To be fair, this is for the Women






Regardless of how handsome or dashing they seem, there are men out there that just spell trouble when it comes to having a serious relationship. It’s not that they’re bad boys or heartbreakers; they’re just not commitment material.

Why, you ask? Well the answer basically comes down to lifestyle. Whether the “avoidables” know it or not, the way they live isn’t conducive to having a girlfriend. There’s just not enough room for a person of the opposite sex.

The good news is that unlike a lot of other “deal breakers,” the traits that make some men avoidable are completely…well, avoidable. All that’s needed is a reality check and some conscious decisions. Until then, we present 5 Types of Men that Women Avoid.

1) The Man-Child

This guy is clinging to his glory days when life was less complicated and responsibility was minimal. He’s obsessed with Guitar Hero, frequently attends keg parties and considers pizza one of the major food groups.

As a gateway back to youth, the Man-Child is fun for a date or two, but the problem is that he’s not going anywhere. This adolescent-adult has problems holding onto jobs and is more interested in living the life of a fraternity brother than making a serious commitment. Women are inclined to ditch The Man-Child until he grows up a little bit and learns to live life in the real world.

2) The Roving-Eye Guy

This guy is constantly looking at every female but the one he’s with. He ogles the barrista, the woman at the bus stop, even his buddy’s wife, making his date feel inferior and unattractive. Most of us will agree that men are inclined to admire beautiful women (and vice versa) but let’s face it: Recognizing beauty and disrespectfully rubbernecking are two completely different things.

Constantly competing for your partner’s attention gets old really fast. If a man’s smarmy smile, inappropriate comments/gestures and keen interest in others are too distracting to the relationship, women pick up and move along. Even the most confident women want their men to treat them like they are the only one in the room.

3) The Cheapskate

You don’t have to be labeled a “gold digger” to recognize the difference between a man who’s frugal and one who’s downright miserly. You know the type: he brings coupons to the first date or parks 17 blocks away to avoid paying a $4 valet (or both). Ah yes, this “avoidable” is known as the cheapskate.

Now, there is nothing wrong with a guy shopping for the best deal and being conservative with his money. However, if every activity is all about finding the stingiest alternative, nothing is ever fun.

Repeatedly counting change, stealing food from work and rationing toilet paper may seem quirky or sweet at first, but this behavior is indicative of future headaches. When it comes down to it, this guy has control issues.

4) Mr. Gadget

The gadget guy is always toting the latest toys for big boys. He has the hottest phone, a high-speed boat, a decked-out luxury car, and the newest Harley (for those weekend drives). In other words, this guy has a lot of material things keeping him busy. As a grown-up kid who can't resist the new plaything of the moment, he has a hard time keeping his attention on women. After all, who can compete with technology when it changes at lightning speed?

Whether he is out to impress others, or he constantly needs to trade up to feed his own ego, this guy cares more about stuff than people. (Bad sign.) With this kind of outlook, women who date Mr. Gadget are often left wondering if an upgraded model will make them obsolete.

5) The Mama's Boy

The Mama’s Boy probably still lives with his parents in their house, allowing Mom to launder his clothes, make his bed and cook his meals. (In many cultures, it’s not unusual to live with one’s parents forever, so living at home isn’t necessarily a deal breaker.) However, when a man delights in being waited on hand-and-foot by his mom, there’s trouble.

Mama’s Boys expect their girlfriends to cater to them endlessly and they never understand why that would be a problem. Most women realize that instead of trying to raise the man over again, it’s better to leave the parenting to his indulgent mother.

Finding Mr. Right

In all fairness, these guys aren’t all bad and maybe they just need a patient partner to come in and show them the light. Just because he relishes saving money, loves his mama and delights in playing Grand Theft Auto IV until dawn, all that doesn’t make him unworthy of a relationship. However, women avoid these challenging fellows because they still have some growing to do.

Remember, not everyone will come into your life ready-made, but there’s a difference between dusting off a diamond and fighting a battle you’re never going to win.

5) The Mama's Boy

The Mama’s Boy probably still lives with his parents in their house, allowing Mom to launder his clothes, make his bed and cook his meals. (In many cultures, it’s not unusual to live with one’s parents forever, so living at home isn’t necessarily a deal breaker.) However, when a man delights in being waited on hand-and-foot by his mom, there’s trouble.

