If you should gather like 100 ppl who have been in a relationship b4 but had to break-up; you'll see at least 40 ppl who'll tell u that they still have feelings 4 their ex. I wanna know why ppl break-up when they still actually love each other and how can u win an ex back?

it's because going forward in the relationship is too hard and doesn't make any sense in going on. sure, love may still exist between the two but if things were rocky in the relationship...then maybe it's better to cut all ties. that is the sign of true love. you want them to be happy and successful and if it isn't with you...then you will have to accept that decision and move on. now, as for the getting back part...it's simple. the comfort level bewtween the two is known and nothing is strange or odd.

Why would a person want to “win” an ex back?

First, people are not prizes to win; you earn someone's trust and devotion.

Second, ex’s are ex’s for a reason. It’s poisonous to dwell in dysfunction and put energy towards something that didn’t work in the first place.

Take and ex back? No! Never! Not going to happen!

i agree...i wouldn't take an ex back. it's just the mind set involved with moving on. some people are afraid to go forward without their comfort zone.

Just because one still has "feelings" for an ex doesn't mean they are meant to be together....

Life moves not backwards, not tarries for yesterday...

Gibran

Having feelings is normal but it doesn't necessarily mean should get back together.

Oh I have feelings for my ex allright - All of them BAD!!!!


If you want your ex back, I know some realitors who can get you a great deal on oceanside property in Kansas.

Nothing to win back, only more heartache and destruction. You can't save a condemned building.

I wouldnt want an Ex back.

me neither

Why wouldn't you have feelings for an ex?

Were you brain dead when you were first attracted to them?

Was the intimate aspects of the relationship so terrible you just HAD to be with them, from the get go?

Of course people have all sorts of feelings for their ex...be they good bad or ugly...(the feelings, not the ex... ).

There will also always be a certain percentage of people who are incredibly unsorted, with low self esteem, or co dependent...neeedy greedy...and if they were the dumped...may cling to the 'delusion' of what they thought they had...and want it back.


it's not bloody rocket science.

Mine was one was BAD to my kids,,the other BROKE my trust..
BOTH,,,,should never happen ONCE,,let alone,,MORE than that,
AND BOTH OF MINE HAD MORE THAN ONE CHANCE to be better.
THEY,,,just didn't WANT TO BE!

BUT,,,YET,,hate does NOT last forever,,as WE both or all THREE,
still remain friends,,but NOT over THAT line...wink

I think you'll always have feeling for your ex whether they are good or bad feelings. Doesn't mean you want to get back with them!! I threatened my ex for years that I was leaving & finally one night I got up the nerve & left. Ended up sleeping in my car that first night!!

I agree with An ex is an ex for a reason. I am the type of person that likes to remember only the good times but then I have issues with people taking advantage of my kind forgiving ways. Ending a relationship is not nessasarily a negative thing- if you learn something! And I have turned a lot of bad relationships into wonderful friendships!
No reason to go back with an ex....if you care for them you can show it in friendship and hopefully use what you have learned in a new relationship that will work out

Having feelings for and ex and wanting to be back with them are two totally different things. I don't wish any harm to come to anyone within my past.

We had a history there I was once in-love with them. But... for what ever reason we broke up the trust and love was broken. Therefore I'm no longer in-love with them when the time of break up came about. I still cared about them but not enough to stay with them.

I'm one that once they are and ex I have tried everything possible to mend what ever happened that brought us to that point. And it has come to the time to realize it was not meant to be and walk away...

I still miss my ex, but my aim is getting better

heh heh...............umm.......uhh...........why.

I agree an ex is an ex for a reason. But one might not be smart enough to get that the first time around. I had a double ex because we remarried. You will probably read in these forums sooner or later that sometimes one has to go beyond their comfort level to get a different kind of person. My double ex and me had a good comfort level. We learned in our first marriage that neither of us were going to give an inch. In other words, we were both compatible up to a point and both really too scared because we were both wall flowers to really date. It was a good enough relationship but we both were looking for something more. She and her mother noticed that my next wife and me were happy. I noticed that her new husband were happy. I got the friend I had always wanted and I think she got that too in her present marriage. I got so lonely after my last wife died and at my daughter's graduation I got to spend some time with my ex. For about 15 minutes we could be civil with each other. It was a nice graduation and my daughter was glad we were together for it. It was uncomfortable for my ex father-in-law and me but not for my ex mother-in-law. She still likes me. Weird, huh? I noticed my double ex's husband has really put his foot down with her which was advice my ex mother-in-law said I should have done. Live and learn, huh? I just never liked being controlled. I think that is when you really know when you are over the relationship because you are happy for them in their new relationship.

i agree what most people are saying "an ex is an ex for a reason" i just recently got out of a relationship a yr and some months, but what i thought about it is that we werent meant to be like she had her ways and i had my ways. I guess eventually me and her got used to being around each other that we didnt even know what true love was. All i can say is dont try to win the ex back unless you really messed up and thats the reason why yall broke up other than that learn your mistakes from that relationship to better yourself for the next one. God has a purpose for it if you arent with her its because theres something better later on just have to be patient. I had to learned that the hard way trust me.

Why? That's why they are a X.

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