eh, just to add...

1. did you initiate the phone calls or did they?
2. did you suggest the meet, or did they?

I agree with the ^^, if a man is interested he will call and ask you out... if you had to do the asking, he/they may just be the doormat type with no guts... they agree to the meet and not show up...

Also, could be any of several reasons why they no show.

$.02

Email for a couple of weeks, then move to the phone depending on how often you email back and forth, but only if you both have discussed exchanging numbers. After about a month, then discuss meeting or getting together, but put it out in a friendly 'meet and greet' kind of way. Maybe coffee or something simple like that.

Never fails for me, well, aside from the actual date failing anyway...

I have to agree with your son...sometimes if a guy is only looking for one thing, they won't waste their time. So I would just say maybe you are better off!! Sometimes I think this whole dating thing is highly over-rated! Why do people want to be single and dating? Do they like seeing how many people they can get into bed or what? UGG! I would just say that maybe you should listen to your son, he is a guy after all!!

Hmmm. Maybe wise beyond his years. I never would have thought of that, but he might be right. It is at least a possibility, especially if they lied and were married.

The internet is just full of kooks and sleazebags.

I don't not understand people any more. Just the common courtesy of a phone call. It seems that today everything is done by Text or email. No one actually has a verbal conversation anymore. I had met a guy, emails and phone calls for awhile. Then the meet and greet, which weet well. After few dates, about 3 months now,we had made plans to go out, that night I get home and I have a voice message that he was tied up at work and would call and set it up for the next night. About four days later, after I had called him and left a message, I get an EMAIL saying that he was tied up with a lot of extra work and would call me when he had time to see me. To me, this was insulting, we had been talking with each other for over 3 months and all I rate is an email? What was he afraid of, it's not like we were in a serious relationship.You know the saying "needs to grow a pair, he needs to grow at least one. Just so glad I found out before anymore time was spent on a going nowhere thing.

I'd rather get an email or a text, than silence.

Out of 3 I initiated 1 meeting, but it wasn't a hot date thing. I was just in his town for other reasons and called and said ..I'm gonna be in your town. That one the strangest for that reason..wasn't even set up as a date.

I always set up any meetings casual, coffee meets. I don't do dinner and movies on a first meet. And frankly, I get tied of the constant emailing, that can go for months.
None of them come in the forums, so yeah maybe I should have taken time to get to know more.

Lady, I would beat up the guy if I were you. It's your reputation that causes guys to take you lightly and think they can get away with this. When the fourth body is going to float gently down on the Potomac or whatever the neares big body of water is to you, and some sleuthing journalist uncovers and publishes their dirty secrets, that they each stood you up, the shame will stop. Nobody else is going to stand you up ever again.

You see, the most important asset a true lady can have is her reputation.(Only second to her boobs, and third in rank after the goldmine she sits on.)

Oh ok...my reputation huh..what reputation is that?
I didn't care about a reputation in high school, surly won't worry about it now. I can't beat anybody up, I'm a pacifist.

In that case, we have to advance to option "B". You drown them in the Pacific Ocean.

I'd love to drive to the pacific, just not with a body in my trunk.

Yeah, and if you got pulled over, I don't think that they would buy the " someone else must have put that there " excuse.

I'd like to visit the pacific as well, I heard it's a lot different than the Atlantic. I love the Atlantic ocean.