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Topic: Not Encouraging...
Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Sat 07/25/09 07:31 AM
OH YEAH!!!! UH HUNH UH HUNH...that's the way uh hunh uh hunh i like it!!!! don't ask WHERE that came from hahaha

lonetar25 Joined Mon 05/18/09 Posts: 3531	Sat 07/25/09 07:31 AM
just say "i have a list of requirements, its a small list,but a list all the same and i`m afraid wonkey eyes, a big nose and a generall smell of feet are not on the list....sorry"

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 07:36 AM
just say "i have a list of requirements, its a small list,but a list all the same and i`m afraid wonkey eyes, a big nose and a generall smell of feet are not on the list....sorry" Now THAT would be mean.

ladywolf9653 Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 1012	Sat 07/25/09 07:37 AM
I don't like to hurt people's feelings either, unless they force me to. I usually say something like "I really appreciate the compliment you've given me. The thing is, I know we're not a good match in that area, and a relationship between us would end up hurting one or both of us in the end". Sometimes I get lucky and, after they get over any embarrassment they might suffer, we're able to continue on as friends.

tacklebox1978 Joined Fri 07/24/09 Posts: 76	Sat 07/25/09 03:06 PM
Tell them they remind you of your sister.

lionsbrew Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 14232	Sat 07/25/09 03:09 PM
Be blunt while still maintaining a polite and upbeat attitude. "I'm sorry but your just not my type." Goes a long way.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/25/09 03:11 PM
So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA! my fav is the block button, works like a charm

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sat 07/25/09 03:12 PM
That would work for a friend, but what about a stranger at a bar? And 7z... NEVER! tell him you're married. or you like girls. or you're married to a girl. something like that.

ClayFace2009 Joined Fri 05/08/09 Posts: 1187	Sat 07/25/09 03:13 PM
I wasn't talking about you, hon. Not about anyone in particular actually. I was talking about irl actually. Lily... damn. I was hoping there was some trick. I HATE hurting feelings. Snarky, I've realized after so many times that you must tell someone you're not attracted to them if you're not. So what if they ask why or why not. They need to know that you are not interested in pursuing something with them. If they don't understand, then they need to realize that you are not meant for one another. But if they try to make you feel sorry for them, they are manipulating your emotions. I've fallen for that crap too many times.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sat 07/25/09 03:14 PM
So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA! 'I'm not interested'...well, it works and is rather nice, not like you are calling the guy a jackass or anything. Not difficult, just be honest.

ClayFace2009 Joined Fri 05/08/09 Posts: 1187	Sat 07/25/09 03:15 PM
So... how does a woman turn down and otherwise not encourage flirting with a guy she's not interested in without hurting his feelings? I know there's probably been threads like this, but I'm starting a new one so HA! 'I'm not interested'...well, it works and is rather nice, not like you are calling the guy a jackass or anything. Not difficult, just be honest. I agree.

CKeef Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 715	Sat 07/25/09 03:22 PM
'I'm not interested'...well, it works and is rather nice, not like you are calling the guy a jackass or anything. Not difficult, just be honest. Agreed. Simple, truthful and straight-forward. I hate a lying response, you can always tell.