OMG!!!!!!!! How I dislike the silent treatment!!!


The WORST form of punishment in any relationship, boss, parent, partner!!


How do you manage it?

Or like me, do you just get totally crazy in the head??

Do unto others as they do unto you

Ignore it an go on with life. Life is too short to play along with childish games.

I agree, it sucks. I can understand being quiet to keep from saying something you might regret, but don't just shut me out because you are angry at me.

I keep talking

it`s a very childish form of abuse -- don`t respond to it -- or play along with it -- just walk away and do something extra nice for you,..and you`ll even forget about it,..cause you might just find something even better,..

Pretty much what Audie said. I just play along. But with me it is COMPLETE silence. I will mute a television, turn off a radio, oh and ooops my bed squeaks. Guess who is not sleeping in THAT tonight.

Trust me eventually they talk .

i'd just say i'm going to bed if he doesn't follow then he missed out

I give it and while it's not my favorite to have done to me I deal with it if I'm given it.... Can't be the pot calling the kettle... But I really only give it as a last resort.. When you've gone round and round and nothing will be resolved... OR when I've been so hurt that I just can't speak for being so upset or possibly the horrid things that I might say...

drives me crazy!!!! then if i stop talking and do my own thing...it drives them crazy and they don't know why i do it...duh

Oh I get really obnoxious...and act as if they aren't even in the room. Start talking dirty to them like you havent even been in a fight.

I agree with you.

I don't like the silent treatment.
Can't stand being blocked and deleted and I will stop there.

Uh yeah, crazy in the head pretty much says it ...

Im with you and it drives me insane. I cant stand it. What I find I often end up doing is escalating the anger in the hopes of dragging a response out of them. Of course this is the absolute worst way to handle it because all you do is give the person the attention (and therefore the power) they crave and want from you.

The better way to take control of the situation is to say your piece (calmly and politely) and then BACK OFF. Allow them the space to mull over what you have said and respond. If they choose not to respond, the implication is they cant handle the relationship anyway and its best to move on.

It seems a very passive-aggressive tactic ... and I am not interested in the game.

I SO have to defer to Vincent's brilliance here.
SOME may be off topic, but his stream of consciousness just blew me away!

QUOTE:

when you're hurtin, you're hurtin. s'ok to hurt. don't get self pity and hurt mixed up. sheer beauty alone can hurt....even to look at, when there's feelings behind that, it's even worse. i'd rather go to war than feel that again. at least with war, i know what i'm up against. it's different today, than the past. everyone has changed. no more snail mail and waiting weeks for a reply to help you through another month of anxious waiting for a cross-country, or overseas lover...forever..... but part of that is passion. passion's different now, and so is marriage....this is a small percentage of pure good. MOST marriages were miserable then,(not all) it's just that most stuck it out, way past the time when they should have left.... now, marriage is a trump card. just like the" i'm the man, and this is how it goes" to, you've upset me, no more sex, and you're on the couch, or out the door, and we might talk later, i'll think about it. i have patience for none of this normal everyday happening, because it seems to be nothing but control now, and getting what they want(both sexes). not the passion of yesteryear, when you wouldn't think of leaving your best friend. "male and female issues" should never even play into it.....what a shame....but it always kinda has. it's just that the real true love with no stipulations is lost forever. it's all boundries now, stipulative boundries. there's always moral boundries, and those should be understood, but are now lost in the shuffle with legal boundries, because true honesty seems to be a dead issue, and justification for one's means has taken over, so it's a sided truth...a point of view, instead of real truth. what a shame!!! only people can change this, and it'll only be individual people that can see this and make the change. i've seen a lot in my very incredibly short life-span, that i hope lasts another ten-twenty-or thirty years, and i'm really worried about how we are relating. it seems that the games and drama that needs not be there, for either self-protection for games, and sheer ego and, or, boredom for drama, that are taking mainstream over HONEST courting. everyone is categorized to feel more comfortable, and it's working. i've never fit into a "category", and people never feel quite comfortable with me, so it doesn't work with me in the least, and i've become merely an "immortal observer" or atleast it feels that way (and i wouldn't trade it for the world) with my infantesimle bit of life experience, i practically know nothing to help another, but it's an honor to try....the more i learn, the less i know, and am humbled at every turn. these reflections, are not advice, merely the observations and gathered facts that "i appear" to see.

I could only make it through the first 2 lines..my minuscule attention span couldn't make it to the point....could we get the condensed version?

Sorry Lil..no RDing this down

Ok i'll read it tomorrow.

alright Lil

EXERPT:
---------(or for THIS thread "relationships")
now, marriage ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is a trump card. just like the" i'm the man, and this is how it goes" to, you've upset me, no more sex, and you're on the couch, or out the door, and we might talk later, i'll think about it. i have patience for none of this normal everyday happening, because it seems to be nothing but control now, and getting what they want(both sexes).