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Topic: Mothers
CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:23 PM
This topic is for those who would like to respond about their relationship with their mother. Not if you are a mother, but what is it like between you and your mother? And if she's gone now, what was it like? Mother's Day is coming up, and of course we're all going to lay it on a little thick with Mom because it's Mother's Day, but honestly, really truly, don't hold back, what is your relationship or history with your mom, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lets hear it.flowerforyou

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:28 PM
Honestly...I don't speak to my mom very much any more. She doesn't stand up to her husband and all of the things he does. She basically just doesn't want to be alone and will let him do things to her kids and grandkids that aren't right.

CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:39 PM

Honestly...I don't speak to my mom very much any more. She doesn't stand up to her husband and all of the things he does. She basically just doesn't want to be alone and will let him do things to her kids and grandkids that aren't right.


Ok, but what were things like between YOU and your mom? Without sugar-coating it. Sometimes mothers have shortfalls, it happens, I know. My mom has some MAJOR short-falls. It's all in how much effort she puts or put into her relationship with you, not what she intends. All I'm saying is that it will do far more good for people if they put a little honesty in their response instead of telling people what they think they want to hear. All mother-daughter-son relationships are not always perfect. Just be honest, if you can, everyone.flowerforyou No judgements here. Just sharing. flowerforyou

Tessa02's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:41 PM
I hated my mother. She's since passed on. I don't miss her. Can't get any more honest than that.

yellowrose10's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:43 PM
before she remarried (when I was 17) it was always her, my sister and me. We are still somewhat close and always will be, but the situation keeps her at a distance. I don't need the toxin in my life and I would gladly go to the movies or diner or something with her, but not with her husband.

She is a great mom, but in her older years, she is scared of being alone and so she puts up with her husband. I don't put up with him though.

It's more that she is older and scared and insecure.

no photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:46 PM
My mom passed away in 1997, and I miss her every day. She was the strongest person (emotionally) I've ever known -- she would have to be, to have put up with the way my father treated her for so many years -- she was smart and funny and dedicated to her work. She never should have had kids, though, as she had absolutely no aptitude for it.

CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:52 PM

My mom passed away in 1997, and I miss her every day. She was the strongest person (emotionally) I've ever known -- she would have to be, to have put up with the way my father treated her for so many years -- she was smart and funny and dedicated to her work. She never should have had kids, though, as she had absolutely no aptitude for it.



Lexy, so it sounds like you absolutely were very close to your mother. It's neither good nor bad. But what about her do you owe her tribute for? In your life or your personality, or even your DNA? You seemed to turn out okay, why do you say your mother didn't have an aptitude for child-rearing? Not everyone has a PhD in child-care, we do the best we can, some better than others. What was your praise or your beef?

CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:55 PM

before she remarried (when I was 17) it was always her, my sister and me. We are still somewhat close and always will be, but the situation keeps her at a distance. I don't need the toxin in my life and I would gladly go to the movies or diner or something with her, but not with her husband.

She is a great mom, but in her older years, she is scared of being alone and so she puts up with her husband. I don't put up with him though.

It's more that she is older and scared and insecure.


Kim, I gotta be honest with you, I've heard a similar story with Erica. You and your mom are close, but she is in a relationship you probably don't approve of. I know, believe me I know. But specifically between you and your mom, how has it been all these years? How is it today?

CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 02:59 PM

I hated my mother. She's since passed on. I don't miss her. Can't get any more honest than that.


Tess, you're not alone, it would seem that I have to go through the motions every Mother's Day, just to be nice, and to be the Good Son, but in the end, it all gets forgotten about and taken for granted, after it's over. I wish I could help her or save her, or get her to really listen to me and respect me, and truly love me, but in the end, only she can help herself, and that's what makes me so frustrated and sad. :heart:

misswright's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:01 PM
I get along great with my mom, for the most part. We have our tiffs now and again, but we always end up working through it. I drove her damn near insane as a teenager, and she's returning the favor as she ages with ragging me about still being single, but other than that, we're very close. I thank God for her everyday, without fail!:heart:

no photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:01 PM
My mom is my best friend. She lives in SC and I don't get to see her nearly often enough. We talk on the phone everyday that we can. I've made not so good choices and she always helps me, no judgment, no hesitation.

I love my Mom and can't thank her enough for being there. For being the wonderful woman that she is. For her wisdom in my sticky situations. For listening to me now when everything is a mess here.

Happy Mother's Day to all the Mothers out there!

msmyka's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:04 PM
Edited by msmyka on Wed 05/05/10 03:05 PM
This is how I feel about my mother ...



