Will check with lawyer! How you say its mine technically?

Don't want her hear! How do i say this. she was the abusive person in the relationship! I had enuff told her to get out! now months later, very little contact she hits me with this... WTF this is getting better and better by the post.... Weee fun

Your ex may or may not have done so purposely but her pregnancy will put the divorce on hold in most states.

It is because the state has to look out for the best interest of the state. That would mean not bastardizing the child which will be assumed to be yours in the eyes of the law and in regards to child support regardless of paternity. It allows the state to come after you if the mother decides to collect public assistance.

Hate to be the bearer of bad news but you may get out of paying alimoney when you demand and pay for paternity testing to prove in fact it is not yours but even if you do you will pay child support on this child regardless of who fathered it because it was concieved while you were legally married. You will also pay 50% of the fees for the attorney appointed to represent the infants legal rights.

You might luck out and find a judge who will award the minimum allowed for child support or allow you to sign your parental rights over to the state and then the state to allow the biological father to adopt the child if he and your soon to be ex is in fact more fit than yourself but that is not guaranteed.

You can also challenge your ex for custody of the child if you are legally found the father but it is not likely that a court will deem it the best interest of the child to award full custody of a child fathered by another man to you so you will probably get split custody and be subsidizeing your Ex (and her lover) through child support now that she can prove she is pregnant and a mother for the next 18 or so years. Longer if the child is born handicapped enough to be dependent past age of majority. Not unusual in premature births which are common in high stress situations.

You might resent paying for an attorney but you are going to need one. You would have been smart to cut your losses and gotten and amicable divorce before she got pregnant by someone else which still remains to be proved. If there is any chance her claims are legit I think I would wait to be slandering her on line. Courts don't look kindly on fathers that denie their children.

It is possible that she could take away your parental rights if you abandon the child for a year plus a day in most states but it won't stop her from filing for support up until that day and it is her choice; if the state agrees which many times they don't, not yours.

It is possible that you can challenge her being a fit mother and force the infant into your custody or a foster home but you will still pay child support to the state unil the infant is relinquished for adoption which she may not do just to spite you. Since this whole process requires an effort of rehabilitation and reunification by the state the child will not be available for adoption until some time well past infancy which is what most adoptive parents demand.

You might get really lucky if the Ex wants to relinquish the infant for adoption but that is going to require the biological father's permission also. And and adoptive family that wants the baby. Which may not be easy if there is any history of drugs, alcohol, or mental illness.

No offense I feel sorry for the baby. True it doesn't seem fair if it isn't your kid but until men demand the laws be changed they are not going to be.

wow That was hard to swallow. i know for sure she is prego. I seen the papers from her Doctors visit. So I know for sure that she is. When it comes to the child there are ways to find out if the child is mine or not before the birth. Expensive but there is a way. If I do have to claim the child and pay for him/her. i will fight with everything to make sure he/she get anything they need! I will Man up for the baby, but I will not lay down and play dead for her!

And I don't think I have slandered her through this post??

Well if you know you didn't make her pregnant you are safe but if you say it is someone elses baby and it works out to be yours that is slander.

Good for you to say you will man up for the child. If she is abusive you may well turn out to be a hero if you keep this innocent out of her control.

Hopefully you have medical records and written correspondence, even witnesses to prove she was abusive. The kid doesn't have much of a chance in life otherwise.

Hopefully you have medical records and written correspondence, even witnesses to prove she was abusive. The kid doesn't have much of a chance in life otherwise.



Unless she freeze dried my sperm I know I have not been with her sence July 28 2008. we were trying to have are own, for many years. I keep written record of are encounters, got to become a habit.
Yes I had a copy of the paperwork stating she is only 7 week along.
yes I have two police statements taken and one Er visit recorded at the police department.
lawyer has it all other then the doctors paperwork I got yesterday.
And finally if I think I can get the child i will do what ever it takes. i got the house. my name before marriage. she lives with family now. I will fight if I can and take care of that baby alone. man up thats the way I am.

her new beau probably doesn't have insurance and she wants to still stay on yours.


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Sounds like you have been through a lot. Sorry life has to suck like that.

A lot of people don't want to believe that women can be abusive but they can be and are.

At least she is seeing a doctor during her pregnancy which is in the baby's best interest. Maybe you will get lucky and she will give you the baby. Stranger things happen.

Being a single father would be tough but a lot of men have done it well when they set their mind to it.

I think she is just trying to prove the inability to concieve is not her fault. Sounds like there were a lot of issues about anatomy. Infertility is cruel to everyone involved. Hopefully the courts will help everyone out and get you all some counseling. A good infertility support group might be worth some time so that you can understand that "size" has nothing to do with conception and for most even pleasure but miss information, misunderstanding, and anger can hurt a lot and probably distroyed your mariage. A good urologist, or even your insurance nurse information line could give you resource referrrals. Even Planned Parenthood.

I don't understand. If it's not your child, why will you fight for it? The baby has a father. How is that manning up?