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I've not had the patience myself, but maybe if you stick around it will build?  maybe... but if it doesn't...is it fair to keep him hanging on with a girlfriend who doesn't appreciate him as much as he deserves?  he's getting exactly what he deserves, alls fair in love and war roco |
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Edited by
JasmineInglewood
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Tue 05/05/09 01:22 PM
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I've not had the patience myself, but maybe if you stick around it will build? maybe... but if it doesn't...is it fair to keep him hanging on with a girlfriend who doesn't appreciate him as much as he deserves? Do the right thing. At least inform him of how you feel... Anything else is just dishonest and selfish i've actually discussed with him a few days ago that i don't feel as close to him as i think i should. i told him there's really nothing he can do about it because he's perfect, but i just have to work it out myself. |
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no-one is perfect...
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Edited by
YouAndImake1
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Tue 05/05/09 01:29 PM
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I've not had the patience myself, but maybe if you stick around it will build? maybe... but if it doesn't...is it fair to keep him hanging on with a girlfriend who doesn't appreciate him as much as he deserves? Do the right thing. At least inform him of how you feel... Anything else is just dishonest and selfish i've actually discussed with him a few days ago that i don't feel as close to him as i think i should. i told him there's really nothing he can do about it because he's perfect, but i just have to work it out myself. How would you feel if he dated someone else while you were in this state of indecision? If you wouldn't mind, you should tell him that as well... |
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Edited by
gayfifer
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Tue 05/05/09 01:28 PM
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yeah i had this problem last yr and stuck it out for 6months but then i began actively disliking him and looking for an excuse (which presented itself). i just plain didnt fancy him and thats all there was about it. like u i now think i don't really want a bf, mainly coz i think i'm just not ready. but hey what would i know huh?
 and you are not an awful human being hunni but i knows why u feel that way - it gets better 
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no-one is perfect... i meant he's perfect in the sense that there's nothing about him, that i know of as of now, that really irritates me or would be a strain on the relationship. the flaws he has do not bother me. |
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Hey Jasmin...good afternoon to ya.
 I think even though you like/enjoy the guy...it just might be that he is not the fortunate one to "Trip Your Trigger", as we say down here!  Hope you figure it out, before investing a lot into something that may just end in departure eventually.  Wish the best for you/him.  
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This is my fault  perhaps i'm subconsciously comparing him to the inreachable standard that is patsy?  
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((gayfifer)) ((theresmyfriend))
thanks everyone for the advice. i'm taking everything on board. i'll let you know what i decide when i decide something. 
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i try Jasmine
and hey u know where i am hunni 
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I think even though you like/enjoy the guy...it just might be that he is not the fortunate one to "Trip Your Trigger", as we say down here! "Trip your trigger" That's just what I need... someone to trip my trigger. Love that saying! |
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I think even though you like/enjoy the guy...it just might be that he is not the fortunate one to "Trip Your Trigger", as we say down here! "Trip your trigger" That's just what I need... someone to trip my trigger. Love that saying! "CLICK" "CLICK"  
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my boyfriend is probably the sweetest, most considerate, most patient and thoughtful person alive. i mean seriously. i can't even go into the many gestures of thoughtfulness he's done which make him quite an extraordinary person. BUT i don't find myself falling head over heels for him, even though he's my ideal boyfriend. what's wrong with me? just now he called my cellphone and i decided not to answer because i don't quite feel like talking to anyone right now, and he proceeded to leave a message which he said was meant to brighten up my day a little. and then he started singing "unchained melody". instead of being touched and teary eyed as i'm guessing i should've been... i found it hilarious and just a touch awkward. what's wrong with me?? is this normal? will it pass? he and i have only been a couple for a month. (no i'm not gay) Nothing is wrong with you at all. IMO, he sounds a but TOO nice. IDK, that's just me, when people are too sweet and kind I tend to question their motives. |
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NEXT
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I spent 6 months with a lady. greatest person I ever knew she was sweet, giving everything a man could want. BUT I didn't fall in love with her. the sexual chemistry just wasn't there for me. so we parted . I think of her almost everyday. And ask myself should of I tried harder or longer? maybe I should have but I didn't! So I have regrets now.
As for him being to "nice of a guy" whats wrong with that? seems some think it is some kind of illness? well they are wrong! I say just slow things down have an open and honest talk with him and give it some time. 2 months? isn't enough time if you ask for my opinion .. just saying.... best of luck to you. |
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Maybe he's just not right for you. He's probably a great guy, just not for you. I dated an awesome guy for 4 yrs. Was gonna marry him. He loved me and my kids and took very good care of us. But I never could commit to the date. Turns out, looking back, that I need a man with a bit more spunk. And he wasn't very open-minded about alot of things. Point is... He's an awesome, caring, attractive, accomplished man that I don't want.
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Edited by
Meg8771
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Tue 05/05/09 03:13 PM
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Maybe you're just not that into him. True love, to me, requires equal amounts of trust, affection, respect, intimacy with some lust sprinkled over the whole concoction and then mixed in
. If you don't have everything you need, then it just isn't going to equal true love. I think you are selling both of yourselves short if you don't honestly communicate what you are feeling with him, and that means ALL of it. And you may be the one for him, but if it isn't mutual, cut him loose to find someone who is. |
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U should move to Ohio. We can be awful beings together.
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Maybe you're just not that into him. True love, to me, requires equal amounts of trust, affection, respect, intimacy with some lust sprinkled over the whole concoction and then mixed in . If you don't have everything you need, then it just isn't going to equal true love. I think you are selling both of yourselves short if you don't honestly communicate what you are feeling with him, and that means ALL of it. And you may be the one for him, but if it isn't mutual, cut him loose to find someone who is. I thoroughly agree & just want to add one point: Perhaps you don't want to tell him your misgivings for fear of losing him alltogether? |
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It maybe time for you to move on.
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