women want to know if a man has a heart because if he doesn't they won't be able to rip it out and thrash it.


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Drew I hope you know not all women are this way. I am certainly not this way.

maybe not all



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Drew try not to think so negavtive you will only get negative results. Think positive and see what happens and don't do it with a frown on your face. Compliment others today, hold the door open when walking into a building do small things that make a difference and don't expect things in return. Just knowing that you did good should be reward enough.

I think deep down we are all the same. We want to be loved, honored, cherished and treated with respect. Just as us women get nervous when men don't call; stories don't "add up"; they are "clingy and desperate"; don't do what they say they will do and so forth, so do men.

I think because we tend to process our emotions differently and have different perceptions on what gets us nervous at a faster rate than other things, that is where we differ.

But in the end, I think it all boils down to we all want to be loved for who we are.

Just my opinion

i'm always courteous and hold open the door for people. it's just my nature. but i don't smile often and i rarely compliment people, more because it makes me uncomfortable than any other reason. i'm not an unpleasant person, but i don't live on fantasy island either.

my only point is that being a nice and sensitive isn't enough.


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It takes effort but being nice and showing compassion for other humans is what it is all about.

People taller than me make me nervous. Thankfully it doesn't happen too often!

Boy, there are some jaded, cynical people around here...that's just sad.
I think guys get nervous when they are around strong women. Not "Ugh me Helga" strong, but strong emotionally and mentally. What is it with the white knight syndrome? To make a sweeping generality (for which I'm sure I'll have to pay for) it seems most of the men I know are always wanting to "rescue" a woman.
What's up with that???

You ain't seen NUTHIN' yet!

True, not ALL women are heartless b!tches, but the majority still rules.

<< Does NOT play well with others.

My question is, WHY would you give the person who did you wrong the satisfaction of knowing they've messed you up?
I've been cheated on, betrayed, dumped and mistreated...but ya know what? Screw them. There's no way I'd give any of those people the satisfaction of seeing me turn into a cynical b*tch

I agree, screw 'em. By the same token, I won't give them the chance to ever do it to me again, either.

It prevents the same piano from falling on my head for the 95th time. Sort of a survival skill.

Survival skills I understand...being unhappy I don't. Allowing the past to dictate the future, don't get that either.

Here....here....

It's easy. Like Lex said, it's a preventative measure of keeping the same piano from falling on our head for the 95th time. If a person can't learn from their past experiences, what the f*ck good are they?

Scientific method, I suppose -- repeat the experiment enough times, obtain the same result, eventually you start to understand the apparent inevitability of the outcome.

I maintain that it is still better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. In the absence of any "right" (i.e., non-wrong) person, being alone is the only option that makes sense.

Exactly. It's a simple cause-and-effect scenario.

If A, then B.

B is not worth dealing with.

Ergo, avoid A.

Well if that's the case, why come onto a dating site? Just out of curiosity.

I'm not ON a "dating site". I haven't been on a "dating site" in years.