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Topic: How to deal with my white guilt
Respectful_Ned's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:44 AM
There is a young lady I've grown quite fond of. However, she happens to be African-American, and I am Euro-American, so I know that normally she would never be interested in me. But I think she will be if she sees that I'm different: that I'm sensitive, emotionally enabled, and that I am sorry for all the evil my race has perpetuated. But what is the best way for me to do this?

rush2001's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:45 AM
I think you will do just fine.:smile: Good luck.

FallinAngel82's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:46 AM
well first .. a persons race is un important when it comes to dating..

the best thing to do is tell her how you feel.. if she feels the same way about you .. then great..

because if she feels that way about you.. she isnt gonna care that ur euro american or any other race other than the one she belongs to.

best of luck

codelockbox's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:47 AM

well first .. a persons race is un important when it comes to dating..

the best thing to do is tell her how you feel.. if she feels the same way about you .. then great..

because if she feels that way about you.. she isnt gonna care that ur euro american or any other race other than the one she belongs to.

best of luck



drinker drinker drinker You are so right about what you said. Race is important when it comes to being happy or in love.

shoesmonkey's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:48 AM
You're not responsible for your entire race so, get off of that soapbox. If she has predjudice's that's her deal. Find yourself a white woman.

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:49 AM
laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

Etrain's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:53 AM
drinker drinker drinker what???drinker drinker drinker

dyinginside's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:54 AM
I agree with FallinAngel82, I am Malatto and usually go for caucasion men. You might be pleasantly surprised if you let her know how you feel and take it slow. Find a place where you two can be free to pursue what ever you want and express your feelings openly. Where I come from race usually doesn't matter. If you care deeply for someone then live!!!

fifteen2's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:54 AM
I'd say just be yourself. You and I can't hold ourselves, or be held responsible for atrocities committed in other times by other people, regardless of race. Which doesn't mean we have to like that it happened, or not learned from it, but we don't have to own it either. Unearned guilt sucks, and not in the good way.

Respectful_Ned's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:55 AM
What I really need to know, is how do I apologize to her for the evils of my race? I am working on a poem about all that African-Americans have had to go though. I call it "My Noble Sister". I think if I read it to her with the right amount of emotional projection, she will see I am not the typical evil white man.

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:55 AM
laugh this is a jokelaugh

CleanBathroom's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:55 AM
Enjoy the free PR dude.

FallinAngel82's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:57 AM
hun.. ur not responisble for the rest of our races bigotry(sp) or racism..

and i imagine she doesnt think ur an evil white man or u would have never gotten as close to her as you are now

Etrain's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:57 AM

What I really need to know, is how do I apologize to her for the evils of my race? I am working on a poem about all that African-Americans have had to go though. I call it "My Noble Sister". I think if I read it to her with the right amount of emotional projection, she will see I am not the typical evil white man.

dude...I don't even know what to say...grow a set??? devil

CleanBathroom's photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:58 AM
I would definitely do something meaningful. Write your congressman. Maybe they can pass a resolution which apologies for slavery ... again.

grumble :angry: ohwell


no photo
Thu 04/24/08 06:59 AM

You're not responsible for your entire race so, get off of that soapbox. If she has predjudice's that's her deal. Find yourself a white woman.

Agreed:smile: flowerforyou drinker

no photo
Thu 04/24/08 07:05 AM
The absolute best thing to do in this situation is to print out the following document and post in prominently in your home and/or office.

http://www.gmu.edu/departments/economics/wew/gift.pdf

Jtevans's photo
Thu 04/24/08 07:07 AM

What I really need to know, is how do I apologize to her for the evils of my race? I am working on a poem about all that African-Americans have had to go though. I call it "My Noble Sister". I think if I read it to her with the right amount of emotional projection, she will see I am not the typical evil white man.



you have no reason to apologize for something YOU didn't do.just tell her how you feel and see what happens,that's all you can do

Nickinolosers's photo
Thu 04/24/08 07:10 AM

What I really need to know, is how do I apologize to her for the evils of my race? I am working on a poem about all that African-Americans have had to go though. I call it "My Noble Sister". I think if I read it to her with the right amount of emotional projection, she will see I am not the typical evil white man.


You do that and you will look like a racist - Look up the word - read the third and fourth definition

The word is multi-faceted

no photo
Thu 04/24/08 07:12 AM

There is a young lady I've grown quite fond of. However, she happens to be African-American, and I am Euro-American, so I know that normally she would never be interested in me.


You would do good to not make assumptions, because it makes you look like a racist.

Why would a black woman not "normally" be interested in a white guy?

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