She is just hiding her light under a bushel. I am going to find her a great guy if it is the last thing I do! Navy Girl rocks!

Sorry I LOVE great chocolate or sweets in general but it pales in comparison to true love making.

Do I NEED love making, oh h-ll yes, but can I live with out it. Yes again.

Will I ever quit hoping, praying, seeking the person I can truely love and make love too someday? NO WAY!!!!!!!! That would be like asking be to give up on the universe. Not happening.

Notice I say "Love Making" which is not just sex. Any idiot can do sex. Not exactly like man parts don't pretty much universally fit woman parts. And both men anwomen have the "substitute" parts to get you by. lol

Because HepC is so common a complication from unsterile pierceing and Tats I think I would have a requirement that they have a serious time volunteering at a dental clinic, hospital, skilled nurseing facility, or dyalissis unit ( sorry I think I flubbing my spelling for sure)so they see the hidden long term effects.

HUGE Part of my very conservative views about sexual activity are from doing Hospice care. Granted this is not a "sexual thing" but you are going to bleed and contamination in the mouth is no joke.

Neither are failed teeth. It only takes damageing one to set you back the price of a car because teeth tend to have a domino effect. Kids are savy about money if you expalin it to them. GIving them an excuse helps them resist the pressure of their peers.

I was not above useing car keys as leverage on several issues. Some things are just that important and I told my kids that is why so it was something they agreed to. And I told them tell your friends I am a Master Sgt. ***** Mom if it makes it easier for you. We'd laugh about it but it did help them. It actually kept one of their friends from getting a belly ring because I made it known I would not allow her in our pool. The kids loved coming around because they could have fun but things didn't get out of control.

I am not into break up drama.

I make it clear what the boundries are and the consequences if you break them. I play by the rules and expect the same. If someone doesn't I am not going to scream and shout and sure as heck not going to beg anybody. Living around military communities where there are five men to ever woman you don't have to.

If I break up with someone it is way past the crying thing. Generally it is total shock and awe because they come home and I am so gone they haven't a clue where I am. I have always had my own means so never been where I had to stay and take anyones BS.

Over the early years I have had the whole crying, pleading, "please give me another chance" crap from a couple guys but if I have gotten to "gone" they are wasteing their time. I am not coming back and they are done.

I have had one Ex that liked to have his side stuff on the road but I left him and he was ballistic for a long while; but I moved half a country away and took the kids enrolled them in school in someone elses name so he thought I was re-married years before I actually did.

Here in California I had a guy with grown kids get loud mouthed in a store and I walked away and store security handled him. He sent his adult kids to plead his case, flowers, blubbering phone messages but that got him nothing but a no contact order. That really pissed me off more than made me sad. His friends/family busted his chops about it a long time. Shopping Center banned him for life.

Blocked a couple scammers on their on line stuff but never actually went out with someone that went through the hole break up thing with. If I don't like someone I just stop taking the calls or they don't call me because I make it clear I don't play.

When you don't put out, shack up, borrow money, accept a lot of gifts, or bring them home it is easy to bow out without drama.

Even breaking up engagements a couple times you just hand them the ring and walk away. Usually they are in shock because I don't do the whole *****, piss, and moan thing and I do it in a safe public place where I can prove I gave the ring back.

One time this rich bastard though he was hot stuff and I got enough of it. I handed him the ring back at his hoity toity country club and said he didn't want it. I called the waitress over to get my check, expecting to be escorted out, and the lead waitress ask if she could have it; he said he didn't care thinking I would try to get it, and she walked off with a half a carat. He tried to be pissy about it with her and the judge said she had to claim it on her taxes as a tip but let her keep it because it obviously wasn't an engagement ring with her. Which I thought was kind of funny because she paid for my meal and we ended up pretty good friends and I didn't know her from a stranger before that day.

