This I agree with for sure....

Then also if he starts to pay...maybe he really does care...at least for the kid

thanks everyone

and i am doing what they ask and i am not mad that they came to check out the complaint but i am up set that when my daugther was in here fathers care and 12 police men when in to his home and took many different drugs not one person stepped in and said hey there are 4 children here all 4 years old and younger. and here in Canada it seams they just let people have drugs around kids and beat the crap out of them but when its some one like myself that is trying to do things wright they are here on the first call. i am not the perfect mom and not saying i am. I have an out of control 4yr old and a 17 month old son i struggle to cope a 4yr old that hits me spits at me you name it she dose it and its all new since October when her step father left. things get worse when i try to put her on time out so i let it go it don't help. being 24 and 2 children on my own was not my plan for life but i love my children and would never change this.

thanks again


am not really sure how things work in canada...but if you have an open dependemncy case regardless of what the issue you might have been you should get what ever services you need speak to them and tell them whats going on and suggest counseling not only for your child both for the both of you together and they will nore than likely give you that opportunity and take it therapy does wonders speacially on kids with seperated parents (or well i believe so) and stay strong for your kids sometimes we make decisions that are not always the brightest but those kids am sure make all situations better even if sometimes you become angry and if for some reason you think that he shouldnt be aloud unsupervised visits because his house is unsafe do to the drugs and all that that you mention tell your case manager and they will cunduct an investigation on his house and say whether it is appropriate for the kids (safety wise) or not and if its not then your kids will have supervised visits with the father somewhere else not at his home.

If children are involved and it's stricly dealing with the children that is a common sense issue where two parents must communicate in many forms. If a new boyfriend/husband, or new girlfriend/wife is trying to get inbetween communication with the ex, this is not good, it is not there business to interrupt parental rights. Past flings, past ex's is always a debatable topic where you have to look at things with fine lines. Some say you should trust that they will be fine, since they did not work out and that is why they are an ex, othere's say well, they slept together what will stop them from doing it again, others say don't try to control your other partner as this is not right, and others say the ex should not be present in your life. The plain and simple truth is that if there are no children from this past relationship here is my opinion:
If two people love each other, no party will bring in possible influences that possibly could pose or ruin a relationship, thus the one who is "friends" with the ex and saying it's my right, is not looking after the relationship, but rather the their sole self. The vice is not good either, if you just lose the friend because the other person said so, they may try to stop all opposite sex friends, this is controlling and is not healthy for a relationship and it cann be perceived as abuse. I am pretty much saying use your common sense and just say do I want my current relationship to last or not? You will then have you answer, relationships are about give or take, but give and take is not about bringing potential harmful influences to your relationship. Truly perceive yourself in their shoes and think how you might feel. Talk about it, set agreements that both parties have to ablige to with the opposite sex or ex, it's not so hard, we are adults, not children.

Anyone attempting to write their first book, and if so, will you publish it anytime soon?

I'm writing my first book e-book..it's hard work

I've got no problem with people being upset because they lost money, but it bugs me to see all sorts of whining with no explanation other than "they lost, woe is me, life is over"

Ok I'm not trying to be antagonistic here, but what do you mean when you say there was a lot of "trust"?

I agree with Fade and Bat...it's odd hearing fans whine (and I'm not saying all Pats fans are whining, just some) when they've been so successful in the immediate past.

And for the record, expressing disappointment does not count as whining in my book.

Coach Bellecheat is a ****ing asswhole he left his team on the field by themseleves he doesnt deserve to coach the pats