Well, from what I'm seeing, your way isn't working out, right? All you're doing is pissing her off, correct? And as for going from person to person, I don't see anything wrong with that, if you're seeking a specific trait in a person- especially maturity. I do however, see a problem with staying with someone you're obviously not happy with, just because it's "what you do." People break up all the time, it happens. And I don't consider that a "perversion of culture" I consider it common sense. If something isn't working, you end it and hopefully find something that does.

And as for people remaining single, you're assuming everyone wants to be in a relationship. Um, no, I'm quite happy single and I'm soo not looking to change that. But thanks for the intended barb. Nice try and better luck next time.

No, I think it's just okay for guys to do that.

I don't think he wants to break up.

Yeah, I know. I'm just trying to figure out what's going on, you mentioned his religion, so I wondered if that was it. But then, yeah, if it was okay the first month, it should be okay now. I just think he's making up excuses for whatever reasons. That would annoy me.

So you don't believe in breaking up? Fine then, give her what she wants and stop being friends with other women. Problem solved.

I really need to go to bed.

Thank you. You've put it so well.

Oh, okay. Well, you need to decide which is more important, your friendships with the other women, or your relationship with her.

So does his religion consider kissing without the benefit of marriage to be a sin or something? If so, I guess maybe that's where he's coming from. Maybe he does love you, but if he's following some strict code of his faith, that explains it.

Now I'm confused. And I hate to be confused.

You're trying to put words in people's mouths. We're saying what we're saying, there is no "hidden meaning" and the last time I checked, I was pretty good at writing, so I know my words are clear. I've said repeatedly that I see nothing wrong with opposite sex friendships, you're the one who seems to see something wrong with them and you seem to be seeking validation for your opinion. As long as you're just friends with these women, and the same goes for your gf/wife, I don't see a problem. I don't believe in double standards, so you can stop thinking that right now. As long as you're not screwing these women or acting inappropriately it shouldn't be a problem.

Eh, I just thought that was the difference between guys you're friends with and guys you're dating, one you don't kiss and one you do, but that's just me. Also, it's very easy for a guy to say one thing and do another, especially if he thinks his words will get him what he wants, whatever the hell that is.

So now you're saying men can't help hitting on a hot woman no matter what?

Stephen King, Bentley Little, Mary Higgins Clark, and whoever wrote the Alex Cross books, his name escapes me....

You said you make friends with women just because she makes friends with men, that, to me, is spiteful. It's one thing if you just happen to become friends with a woman naturally, but to actually go out and say "I'm going to befriend this woman just to get back at my gf/wife" not because you have common interests or just get along, only because you know it will piss off your S.O., yeah, that's not cool or mature.

Hi Bee!

Maybe I'm dimwitted, but shouldn't the friendship part happen before the kissing part, so when you get to the kisses, you don't have to "slow down?" I think he's making excuses to cover a deeper problem. Either you're in a relationship or you're just friends, you can't be both.

Yes, this is the only thing that bothers me as well. It's one thing if you happen to have a female friend, but to go out and get one for spite is high school behavior.

I never said you shouldn't hang out with other women. I don't believe anyone has the right to tell you who to be friends with. I don't care if you're married or not, you're still free to choose your own friends. I choose to believe that humans are above animals and they can be around a member of the opposite sex without wanting to **** them, but apparently I'm in the great minority. Whatever.

Actually, I used to get mails from guys pissed off because I was here for friends. I never understood that. They were like but it's a dating site. Yeah, well, I don't see it that way because I'm not here for dating.

Maybe she thought he was criticizing her personal grooming habits?