If I were to stop dating the guy I am dateing now I would not expect him to cry publiclly about it but he did cry when he took me over to see my dad's grave so it might get a little stressed. I didn't tell him about the burglury for a while and he was pretty upset about that. I tend to date guys that are HUGE "Protect and defend" types so they have learn the whole "public face" thing.

Too bad that is not Hillary. That would be funny.

I don't know if I would say no sexual contact but of course that is open to definition too. And developes by stages.

How I would kiss a date to close a date that I really enjoyed would not be the peck on the cheek I give a friend at a birthday party or a mistletoe kiss.

The guy I have dated most this last year I could probably kiss for extended periods and I very much like being physically close to him but I don't tease. There is a decided sexual contact to how we are attracted but he knows I don't do certain levels with out committment. I would not be surprised if he gave me a ring for New Years or maybe my birthday. He knows I am ready to go to the next level, or move on, and that he has competition. I think we will be meeting some of his family and coworkers during the holidays.

Welcome to Mingle. When you warm up, feel at home on the site, and write more add photos people will probably warm up to you.

Smile most of us don't bite; might nibble a little if you were older, but don't want to scare you away. lol

Courting is that serious stage exclusively momogomous before marriage where you really step into developeing a level of intimacy and bonding. You get past the usual limits and work out relationship boundries, set goals, blend family and friends, share financial, medical, and business problems. Probably care for a problem or actually "fight" about some things. Usually there is less modesty and more natural contact. For some it means sexual contact with out procreation. Usually it is spending longer periods of time together. Some unoffically live together. Vacation somewhere together.

Usually very romantic and hopefully stress free as possible but more close to really couple time than dateing. Often people throw parties together for each other and for the couple. A happy time.

Usually there is a proclamation of engagement. People and friends generally know they are an exclusive relationship unless the engagement is ended.

So true.

So you made me hungry where is my plate? lol

Should I bring icecream?

Dateing is more of directed purpose for me than just hanging out with a person but not nearly as serious as "courting".

Dateing is kind of a meet and greet to some degree the first time but I think just emailing, calling,skyping, or chatting in person if you already know them can get past a lot of that first date baloney.

Dateing is not fornicating to me but I am not so prissy that kissing, touching, cuddeling is out of the question on a progressive scale. I am a very tactile person once I warm up so if you are the kind of person who doesn't like a hug or the other end of the spctrum expects a "test drive" well that is going to be an exclusion.

I don't want to be attached at the hip to even the greatest love of my life but if I dated someone and rarely hear from them I am going to loose interest.

More than once a guy has come around and said I thought you knew I liked you and I said yes but I am not a "get around to it" kind of gal and if you want something you have to "step up to it."

I really believe 99% of the reason people are alone is they just don't ask the person they could have in there life to be there.

LOL Love them rivalrys lots of fun Congrats on the babies I love all.

I will probably get flamed for this but I think the handicap is less of a problem than your view of it.

If someone passes you up because you have a difference that is a blessing. You sure don't need that kind of person in your life.

And I know hundreds of People with disabilities (many profound) and they have tons of friends, date, and have partners if they want them.

I have had various disabilities over the years, some pretty darn serious, and it has not stopped me from dating. Or marrying.

I don't think it is just a gender thing either but if your disability does limit your means you have to be a good money manager and be creative about funding dateing. I sure get that since I am a big proponent of fair dateing where the gal doesn't just go along for the ride never reciprocateing the invitations.

But you have to put yourself out there. Write more about your personality, interests, values, what your lifestyle really is. Put up lots of pictures. Be seen in the world not hold up worrying about the few things you couldn't do.

Yea there are always "Crip Myths" that people with Disabilities have to dispell but hey you don't have to beat people up educateing the ones that are not worth your time. If someone likes you chances are they are not going to give a snot about some disability.