Mama’s Boys expect their girlfriends to cater to them endlessly and they never understand why that would be a problem. Most women realize that instead of trying to raise the man over again, it’s better to leave the parenting to his indulgent mother.


Heheh my son is living at home for now anyway and well he may be called a mama's boy in one sense but they will find out real quick this mama don't wait on his *** nor does his clothes for him. He is grown and on his own ohhh and hell we both cook about the same amount of times during the week for actually he is a damn good cook at times I must have to admit he has far surpassed me within some areas of cooking...

But then as soon as he has a steady job and caught back up his *** is gone lmao but that is the way of life and he knows it......

Will have to admit some of these things are pretty much right on the money though..............

i married the cheapskate... and no he did not start that way and yup he has ALOT of control issues...but i still get my way

persoanlly I think being frugal or a cheapskate should add to a relationship...he parks 17 blocks away, wow, exercise, quality time spent walking and talking, plus it takes a lot of effort to be a cheapskate to the 9th degree......I wish I had the patience...and consider this, while he's saving every dime, that's more she can get when she finally leaves his a.s.s....lmao

what of the man who spends freely, and gives her everything and she's sleeping with the gardener....hmmm, think we need 5 types of women to avoid as well....

From eHarmony no less:


1) The Flirty-Bird


Men love women who flirt. Men are drawn to a good flirt because besides being fun and charming, she’s definitely not shy. The flirter shows interest right off the bat, making the “getting to know you” aspect of courtship all the more easy. For a guy, not having to do all the work is a relief.



But there’s a difference between a situational flirt and a serial flirt, and the latter is something that men just don’t want to deal with. A serial flirt giggles, touches, and tosses her hair at everyone: the best friend, the boss, the father. A woman who bats her lashes indiscriminately seems like a challenge at first—How do I get her to just pay attention to me?—but that game gets old really fast.



After a while guys realize that the Flirty-Bird needs constant attention because she’s stricken with major self-esteem issues. An extremely confident and patient man may be able to deal with this kind of behavior, but he’ll probably run himself ragged before realizing that the Flirty-Bird isn’t worth his time.



2) The Commitment-Phile


Imagine that you’re a guy for a second. You meet a fantastic woman and you’re having a great first date. The lighting is just right and the food is perfect. You’re sharing a great conversation and just beginning to get comfortable when…WHAM! Your date starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and Big Lug, the name of your future dog.



It puts a lot of pressure on a guy right off the bat. In any healthy relationship, the first couple of months—and especially the first couple of dates—should be kept light. A woman who fast-forwards to the happily ever after makes guys wonder if they really are her perfect match. With such a speedy narrative, perhaps her plans are all about fulfilling her dreams regardless of who is standing across from her at the altar.



3) The Cling-On


A needy nuisance, this gal can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She adopts his interests, calls 15 times a day and flies off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor his behavior. The Cling-On is more work than a relationship deserves. She is there at your beck and call and relies on you to entertain her because she basically has no life of her own. The Cling-On smothers any chance of a guy missing her by robbing him of energy and exhausting his patience with her demands.



4) The Party Girl


When men meet this ball of fun, they think she is the life of the party. She’s carefree, maybe a little wild, and from the outside looks like a person they may be interested in. Once they get a closer look, however, they realize that her entire life is a party. While a guaranteed good time may seem like a good idea, what will she be like in the sobering light of day?



Her hilarious antics, outgoing personality and righteous dance moves are good in small doses, but the Party Girl doesn’t know the meaning of “closing time.” It’s hard to have a healthy relationship with a person who is masking major problems underneath his or her party hat. Plus, we all know that people who can't amuse themselves without mind-altering substances just aren’t any fun when the party is over.



5) The Windbag


Yakkity Yak. The Windbag is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seeming only concerned about what is going on in her life and sharing her prattling insights, this Chatty Cathy also has Drama-Queen tendencies (not good).



The Windbag’s rambling renditions drive men crazy for obvious reasons, but they also make men feel a little obsolete since they can go on and on without anyone else’s input. Most people think it takes two to have a conversation, but not The Windbag.



Women are more verbal than men and get a bad rep for being garrulous. The Windbag, however, doesn’t know that the sound of silence is golden. She needs to learn that the more you talk, the less you learn.



Finding Ms. Right



While there are exceptions to the aforementioned personality types, these gals present a tough road ahead. Although avoidance of women with potent personality types may make things easier, keep an open mind and remember that your perfect match may not come in the tidy little package that you envision.



