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Topic: WTH?
MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Wed 01/27/10 02:28 PM
My ex husband has barely spoken two civil words to me since he left a year and a half ago. He remarried the woman he left me for a month after our divorce was final. He's put me and the kids through the wringer by not showing up for visitation or not paying any attention to the kids. Tomorrow is our youngest daughters birthday and out of no where said he wanted to take the girls out to dinner. He called and asked if I'd like to join them. He said it may sound weird but he knew I really liked the place they were going and would love to see me. WTH? Do you believe in aliens?

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Wed 01/27/10 02:31 PM
I think I do now! (((Chrissy))) Things not good in his paradise?

metalwing Joined Fri 11/14/08 Posts: 26218	Wed 01/27/10 02:31 PM
Sounds like he is feeling guilty. Even Hitler was nice every now and then.

DrRob Joined Tue 12/29/09 Posts: 419	Wed 01/27/10 02:32 PM
I think I do now! (((Chrissy))) Things not good in his paradise? lol.. thats exactly the first thought i had too.. psssst Run away!! lol

LewisW123 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 2403	Wed 01/27/10 02:33 PM
Just tell him "no thank you," and to enjoy his time with the girls. Encourage your girls to enjoy the time with their father. It's him, not you, Hon.

tribefan73 Joined Sat 05/09/09 Posts: 1323	Wed 01/27/10 02:38 PM
Yep, sure do. Agent Mulder of X Files did & that's good enough for me, lol. Seriously, your ex is an idiot. He should have been involved in your children's lives from the outset. Unfortunately, it's guys like him that make men look bad. Maybe he's had an attack of conscience, who knows? Hopefully from here on out he'll want to be more involved. When he's not involved everyone suffers,especially the children.

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Wed 01/27/10 02:38 PM
Just tell him "no thank you," and to enjoy his time with the girls. Encourage your girls to enjoy the time with their father. It's him, not you, Hon. That's exactly what I told him Lewis. He said I should come we were going to my favorite restaurant. I told him the girls just wanted him and to enjoy themselves. Joy, yes there is trouble in his paradise. It just caught me off guard. The anger and the nastiness I could deal with.

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 01/27/10 02:40 PM
Chrissy I think you handled it well

FETTS61 Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 31425	Wed 01/27/10 02:42 PM
wow sounds like he may be finally starting to feel a little guilt. good luck with that

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Wed 01/27/10 02:43 PM
wow sounds like he may be finally starting to feel a little guilt. good luck with that Mark, I may be slow but I'm not stupid. Once the shock wore off, my next thought was "I wonder what he wants".

CatsLoveMe Joined Wed 09/16/09 Posts: 4522	Wed 01/27/10 02:44 PM
He's made his bed, now he has to lie in it. Good move, Chrissy.

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Wed 01/27/10 02:56 PM
You made the right decision. I made that mistake before and I regret it....

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 01/27/10 04:03 PM
My ex husband has barely spoken two civil words to me since he left a year and a half ago. He remarried the woman he left me for a month after our divorce was final. He's put me and the kids through the wringer by not showing up for visitation or not paying any attention to the kids. Tomorrow is our youngest daughters birthday and out of no where said he wanted to take the girls out to dinner. He called and asked if I'd like to join them. He said it may sound weird but he knew I really liked the place they were going and would love to see me. WTH? Do you believe in aliens? You should go and have like some buff dude as your date. Say to your ex husband when you see him at the resteraunt, "Hi. This is Fernando, my trainer, and GOD!!!!!....is he the most excellent lover. Oh, did I mention he is a blackbelt in karate? I am so happy. How are you?" Then sit back and watch your ex's ego shrink to nothing.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Wed 01/27/10 04:15 PM
My ex husband has barely spoken two civil words to me since he left a year and a half ago. He remarried the woman he left me for a month after our divorce was final. He's put me and the kids through the wringer by not showing up for visitation or not paying any attention to the kids. Tomorrow is our youngest daughters birthday and out of no where said he wanted to take the girls out to dinner. He called and asked if I'd like to join them. He said it may sound weird but he knew I really liked the place they were going and would love to see me. WTH? Do you believe in aliens? Some people are so selfish, they don't stop to think of the other person. He's not content in his new marriage, so he'd like for you to bridge him over the gap. Then when all is well again, he'd like for you to go away- quietly. You made the right decision, never let anyone use you for their own selfish needs.

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Wed 01/27/10 04:35 PM
That is a pretty short time. I had been married to the guys ex for about three years. They had been divorced about 5 years. I put on a cook-out. All his kids showed up and I went and invited him also. Told him, all yer kids are here, you may as well come on and visit with them.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21358	Wed 01/27/10 04:36 PM
Yes, alien probes do change people. I would advise not touching him unless you are wearing rubber gloves.

LewisW123 Joined Tue 06/30/09 Posts: 2403	Wed 01/27/10 06:37 PM
I remember my ex invited me into her new house, shortly after the divorce was final, to sit in front of her fireplace with a glass of wine and talk about the kids. The conversation quickly turned from pleasant to accusatory and I left running out the front door as she dumped her glass of wine over my head. The wine stain ruined my jacket, but it was worth it, just for this story.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Wed 01/27/10 07:06 PM
I remember my ex invited me into her new house, shortly after the divorce was final, to sit in front of her fireplace with a glass of wine and talk about the kids. The conversation quickly turned from pleasant to accusatory and I left running out the front door as she dumped her glass of wine over my head. The wine stain ruined my jacket, but it was worth it, just for this story.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/27/10 07:44 PM
Sorry, ((Chrissy)). I have a similar ex. You handled it great!

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Wed 01/27/10 07:53 PM
Just tell him "no thank you," and to enjoy his time with the girls. Encourage your girls to enjoy the time with their father. It's him, not you, Hon. That's exactly what I told him Lewis. He said I should come we were going to my favorite restaurant. I told him the girls just wanted him and to enjoy themselves. Joy, yes there is trouble in his paradise. It just caught me off guard. The anger and the nastiness I could deal with. What a mature and resonable adult approach on your part. Kudos to you!