Topic: need some advice
dnnie's photo
Sat 08/29/09 05:11 PM
my girlfriend and i broke up after 3 years. She cheated on me. I was and still am crushed and hurt.I would like to move on and meet someone else, but i am very afraid and don't trust anymore.Any advice on how to get over this and move on and is the any good girls left?

Dan99's photo
Sat 08/29/09 05:13 PM
If you are that hurt, then i dont think you need to be getting involved with online dating just yet.

Puffins1958's photo
Sat 08/29/09 05:14 PM
Without trying to sounds like a cliche....
Time....just give it time. You need that to heal.

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Sat 08/29/09 05:15 PM
Something similar happened to me in November. All advice is probably well-meaning. You just have to sift through it and see what works best for you. I got to the point that if ne more person said to me that it takes time, I would have gladly decked them. But it's true. Time and how you choose to process what happened. Self-blame never works 'cause it was never about you in the first place. These people will never learn about accountability. It's all about self-gratification. This too will pass, trust me.

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Sat 08/29/09 05:16 PM
I always tell people this: Everybody is different, and just because one person treated you badly, it doesn't mean the next one will too.

It is hard sometimes to trust people, because you have this idea in the back of your mind that the bad thing that happened with Person A will also happen with Person B. Well, that's possible! But by no means is it inevitable.

Not everybody cheats! --

Just remember -- the next person you meet is NOT the same as the last one. Fresh start....


SoundMethod's photo
Sat 08/29/09 05:16 PM
The first thing you do when you meet someone new is ask to smell their feet. If they are dirty rotten cheaters their feet will not lie. Cheaters never take good care of their feet and that is where foot odor started in America !!! Good Luck my Brother !!!

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Sat 08/29/09 05:18 PM

The first thing you do when you meet someone new is ask to smell their feet. If they are dirty rotten cheaters their feet will not lie. Cheaters never take good care of their feet and that is where foot odor started in America !!! Good Luck my Brother !!!


laugh :tongue:

smokeorange's photo
Sat 08/29/09 05:21 PM
Go dancing, or learn to dance. Seriously. You get to trust people, but not too damn much.

thickumz22's photo
Sat 08/29/09 06:09 PM
Give it time! But take a year off from dating an just enjoy your life Man! Hang with frinds an just have fun the pain will pass.

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Sat 08/29/09 08:04 PM
Time, to grieve what was, what has past, what was broken.
Time, to let the past lay itself down into the ground.
Time, to be still in heart and soul, allow time to work it's healing.
Time, for yourself, rediscovery who you are.
Time, to let joy back into your life.



Quietman_2009's photo
Sat 08/29/09 08:05 PM
I would like to move on and meet someone else, but i am very afraid and don't trust anymore.


you're not ready

LewisW123's photo
Sat 08/29/09 08:09 PM

I would like to move on and meet someone else, but i am very afraid and don't trust anymore.


you're not ready


Good advice.

Sounds like you are too vulnerable right now.