Topic: Blah.
RyanJonx33's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:33 PM
So I saw my girlfriend today.. First thing in the morning, I took her to school as I do every day because she hates taking buses or taxis. Just like every other morning my heart skipped a beat just like it did over a year ago when we started dating. When I picked her up from her classes, something seemed different. All of a sudden, she wants to go on a break. I haven't done anything to hurt her. I get her everywhere she needs to be, I practically feed her every day of the week, I'm honest and loyal to her, I do everything in my power to be a good boyfriend and all she did today was nitpick at everything she could. Well, right before I took her home, she tells me she thinks we should go on a break. I know it can't be because she needs her space because if she does, all she does is tell me that, and I give her as much time as she needs.. Be it a few hours, a few days, or weeks if that's what she needs. I don't know what to do. I really do love this girl. I give my all to her. I'm so lost right now.

woodford's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:42 PM
new veriable in the dynamic.

DONT blame or push. express your feelings and then shut up and wait.

if she figures out what she needs to and comes back cool if not, then Im sorry there is not much you can do to pressure someone to love you back and have them like it.


dont get steped on as if its a break then your not responcible for her. dont be anyones option if your not first then dont accept anything less. she is a big girl who can decide her own life and if she is not then is that the type of woman you want?

sorry to hear of this issue for you. take it easy and I do hope its just that she wants a break to think about perhaps moving to the next level or deal with a personal issue..... you never know.

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:43 PM

So I saw my girlfriend today.. First thing in the morning, I took her to school as I do every day because she hates taking buses or taxis. Just like every other morning my heart skipped a beat just like it did over a year ago when we started dating. When I picked her up from her classes, something seemed different. All of a sudden, she wants to go on a break. I haven't done anything to hurt her. I get her everywhere she needs to be, I practically feed her every day of the week, I'm honest and loyal to her, I do everything in my power to be a good boyfriend and all she did today was nitpick at everything she could. Well, right before I took her home, she tells me she thinks we should go on a break. I know it can't be because she needs her space because if she does, all she does is tell me that, and I give her as much time as she needs.. Be it a few hours, a few days, or weeks if that's what she needs. I don't know what to do. I really do love this girl. I give my all to her. I'm so lost right now.
:smile: I know it hurts ,but there really isn't much you can do but try to find something else to occupy your time and take your mind off of her.:smile:Usually that is the girls way of telling you that its basically over.:smile:Maybe you should spend more time hanging out with your buddies or something.drinks That usually helps a lot.biggrin

RyanJonx33's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:47 PM
Edited by RyanJonx33 on Wed 04/29/09 09:48 PM
My buddy JD usually helps me out. drinks
Just a shame there's no one to hold me up ^^

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:51 PM
Edited by MirrorMirror on Wed 04/29/09 09:51 PM

My buddy JD usually helps me out. drinks
Just a shame there's no one to hold me up ^^
drinks Thats just the way it is man.drinks Time to hang out with your buddies until another one comes along.drinks Thats about all a guy in your situation can do (and not look like an ass and keep your dignity)drinks

woodford's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:51 PM
drinks flowerforyou

Ill give ya a hand up but not a hand out. lean on friends tell you can lean on yourself. you spent years learning how to take care of yourself from you folks and friends. use that info and time will heal.

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:53 PM

My buddy JD usually helps me out. drinks
Just a shame there's no one to hold me up ^^
flowerforyou First where can I find a MAN like u? smitten Now i'm thinking maybe you should act like you don't give a crap......maybe she is takeing you for grantued you seem great & you look great just don't let her walk all over you!:thumbsup:

RyanJonx33's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:53 PM
It'll be odd having a heavily altered day than what I'm used to. I presume I can focus on my music more. If any of you care to listen.. http://www.myspace.com/ryantombasco

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Wed 04/29/09 09:54 PM
She's bored.

RyanJonx33's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:54 PM


My buddy JD usually helps me out. drinks
Just a shame there's no one to hold me up ^^
flowerforyou First where can I find a MAN like u? smitten Now i'm thinking maybe you should act like you don't give a crap......maybe she is takeing you for grantued you seem great & you look great just don't let her walk all over you!:thumbsup:


Awe, you're sweet.. I appreciate it.
I don't think I could act like I don't care. It's kind of like that job that you love going to. I like to care, It's what I'm suppose to do.

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Wed 04/29/09 09:58 PM



My buddy JD usually helps me out. drinks
Just a shame there's no one to hold me up ^^
flowerforyou First where can I find a MAN like u? smitten Now i'm thinking maybe you should act like you don't give a crap......maybe she is takeing you for grantued you seem great & you look great just don't let her walk all over you!:thumbsup:


Awe, you're sweet.. I appreciate it.
I don't think I could act like I don't care. It's kind of like that job that you love going to. I like to care, It's what I'm suppose to do.
just be sure that she isn't useing you baby huh

RyanJonx33's photo
Wed 04/29/09 10:01 PM
Heh, that does tend to happen to me. =\

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 04/29/09 10:03 PM
Sorry to hear that, but honestly I think you are too young to be in a serious relationship anyway. It will take time, but you will get over her. Spend time on yourself and figuring out what you want in life. Go after that for now and the right girl will come along when it's the right time.

KT89's photo
Wed 04/29/09 10:51 PM

So I saw my girlfriend today.. First thing in the morning, I took her to school as I do every day because she hates taking buses or taxis. Just like every other morning my heart skipped a beat just like it did over a year ago when we started dating. When I picked her up from her classes, something seemed different. All of a sudden, she wants to go on a break. I haven't done anything to hurt her. I get her everywhere she needs to be, I practically feed her every day of the week, I'm honest and loyal to her, I do everything in my power to be a good boyfriend and all she did today was nitpick at everything she could. Well, right before I took her home, she tells me she thinks we should go on a break. I know it can't be because she needs her space because if she does, all she does is tell me that, and I give her as much time as she needs.. Be it a few hours, a few days, or weeks if that's what she needs. I don't know what to do. I really do love this girl. I give my all to her. I'm so lost right now.


=\\ You seem like a sweety. **HUG**
You're a cutie too. [=

no photo
Thu 04/30/09 05:07 AM
Dude, reread your post, I can see why she wants space.
I'd feel smothered by all that attention.
jmho

oldsage's photo
Thu 04/30/09 05:16 AM
Not your place to "give her space."
SOunds like a little control going on there.
Let her go, if she comes back, GREAT.
If she doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.

Old advice, still works.

RyanJonx33's photo
Thu 04/30/09 07:22 PM
Eh, I understand what you mean, but I do give her everything she wants. I've "let her go" before because she "needed space". It just seems really different this time. I ran into her at the mall today because I had to get some shopping done for my moms birthday and she came up to me and she was such an asshole, for the lack of a better term. The only reason I'm around her that much is because she calls me and wants me there. I already told her many times that we should probably ease up a little on how much we see eachother and she wanted no parts of it. Idfk.