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now I have to make noises???? I'm really messing this up.
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I like my type, it works for me.  You didn't use your heart, did you? Those things are notorious for going bad and making people do the wrong thing...mine went out years ago, I'm assuming Lex has a bad model version. The parts are no longer available. |
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i'm not against being attracted to someone for looks... or for lust.. i'm just sayin... take the leap of faith once in a while. It doesnt work for everyone. Its not suppost to.... but the excitement and follow up after the risk is usually worth while. Whether it is by finding someone new, or because you've begun to learn from the mistake.
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I like my type, it works for me. You didn't use your heart, did you? Those things are notorious for going bad and making people do the wrong thing...mine went out years ago, I'm assuming Lex has a bad model version. The parts are no longer available. Did you try ebay? I hear they have everything.... |
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now I have to make noises???? I'm really messing this up. I never pegged you as the quiet type.  
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I've never been attracted to one particular type before. I just like who I like.
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One thing that'll help people on the single road, is to realize that "types" are overrated. Yes, there is always going to be a certain physical or personality characteristic that you will be inevitably drawn to, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give people without those characteristics a chance. Your heart is going to be drawn to whatever it feels the most connected to, and more often than not, you can't control that. What do you say, why not let your heart decide? I agree on most points. I very much agree that sometimes, it is surprizing to whom you are attracted... I let my heart decice the "heart aspects", my brain decide the "intellectual aspects", my body decide the "physical aspects" and my spirit decide the "spiritual aspects"... What I find, is an initial attraction based on one of the "four aspects"... and then I get to know someone to see if the other three are there in any real way.... I listed to all four parts - however, it seems to take some time to get enough information on the remaining three... make sense? This is just me btw... who knows if I am right or not LOL... $.02 
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One thing that'll help people on the single road, is to realize that "types" are overrated. Yes, there is always going to be a certain physical or personality characteristic that you will be inevitably drawn to, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't give people without those characteristics a chance. Your heart is going to be drawn to whatever it feels the most connected to, and more often than not, you can't control that. What do you say, why not let your heart decide? I agree on most points. I very much agree that sometimes, it is surprizing to whom you are attracted... I let my heart decice the "heart aspects", my brain decide the "intellectual aspects", my body decide the "physical aspects" and my spirit decide the "spiritual aspects"... What I find, is an initial attraction based on one of the "four aspects"... and then I get to know someone to see if the other three are there in any real way.... I listed to all four parts - however, it seems to take some time to get enough information on the remaining three... make sense? This is just me btw... who knows if I am right or not LOL... $.02 there's nothing wrong with what you said. especially since there is no real "right" or "wrong" answer. But the way you go about it is very strategic and seemgingly successful. |
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You need to be attracted to a person for a relationship... 
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i compeltely agree with that
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You need to be attracted to a person for a relationship... arranged marriages are more like business contracts. Would you voluntarily be with someone that you aren't attracted to? Attraction is one aspect. Another are being attracted to the inside was as well. Just as someone that doesn't have a good heart or not part of the mental attraction....wouldn't work. Dating someone based on looks alone rarely works. saying you need to be attracted to someone was my opinion. If you have a different opinion....then that is what is right for you, not for me |
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Edited by
LeighAnna9
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Mon 03/15/10 01:06 PM
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Well, my motto is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I love the type of man I'm attracted to, he makes me happy, he excites the hell out of me, he gives me dirty thoughts all day and all night, I love looking at him, his voice is sexy and makes me weak, he's really smart and clever (I'm not into "funny" men, I think they're annoying), I look forward to talking to him all the time and it's never enough, I love obsessing over him. Why in god's name would I ever want to give that up just to say I made a change? No changes, not ever, not for me. But whatever works for everyone else, y'know?
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Well, my motto is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I love the type of man I'm attracted to, he makes me happy, he excites the hell out of me, he gives me dirty thoughts all day and all night, I love looking at him, his voice is sexy and makes me weak, he's really smart and clever (I'm not into "funny" men, I think they're annoying), I look forward to talking to him all the time and it's never enough, I love obsessing over him. Why in god's name would I ever want to give that up just to say I made a change? No changes, not ever, not for me. But whatever works for everyone else, y'know? |
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Well, my motto is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I love the type of man I'm attracted to, he makes me happy, he excites the hell out of me, he gives me dirty thoughts all day and all night, I love looking at him, his voice is sexy and makes me weak, he's really smart and clever (I'm not into "funny" men, I think they're annoying), I look forward to talking to him all the time and it's never enough, I love obsessing over him. Why in god's name would I ever want to give that up just to say I made a change? No changes, not ever, not for me. But whatever works for everyone else, y'know?
