
but u dont get bruises.
yes u get rejected & bullied,
but u only actually get hurt
if u allow people to get in your head
& under your skin.
U learn to get up, dust yourself off,
take it in stride & learn from the
experience.

In real life date-
personal growth & new knowledge
is almost next to nil.
Your date feels the need to compete
& prove who has better income,
better job, better lifestyle to
keep up & convince u to merit
a 2nd date of getting to know each other.

In Mingle (dating site)
you do not need to compete with anyone,
it is illogical & unnecessarry
if u want to keep up, u can take your own path,
at your own pace,
you can take your time to learn & figure out,
u can actually learn from other
people's experiences by just reading
and observing instead of participating.
Personal growth is very possible & within your reach
if u are diligent & willing enough to improve yourself.

My long way of saying-Physical Appearance??
Not that important compared to personality
& compatibility online for me

My experience are quiet good with Dutch Date.
Decent, lots of laughter & music.
Dutch Date is actually common here not just on romantic dates but
also on team buildings & group dates



Well I disagree with him from my own personal experience
I always insist on first date that it is a dutch date.
If there is a second date & I like him enough for a 3rd date, I will allow him to pay for the 2nd date, because I know I will insist on paying for the 3rd date.hahahaha

In that way, even if we dont find each other compatible,
no hard feelings. No one feels like someone gets an upperhand.
We move on and laugh about it

This is what I mean with dutch date Ms. Crystal

"Going Dutch" is a term that indicates that each person participating pays for themselves, rather than any person paying for anyone else, particularly in a restaurant bill. It is also called Dutch date, Dutch treat (the oldest form) and "doing Dutch".

It is common in the corporate world.
Especially among yuppies.



Personal experience...
If I insist that we split the bill we split the bill.
I dont want to owe my date anything.
So he will know, he cant demand anything from me.
And it doesnt mean I will never date him again.

Dating him again will depend on how the first date went through.
Chemistry? Laughter? Compatibility?
Splitting the bill is just a way of saying
to me, respect my boundaries, we are just getting to
know each other yet.

Individuals would always differ on how they define love.

For me, to suggest that u fall in love before u meet
sounds untrue & even ominous.

Attracted. Yes.
Interested. Yes.
The person makes u feel alive.Yes
The person makes u self-reflect. Yes.
The person makes u actually want to be good for someone for a change. Yes.
The person makes u feel variety of emotions (negative & positive). Yes.
The person makes u heart beat faster than the usual. Yes.
Emotions is prevalent even if your mind says stop. Yes.


Is that love? No,it is not for me.

There is a big probability that it can
turn to love
if the feelings are mutual
after they have confirmed,
if what they are
both declaring in the internet is true.
And the chemistry & emotions are still
prevalent when they meet in person.

There is a big probability that it can
turn to love,
if both are interested enough & attracted
enough to each other to take a risk
and get to know each other
and date each other online,
& see if they are really compatible
enough that it will merit
courage to both individuals to meet
in person.




I have long distance relationships with my brothers
& parents until now. Not ideal, and not that good as I
would like it to be.

Do I believe on romantic long distance relationship?

I am skeptical.
But I choose to hope
I never have one yet. I do not know if it will work.
I do not know too, if I will have the courage to
actually try, after I will get to the part where
I will find someone who can makes my heart beats faster
than the usual or makes me feel alive. Hahahahaha

Only time will tell.