In dateing it is 1% what you don't do and 99% about what you do. Be up beat, be fun, be engageing (smile, send happy greetings, post in forums, volunteer just enough info to perk interest), be considerate, be responsible, be interested in people, be flexible, be courageous enough to try even if you fail, and be forgiveing (not to be mistaken with being over compensateing), and be a little tougher than the next person when needed and the people will beat a path to you. Least that is what works for me.

lol too many things;

I can't grow a beard but I guess that is ok. lol At least I like some on guys.

Good luck Totage.

Will be hoping all goes well. Glad you like your advisor but keep in mind her job is to be charming and get you sign the dotted line on expensive education contracts. Make sure you know exactly what you are getting and what their graduation percentage rates are versus just what the few who do finally get graduated earn. Ask the tough questions before you use all your finacial aid up.

Take care of yourself. Your brain can not learn well if you deprive your body of rest and nutrition.

Loss of a job when one is used to being independent is rough to deal with. Things that would be taken in jest with a grain of salt feels more like rubbing salt in a raw wound.

Before I jump to conclusions that you are involved with a real rat I guess I would ask you to take a step back and see how much the over all relationship has been.

Generally when a woman with a child takes a guy in that is not working, especially a guy from her own admission has been a good step dad there are chances he may have more value than is currently evident by what your friends are calling a little harmless current machismo. Friends and family can sometimes be unfair other times they can give great perspective. You are the one who can make the best decision if you are really seriously thinking about hitting the bricks once you get in a little better situation.

My guess is you are just frusterated and angry by the situation as a whole and are saying you are "going" to leave but really don't want to. Learning to fight fair, manage money as a couple, and even addressing other issues, could help your relationship. Includeing dealling with anger and depressions which are a normal part of job search.

What may make staying is setting your partner down and saying openly and honestly that maybe some of his jabs are deserved (because you were not the ideal mate when he was struggleing, still thorwing it in his face, but now flipping the scripts is really hurting you when you need him to let you have an equal share in decision making regardless of the current financial contribution. Giving him a chance to be your hero may have surpriseing positive results.

My guess is he really doesn't want to trash your relationship and a nice heart to heart about giving you the dignity you want to model for your daughter, and enjoy yourself, is something he will make an effort to make happen rather than have his happy family dissentigrate. Something that would probably hurt your daughter much more than the fussing as you get through this difficult time.

Maybe asking your mate to enter couples peer support groupe while the re-entry to the work force will help you both cope. Many are free and actually helpful in the job search effort. Looking for work is absolutely the worst possible job and stresses many relationships. Spouses do not really know how to help. Even if they have been through it.

Doesn't help that the the social pressure to cut and run is way too high when really a little moral support would be much more helpful.

While I would welcome you BOTH to Mingle for peer support as many happy couples do exist here I would give you some caution not to jump too fast to the singles that would welcome you to their ranks and maybe cheerlead you into a failed relationship that you will regret for many years.

If this guy is verbally abuseing you, physically abuseing you, economiclly abuseing you then I would say hit the brinks but if this is just the rough spots that all lasting relationships encounter maybe a step back and contemplation is worth the investment. You have some serious thinking to do.

I would never under estimate the usefulness of prayer or having a church community to support your relationship getting across this difficult time in your family's life. I certainly will be praying for you all.

LOL Bounced around the USA so much I have a dab of this and a dab of that when it comes to my accent but you can sure see the southern influence in some conversations.

Many Blessings for you too Sara! And all the other's celebrateing this holiday. To a united world.

Put clean dishes away while I have some breakfast, do wash/dry/fold/putaway a load or clean something, answer email watch the dawn, walk to clubhouse get a coffee. Work in my garden an hour or so or do some work in an elderly neighbors yard. Work a couple clients on the help line. Make a hot lunch for me and at least one homebound neighbor. If the weather is right swim or walk to shopping. Occassionally go out on a date. Read or watch TV and have supper on a tray. Yack on phone with my BF; flirt a little on line. Wash dishes, lock up. Work on my writing or art. Follow up on the help line for a couple hours. Shower. Crash! Next day repeat. lol

Feel better soon.