Gotta love the "Cling-ons!" Ready phasers!

Remember, not everyone will come into your life ready-made, but there’s a difference between dusting off a diamond and fighting a battle you’re never going to win.

Actually this statement has more bearing to it then all the rest.........diamonds in a rough ends up shinning much longer when uncovered and will be the one there for you in the end............we should look for those more often then what we do....

Only reason i live at home still is because of stupid college expenses.

Well, I think the "Mama's boy" apply to those, who are one taken outside the house, can't tell their left hand from their right and feel completely lost and unable to rely on himself in many things.

I lived 3 years without my parents at age 14 (to 17) and my older bro was not much of a help, working at midnight shifts and sleeping through the day so I became self reliant early on. And then in 1995 to 2001 I was in the military.

Unfortunately, my dad passing away and my brother returning from Iraq has changed many things around and we can't leave our mom on her own, the house she bought she can't keep up (want to sell it but this economy sux and it won't sell) , until her benefits kick in a few years. She barely speaks English and she can't do a lot of things, because she can't lift anything anymore.

So am I a mama's boy?

lol you are right. i have been with someone who spends spends spends spends all day like the sky is the limit, not the red ink on the bank statement...so for me a cheapskate is an upgrade.
i think alot has to do with where someone is coming from.

Maybe..in a good way. The way a man treats his mother is a very clear indication of how kind, loving, generous and caring he will be to a woman he loves. I have 3 sons who treat me like a queen...I know the women they love will be treated very well because of that.
Your mother..and myself are very fortunate indeed.

Atlantis75


i think that you are being helpful. what we women think of as your typical mama's boy is usually the man who a)never moved out on their own and they are 35 b) dependent on their mom, like oh no if mom isn't home, what will i have for dinner? c) disrespectful to their moms d) doesn't know how to operate a dish washer or washing machine.

so i think you are in the clear. and any woman that finds out you live with your mom and stereotypes you because of that.... u dont need her.

all people are different and should be treated that way. Most everyone exhibits all of those traits at different times

forcing men and women in to pre conceived templates does them an injustice and is a indication that the preconceiver is really pretty shallow and incapable of looking past the surface to see the real person underneath

Well, if it helps, I (personally, me) also own a house and 2 acres all paid for with no bills somewhere else, currently unoccupied, it's in another country. That's my fall-back plan, currently used only when I go for a vacation in Europe.

Thanks robin!!

Otherwise I'd be a windbag for life!'

I agree. It would keep some of us out of trouble

People can say or think what they want to but to me living at home with your mom does not warrant a mama's boy.

Now if he can't decide things on his own and under her foot all the time and has to ask if he can go or come now that is a mama's boy.

Myself like I said my son is living with me at the time and even when he is not he calls me 2-3 times a week. Hell I love it that he thinks enough of me to always keep in touch with me.

But as far as what he does that is his own business he comes and goes as he wishes but if I'm not around he does call to make sure all is well. To me that is nothing but pure love........... For he is very much a man in every way...

I find no greater glory, than to change someone from a self destructive or evil path path to someone entirely else, someone who never knew what else is out there and what he or she would be missing out otherwise and seeing to grow beyond all the expectations.

Before someone jumps in and says that "I don't want to be changed by anyone" that person might had someone who has received too much pressure or the "changing" wasn't for the better alternative - but equally bad - or undesired direction. I have never seen someone forced to like something. You can't like something by someone else forcing you to like it.



It's a littlebit off topic, but just running my thoughts.

Awwwwwwwwwww there is a difference from changing someone and opening their eyes to see what else it out there......

No, you're not Atlantis. Yours is by circumstance. When you choose to live with your parents and share personal information about your girlfriends to your mother, you are a mama's boy. If you always worry about what your mother will think, live at home and have her do everything for you just like in grade school, you are a mama's boy. You can never give a mama's boy enough attention, nor can you compete with how their mother takes care of them.

I just got rid of one who's 39. His 43 year old brother also has lives at home. They choose this even when they are working. They don't ever grow up because everything is so wonderful at home. Mama says they can do no wrong and they believe it. They will never have a successful relationship in my opinion.

I agree. This day in age the way the economy and such are it's difficult for some to cover the costs of what they need. I've been contributing for a while much like Atlantis. Doesn't help when your 17 year old sister decides to bring a child into the world with a dead beat dad.