This thread is quite a good illustration how women has absolutely no idea what happening and what is the current situation. Maybe in Texas you got jobs, but regardless....

Even guys who still have some saving or a job will not go around and throw the money around aimlessly for some barely known woman off the net in today's world, especially knowing that he might never see her again.

Your ideal boyfriend was in 2006 or before, maybe 10 years ago, if you are looking for someone , things have changed and if you won't keep up of how things are, you will be up for a cruel wake up call.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBIJH6--vsM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4P3sdOUxco

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=loNB3Px2NQk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46r4yxttThw



Xenomorpheyes you really need to wake up because not even minimum paying jobs are available!

Oh youd love MY broke ***.

Lord ain't that the truth...............

Umm..how do you move in with a homeless person?

As they say, love don't pay the rent. I know that's not romantic enough for some people, but it's the truth.

I'm perfectly aware of the economic situation of this country. I don't need to wake up to it. I will stick to my statement.

And trust me, I don't need a man to support me.

I do

I pray that you are not serious. Since when is dating a luxury? Why is it that you have to spend a ton of money on a date? After the first meet and greet over coffee (a buck and a half), why can't a date be a walk in the park or some other freebie event? People need companionship even more so during econimic hard times. Another person to boost them in emotional ways. If you dont date when you are flint (broke), you become bitter and resentfull. Everyone deserves love and companionship, rich or poor. And its not always about sex when you date. What ever happened to good old conversation? Connecting with another person? I am a full time student and mom, I couldnt find or get a job even if I were paying the employer to hire me at this time. And to think I would have to miss out on companionship and friendship because I am out of work is nutz.

so far,there are some very good comments.
and some that made me wonder...really wonder...

however,i feel justmes and atlantis and pacific and shastas comments to be spot-on.
just my .02

ps,atlantis..that is one Scary map.

It may be your truth but not mosts. Homeless people are not permantly homes-less, residentially challenged for life you know. And, with todays economy, more foreclosures on the horizon, "another person to boost them in emotional ways' as JustMe stated , sometimes is exactly what a soul needs when they've been literally kicked to the curb. People have invited people with out a place to live into their homes because they did not judge a person by their economic status. That is one of this countries biggest ignorant problems today. You don't make $, well, you're not good enough for me...is one of the messages thats coming through from your threads. Surely...thats not what you intended, is it? Don't be so quick to look out your window and know all the facts...you could become one of those facts someday in a blink of a eye, and become another statistic even quicker.

I COULD,,,,fall IN-LOVE WITH, a street begger, if she was
only skin dirty, and had a beautiful heart and spirit! TRUTH!

the best times i ever had on a date were going to the park or the beach with a picnic. its cheap and you can talk and have some privacy but not too much so you feel safe...its perfect :)

thanks for all the input it has been so enlightening! the more i date online the more i find how much i distain the ********! it's pathetic the thoughs of some!

why do u assume that a gal with no job can not provide for herself? i dont have a job right now and i can tell u this... i can provide just fine for myself..i sure the hell dont need any man to rely on!! oh and ps! no i dont have state help of anykind. nor am i a drug dealer.. not my type of crowd.if u want to assume that too..ill tell u this.. i wont settle for anything less than i deserve either...nor do i look for a guy with money.ive learned if it is to be its up to me... and im not desperate... its a wonder i dont date much at all..why bother because i dont have a job at the time.. and people assume i want to sponge off them lmao!!!! no thanks! id rather be alone..

I never assumed any such thing! I can care less what a woman has! I care about the person not what they have! I have no idea what made u think that? It has just been my experience that online dating is kinda like a blind date. So i tend to lean toward "hey lets just be friends and see where it goes". it's kind of a turn off when a woman expects you to wine and dine them for the pleasure of meeting them! Now once i have met them and invited them it's different!

i prefer to meet as friends too.. since they are strangers.. not like you have hung out and going on your first date.. or have been around them in person.. if i meet someone i actually prefer to pay for myself... u think that people from online are any differnt that ones you meet somewhere else that u met once in person? and u ask them on a date? im sorry but people u meet in person too will have u wine and dine them more often likely.. cause if they are that kinda person.. they will do it anyway..and worse yet already met u lol!! and agreed to go on a date with you...i remember this gal long ago i knew..<my friends roommate> we all went out . i was hamiliated.. when she picked up a guy at the bar and had him buy us all drinks! all 4 of us!.. i think all my life and i used to go to bars i had a whole 2 drinks bought for me... one was coffee lol! from a stranger that is..one was sent to my table from a guy i didnt even talk to first!

If you date or marry for money.... It'll be the hardest job you ever had!

I see nothing wrong with spoiling the one I am attracted to... If she likes me for it.... Fantastic! Those who complain about not having money should seriously consider their insecurities about the moolaw$$$$...

PS: Spoiling comes in many ways... be creative! Most of you baboons can't come up with nice words or nice gestures even when you have money. shhhesh

Money isn't the only factor to date..actually has very little to do with it. My best date ever (which was quite some time ago) was a couple bottles of water and a hike through the canyon.
I was married to a man with money..it never made me feel loved..I took my boys and left. I'd rather live in a camper in the woods, cook beans on a open fire and feel completely loved and safe than go out to a 200 dinner anytime...

OP: I do not find that women are unemployed or have high expectations of my salary...

I do not tell women how much money I make, it's none of their business... perhaps if we were considering co-habitation or marriage I would talk financial specifics... if a woman wanted to know how much money I make, I would show her the door. I do, however - have criteria to the types of women that I do date. I am attracted to confident, strong women who do not need rescued - and are college educated. I find, for me - the type of woman that I end up with using that criteria are professional types (lawyers, doctors, executives) but not all have been. I have dated hair stylists, aestheticians, sales people - professionals in their own right... I am not driven by how much money thay make.

What they do expect is that I have my S**T together, and that I am not an azz... as I expect the same from them.

Perhaps you need to raise the bar a bit.

Also, it depends upon the image you are projecting... if you are projecting "I've got lots of money" - it becomes easy for a woman to begin to assume certain things...

So, basically I disagree with my own experiences as an example for myself, but I can understand how a guy could feel the way you describe - if he's not being "strict" in the type(s) of women he is trying to date...

$.02