Is it proper to handover you kids to nanny to take care of, all on the name of work?

i guess you need money to take care of them,sometimes we have to do what we have

to do......and besides its your call......

If you have a nanny, it is going to happen.

That depends on who the nanny is.

If you have no other choice because of the nature of your job, yes. But otherwise, try not to, because you brought them into this world and you are responsible to bring them up and to be there for them. If you missed the period of their growing up, you can't turn back the clock!!! It's a beautiful memorable period! Nevertheles, growing up with nanny is incomparable than putting your kids in a boarding school. They need the domestic surrounding and most important they need their parent!
Sohana

I am reminded of the phrase 'it takes a village'

everyone should have some support system rather than trying to be everything to and do everything for a child themselves,,,

Ideally, I believe, a parent should be home taking care of their children while the other is outside of home taking care of the bills,,,,,

but IF that has not turned out to be the case THEN

what is 'proper' is what is necessary and what one is capable of doing for the sake of the child's emotional health, physical health, balance, and stability.

no, why have them in the first place.. to have someone else raise them?.

The beauty of having kids and the most important thing you can ever do is raise them.. and you pay someone to do that all the time?

Make the time.. make the career choices that allow you to be there for them. Don't cheat them of that.. and yourself of the joy and happiness it brings you.

Because they won't remember the nice clothes and nice things, but they will remember that you were not there.

But they will remember what they live and if that is a selfish parent that stays home 24/7 living off the system so they play mommy/daddy for however many years because they are their "right" to enjoy without living up to their "responsibility" to support them and themselves then you see as spoiled and isolated kids who can only live in a world where they are dominated by one view and have learned to mooch off the system as entitled.
Saying a kid won't remember living without what will often come down to mecessities, especially in a single parent home, is ludicrist. They will member acute poverty a lot longer than an adequate nanny while a REAL parent provides their needs and teaches sacrifice to be responsible.

But they will remember what they live and if that is a selfish parent that stays home 24/7 living off the system so they play mommy/daddy for however many years because they are their "right" to enjoy without living up to their "responsibility" to support them and themselves then you see as spoiled and isolated kids who can only live in a world where they are dominated by one view and have learned to mooch off the system as entitled.
Saying a kid won't remember living without what will often come down to mecessities, especially in a single parent home, is ludicrist. They will member acute poverty a lot longer than an adequate nanny while a REAL parent provides their needs and teaches sacrifice to be responsible.

I disagree here. Kids remember love and attendance much more than things, and they certainly grow up APPRECIATING them more.


Housewives stayed home for centuries before womens lib and tended to family and home and still had their 'necessities' taken care of by someone else,, presumably a husband. If all these things are present, kids dont care where they came from, but they will remember an absent parent and they will never actually see the money or paycheck that may be there in their stead.

Kids need balance, but the most important part of it for their emotional growth is the HUMAN interaction, emotional support, and aknowledgment.

I agree with you on having a parent that is nothing more then a mooch on society.Cause chances are the kid grows up to be on too.

I was talking more about more about making career choices that allowed for you to spend the quality time with your kids. That allowed for you to go to their after school activities and be a true major part of their upbringing.

I know that is hard to do and calls for professional choices that are not easy either.

But I feel, if you are going to have kids, you need to be around them as much as possible in the growing years.

By asking the question it shows tou are aware if the challenge to provide for your family and also provide stability.
The important thing is to not get so caught up in your work that your kids can't approach you.

If you are talking about having two employable parents, even divorced co-opperating parents yes I believe if you have kids the child should have parents that slow down the career push and give their children reasonable participation in their lives.

But I think I made it clear that NO parent is neglecting their child having an adequate nanny so they can have a career. Especially if it provides the Essential "things" that children need to thrive.

The reality is this is a single parent site and for any number of hood reasons a single parent does NOT have the resources to make ANY choice but to go to work to provide basic necessities. And until society quits "Shoulding" all over them with guilt trips about using what is often more than adequate care I will repeat that children can and do thrive with Nanny's helping.

Saying that a qualified nanny or well appointed childcare center is somehow giving a child some kind of depravation or a child feel Less loved or secure is ludacrist.

Most children love and respect their Caregivers and welcome the opportunities it provides just like they love their family religious leaders,coaches, pediatrician, or neighborhood first responders.