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A guy friend from one of my old jobs got in touch with me online last week. We've talked off and on over the years as we've seen each other in town. No biggie.
Invited him out, sat and bs'd about life in general. I was mildly irritated with his going on about being out of a relationship for 9 months now, and that's the longest he's ever been :gasp: alone. Now I'm getting all this crap about how he'd like to take care of me, learn to farm and ride horses and such.  Apparently my comments about no one with kids went right over his head! And let me state I have no issues with teachng someone to ride a horse. It's rather fun and something I enjoy. The farming isn't that hard, it's just work. It'sthe context that bugs the crap out of me. I get that guys seem more inclined towards thinking about sex, but for cripes sake, can no one just be friends. I get the loneliness part though 9 months certainly isn't that long. Get back with me in 2 years + and then we'll talk. So now I'm stuck with essentially telling him to just leave me alone. "Cool it" didn't work tonight. Why do guys (and yes, I'm aware, gals too) go into this obsessive mode?! |
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I wouldn't know but I have no problem ditching obsessive people...you can't beat around the bush with those kind of people..tell him to get lost
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Say you'll only go out with him again if he mucks out the horse stalls for you.
 j/k equus, you are right. |
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Say you'll only go out with him again if he mucks out the horse stalls for you. j/k equus, you are right. Hmmm, didn't think about that. Apparently the one neighbor wants the 1500 ft of fence moved, so I could do that! LMAO! No, no thank you! I'm not that desperate! 
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Anyone that self absorbed is a bell ringer for me. If they are like that upon meeting, it's only going to get worse. I get that he was trying to be intimate with you about his feelings...and the part that he didn't give a hoot how you felt about things, or even delved in enough to know we all have felt (feel) that way sometimes. Perhaps one way to get rid of him is to tell him that. Perhaps not, some people are way to dense to even grasp you are talking to them.
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Always best to be up front with him your not interested dating anyone with kids make it clear if there is no chemistry there and just tell him ya'll could be great friends but that is all you feel towards him..... Maybe he will go for that and ya'll will end up great friends after all....
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Why do guys (and yes, I'm aware, gals too) go into this obsessive mode?! Fear of loneliness + blue balls after 9 months. |
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Thanks ya'll.
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I myself can't deal right now with a man with children if they are still underage. Grown children is fine. But, mines raised & I don't intend on taking responsibility in starting another family. I myself just had someone I've known personally for about a year to contact me tonight on another dating site. It seems so much easier to tell someone you don't know that you're not interested than someone you do! Now, I find myself in your shoes somewhat!!
 Good luck!!!
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Seems like he's lookin' to jump into a relationship... and any relationship for that matter. Be clear and straight forward! Eventually (hopefully) it will sink in and he'll find some other women to latch onto!
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I dunno...
I tell people I'm single and they start saying things like:  "You'll find someone eventually." "Ah, guys your age are all immature anyway." I know.  I appreciate it.  *nods head and smiles like a good little panda* but seriously? I've been single for 2 years now...by choice.  I don't understand why people think that is such a bad thing.  |
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Tessa - Yeh, 2 of his three kids are under 18. From what he's told me, he's never really been out of a relationship at all. This is the longest at 9 months. So apparently, he's never really had to go it alone, and can't.
Tanyaann - That's exactly how I see it. Hannah - People never stop saying that. LOL! It doesn't get any better as ya get older either
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A guy friend from one of my old jobs got in touch with me online last week. We've talked off and on over the years as we've seen each other in town. No biggie. Invited him out, sat and bs'd about life in general. I was mildly irritated with his going on about being out of a relationship for 9 months now, and that's the longest he's ever been :gasp: alone. Now I'm getting all this crap about how he'd like to take care of me, learn to farm and ride horses and such. Apparently my comments about no one with kids went right over his head! And let me state I have no issues with teachng someone to ride a horse. It's rather fun and something I enjoy. The farming isn't that hard, it's just work. It'sthe context that bugs the crap out of me. I get that guys seem more inclined towards thinking about sex, but for cripes sake, can no one just be friends. I get the loneliness part though 9 months certainly isn't that long. Get back with me in 2 years + and then we'll talk. So now I'm stuck with essentially telling him to just leave me alone. "Cool it" didn't work tonight. Why do guys (and yes, I'm aware, gals too) go into this obsessive mode?! That's why I only date women.  
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A guy friend from one of my old jobs got in touch with me online last week. We've talked off and on over the years as we've seen each other in town. No biggie. Invited him out, sat and bs'd about life in general. I was mildly irritated with his going on about being out of a relationship for 9 months now, and that's the longest he's ever been :gasp: alone. Now I'm getting all this crap about how he'd like to take care of me, learn to farm and ride horses and such. Apparently my comments about no one with kids went right over his head! And let me state I have no issues with teachng someone to ride a horse. It's rather fun and something I enjoy. The farming isn't that hard, it's just work. It'sthe context that bugs the crap out of me. I get that guys seem more inclined towards thinking about sex, but for cripes sake, can no one just be friends. I get the loneliness part though 9 months certainly isn't that long. Get back with me in 2 years + and then we'll talk. So now I'm stuck with essentially telling him to just leave me alone. "Cool it" didn't work tonight. Why do guys (and yes, I'm aware, gals too) go into this obsessive mode?! That's why I only date women. 
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Tessa - Yeh, 2 of his three kids are under 18. From what he's told me, he's never really been out of a relationship at all. This is the longest at 9 months. So apparently, he's never really had to go it alone, and can't. Yep, that would rule him out for me! And LMAO at Totage!!
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Edited by
mscherbear
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Wed 04/28/10 09:48 AM
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