Whatever step is being taken is irrelevant. It could moving in together, getting a dog, buying he a ring, setting a date, getting married, having children. Each step requires a life changing decision. Each step needs to be weighed carefully.



As I have stated a number of times, she is an adult and fully able to make her own decisions. Her emotional wellbeing is her own problem. If she continued to nag me about it, I would tell her to go as I do with all nagging. I always say the same thing, "there's the door." If she isn't getting her needs met, go, please, don't let the door hit you on the way out. The world is filled with men, why waste you time with a jerk like me?

But, they never leave.

This is just going in circles. There is nothing new here. You ladies keep putting forward the same arguments and I have refuted them all several times now.

I do want to meet someone and find a place and retire and all the rest. But, I don't want to be pushed into it in the same way a woman doesn't want to be pushed into having sex too soon. She must allow me the time I need to feel comfortable. This is why I do not break it off. I'll even give you my time table. Once we've been together five years, it's time to get a place together. Ten years and it's time to get married. As for children, I'm done with that. If she tells me she wants children, I stop having sex with her.

I'm sure many will say this is unreasonable, but it's my time table and I'm holding firmly to it.

It's not as if we're talking about 13 year olds here. She's an adult and capable of making up her own mind. If she wants to leave, it just shows me she isn't the right girl for me. So, as you say, no hard feelings.

But, if she stays, she knows what she in for and the responsibility is her own.

Rough sex was invented to solve this kind of crisis. Ok....it might not be the "correct" way to actually solve the issue, but angry sex is good. Just sayin.....