I had a long and meaningful talk with my cute blonde neighbor, Summer, last night. Must have been about an hour and a half. I told her basically I was moving out in 2 weeks and I wasn't going to be there anymore, but I will be across town and a phone call or a short drive away. I have known her for about a year and half now, and until now it's been mostly small talk and brief 10 to 20 minute conversations. When I met her, I was with someone, and she wasn't. Then I wasn't and she was. She still is, but isn't happy. I told her, I respect the fact that she's with someone and I won't step in the way, but if that ever changes, you know where to call me. She finally opened up to me and hugged me 3 times and even gave me a kiss goodnight. I was so shy at first, but I finally cracked the coconut and got to know her tonight, and she knows me now as more than a neighbor. Maybe it will just be friends, I don't expect anything more, but if it goes beyond that, I seized on my window of opportunity and I'm glad I did.

I hear ya pimp daddy. good luck in the future with her.

At the very least it sounds like you have a wonderful friend. I know it may sound wrong, but hopefully things don't work out with her and the other guy.

At least you told her that is awesome, nothing ventured nothing gained. She may need you as friend or want something more later on down the road.


good luck

I told her, not only was I shy about putting my cards on the table, but if her and I ever became romantically involved and then it didn't work out, it would be rather awkward and uncomfortable if it didn't work out. Kind of like dating a co-worker. So maybe it was timing, pressure's off, I'm moving away, and I'm soon to be not her neighbor anymore. I really like this woman, and I finally had the guts to tell her how I feel about her, she seemed to take it pretty well, and I was prepared for the worst, but now she wants to trade pics and phone numbers with me, and she does want to hang out in the coming weeks, so I think I cracked the ice. So scary before you do it, but once you dive in, it's not so bad. Like a chilly swimming pool.

I'm really happy for you! I hope you two end up together and it works out for both of you.

To new friendships!

I had to tell her, despite my gut instinct, and my shyness, but I will be gone by January's end, and it will be really difficult for me to contact her after that. My friends kept telling me, if you really do like her, be honest and open and tell her how you feel about her. Well I did, I took the dive, and I came away feeling happy about it, and now she knows I am attracted to her and she told me she always has been to me. And I really like her as a friend and the possibility is open for more if she wants. She knows I'm only moving across town, but before I do, we need to trade numbers and e-mails. Then we can go from there. It's true, your next one is when you least expect it, not in a bar or a website. Well it can happen in a bar or a website, but I really love it when love blindsides you out of nowhere anytime anyplace. It's the waiting that kills you.

Even if it's only a friendship, I'm cool with it, and so is she. And now I know that she knows, there's no more guessing involved. She knows I like her and she knows that I want to be more than just neighbors. I hope it all works out, friends or more.

Before this gets lost in the yesterdays, I just want to say at least for me, it's worth the risk and tell them how you really feel, winning hand or losing hand, at least you played. If you didn't tell them and it's too late, you folded a winning hand, you'd be kicking yourself right now. I took a chance and I told her, and she showed her hand, and she likes me and she wants to build on that. I feel pretty good right now, I'm not cocky, but I know I told her how I felt and didn't let it slip by.

im curious here... if you respect her relationship.. im wondering why you are discussing to her of having one with her?

Yea

Its nice you let your feelings out

now

let her return to her ralationship
and live in it how she deems fit

But

its good to see you opened up to someone and took ahold of your shyness!

my question to you.. if u were in a relationship with a gal.. and things werent going so well between you and she... and she had a guy living next door to her, and he was talking to her about having a relationship with her.. would that guy be respecting the relationship you and your girl had? how would you be thinking about this guy neighbor of your girlfriends if you found out?

Goof approves big pimpin!

One never knows till they come right out and say it...........hope it all works out for you.....

cracked the coconut..

lets hope one day she doesn't crack yours..

roko

Perfectly safe, here. I told her I had to be honest and open with my feelings toward her. And I will let her be her and not try to persuade her to leave her current boyfriend, but on the off chance it doesn't work out, she can always call me, and we can go from there. I am perfectly fine with never being in a relationship with her if she believes she has found happiness with the guy she's with. But now she knows there is another that finds her stimulating and attractive.

I don't blame you for stateing your feelings. I do think you are putting yourself in a very bad position giving someone you know is failing in a relationship your name and number. It is pretty much like asking for heartache. I hope you let this "crush" fade and don't mess up your life with a two timer. No matter how unhappy she was she wasn't making a good move for anyone's best interest.

I just hope it doesn't end up bad...I really really don't want to ruin the mood and I'm happy that you have such a friendship and it makes you feel better, but as bad as I might sound, sometimes people in a bad relationship are trying to escape from it and I'm not sure if she is ready just to switch over without a time-out.

Again, she might be...then it's great, but I have seen and been in the jumping type of hopping in and out from one to another and I realized that I was not up for it and I only did it because I was afraid of lonelyness and my feelings have betrayed me. Just makes me wonder if she is right about her feelings or not...not even she can tell it for sure, but again, there are happy ending stories but also bad ending ones too.

But again, I'm not saying anything bad, I'm just kinda adding a little warning a bit, to give a heads-up on this.

Good luck!

You are right in that is a crush, and I could no longer stand idly by and not tell Summer the way I felt about her. As for 2-timing, I want no part of it. I told her she needs to finish things with him and make a choice if she wants to be with me. I will not be the other man in her life, but I would be glad to be the next one, if it came down to it. Regardless of the outcome, I let her know of my crush, and a great weight has been lifted.