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Well, my motto is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I love the type of man I'm attracted to, he makes me happy, he excites the hell out of me, he gives me dirty thoughts all day and all night, I love looking at him, his voice is sexy and makes me weak, he's really smart and clever (I'm not into "funny" men, I think they're annoying), I look forward to talking to him all the time and it's never enough, I love obsessing over him. Why in god's name would I ever want to give that up just to say I made a change? No changes, not ever, not for me. But whatever works for everyone else, y'know? See, this is my whole problem. The type I'm attracted to became extinct around 1999. |
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arranged marriages are more like business contracts. Yes they are, and I suppose that not being in control is scary, but the facts speak for themselves and I was only pointing that out. When people "choose" based on attraction - the divorce rate is high. If "attraction' was so important to a good relationship, then that wouldn't be the case Another are being attracted to the inside was as well. LOL... yeah, in a perfect world people would be like this, but we both know that's not the case... What's the FIRST thing that most people do when they review a profile? They look at the pictures, and sometimes that's all they do... do you really think that those people are going to get married once and stay married? I don't... and the divorce rate among them backs that up... saying you need to be attracted to someone was my opinion. I wasn't debating your 'opinion' - and I'd be the first one to defend your right to have one... I was debating the way you worded it... which was trying to make it sound like a 'fact'... which obviously it isn't. Attraction is not a 'need' - it's a 'want'...
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Edited by
AGoodGuy1026
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Mon 03/15/10 01:21 PM
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You need to be attracted to a person for a relationship... perhaps consider there is less divorce in arranged marriages (if in fact this is true) - due to cultures that implement arranged marriages - are NOT tolerant of divorce... you assume all arranged married couples are blissfully happy - and do not have the problems (infidelity, abuse) that non-arranged marriages do... $.02
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Well, my motto is "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." I love the type of man I'm attracted to, he makes me happy, he excites the hell out of me, he gives me dirty thoughts all day and all night, I love looking at him, his voice is sexy and makes me weak, he's really smart and clever (I'm not into "funny" men, I think they're annoying), I look forward to talking to him all the time and it's never enough, I love obsessing over him. Why in god's name would I ever want to give that up just to say I made a change? No changes, not ever, not for me. But whatever works for everyone else, y'know? See, this is my whole problem. The type I'm attracted to became extinct around 1999. I knew something epic happened that year, just wasn't sure what!
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arranged marriages are more like business contracts. Yes they are, and I suppose that not being in control is scary, but the facts speak for themselves and I was only pointing that out. When people "choose" based on attraction - the divorce rate is high. If "attraction' was so important to a good relationship, then that wouldn't be the case Another are being attracted to the inside was as well. LOL... yeah, in a perfect world people would be like this, but we both know that's not the case... What's the FIRST thing that most people do when they review a profile? They look at the pictures, and sometimes that's all they do... do you really think that those people are going to get married once and stay married? I don't... and the divorce rate among them backs that up... saying you need to be attracted to someone was my opinion. I wasn't debating your 'opinion' - and I'd be the first one to defend your right to have one... I was debating the way you worded it... which was trying to make it sound like a 'fact'... which obviously it isn't. Attraction is not a 'need' - it's a 'want'... The way I word things doesn't seem to matter in forums any way I can clearly state it's my opinion and that doesn't matter to some lol....so I don't always say it's my opinion, since it doesn't seem to matter any way There are people in arranged/unarranged marriages that are unhappy and happy. There are many reasons people don't separate or divorce. That is their choice. There are many types out there....some might only like a certain color hair/eyes, race, religious/spiritual beliefs, height, etc. I see nothing wrong with having a type. I date guys taller than me. |
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I wasn't debating your 'opinion' - and I'd be the first one to defend your right to have one... I was debating the way you worded it... which was trying to make it sound like a 'fact'... which obviously it isn't. Attraction is not a 'need' - it's a 'want'... A relationship isn't a 'need' - it's a 'want.' |
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