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yellowrose10's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:17 PM


before she remarried (when I was 17) it was always her, my sister and me. We are still somewhat close and always will be, but the situation keeps her at a distance. I don't need the toxin in my life and I would gladly go to the movies or diner or something with her, but not with her husband.

She is a great mom, but in her older years, she is scared of being alone and so she puts up with her husband. I don't put up with him though.

It's more that she is older and scared and insecure.


Kim, I gotta be honest with you, I've heard a similar story with Erica. You and your mom are close, but she is in a relationship you probably don't approve of. I know, believe me I know. But specifically between you and your mom, how has it been all these years? How is it today?


the relationship is her business. When her husband crosses the line with me, my son and my sister and her family, that is when I have a problem.

We have always had ups and downs, but if she can't speak up to her husband and allows him to do things without saying anything, that is when the relationship gets strained. We don't have anything to do with him and if he is around, we don't go over there. She chose him, not me. I have no problem telling her how I feel. She has done things to me that I have a hard time letting go of (not abuse or anything....just betrayal type things) but she is still my mom

delilady's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:25 PM
My Mom is 81 and I thank God for her everyday. Growing up my parents were separated and she had her hands full with 3 teenage daughters and she worked fulltime. I hated her for being so nosy and demanding. But she has always been my biggest emotional support. She was my role model for raising my sons who both adore her and I am sure hated me like I did her at times.

Today she lives an hour away but I talk to her several times a week. She has a heart conditiona and I know at anytime she could be gone but for now I am thankful that at 53 I still have her

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:35 PM
Hummmm well I was not as blessed as many were here to have their mothers around. My mom passed away from brain cancer when I was only 15 months old. But through the years I heard nothing but loving memories of the way she was. Through the stories I learned she was one of the most gentlest & loving persons anyone could have come in contact with. Never have I ever been told of one unkind thing that she ever did....

I was lucky enough to have my grandmother around for she helped raised my brother and I off and on in between marriages that my dad had or g/f. When all else failed my grandmother was always there to help out with us. My grandmother always talked about my mom of how loving she was and that we were her whole world.....

I can say that due to the way things were that I'm very close to both of my kids. I would never do anything to drive a wedge between the closeness we have. If it came to the point I was with someone and they did not get along with my kids sorry to say I would not stay with them no matter what.

So I can say even though I never knew my mom I learned to be strong emotionally and learned to love my kids no matter what they do and to never let those things come between the love I have for them. We all make mistakes and must learn to live our own lives. It has been tough but I have learned to let my kids make their mistakes and correct them on their own. But... always knowing I was here for them if they ever needed me........... :heart:

CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:40 PM
My girlfriend Erica, doesn't want to post now because she's cryin', but she loved her mother very much. They were friends and confidants together, Erica lost her in 2004. But Erica will always remember the love her mother had for her.:heart:

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:45 PM

This is how I feel about my mother ...



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papersmile's photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:47 PM
i have a great mother
i also have a great father

they've always been wonderful parents, wonderful people and great spouses for each other.

they have never let me down, never broken a promise, and have always been there whenever i needed them. they have little quirks that drive me crazy (as i suppose i do for them as well) but they are truly my best friends and i'm so lucky to have been born to them and not someone else.

no photo
Wed 05/05/10 03:52 PM


My mom passed away in 1997, and I miss her every day. She was the strongest person (emotionally) I've ever known -- she would have to be, to have put up with the way my father treated her for so many years -- she was smart and funny and dedicated to her work. She never should have had kids, though, as she had absolutely no aptitude for it.



Lexy, so it sounds like you absolutely were very close to your mother. It's neither good nor bad. But what about her do you owe her tribute for? In your life or your personality, or even your DNA? You seemed to turn out okay, why do you say your mother didn't have an aptitude for child-rearing? Not everyone has a PhD in child-care, we do the best we can, some better than others. What was your praise or your beef?


She worked hard to ensure that we had a nice place to live, food on the table, clothing, etc. -- she was good at what she did, rose through the ranks, and became one of the best-paid women in the company. I think this was actually a bone of contention for my father, the fact that she (deservedly) made so much more money than he did.

She just wasn't particularly interested in being a parent -- she did it (and admitted as much) more out of expectation and social inertia than out of any real desire to be a parent. It was just 'something people do." I basically raised myself (with the help of 2 grandmothers and an amazingly devoted housekeeper, who became my 3rd grandmother in every way but biological) and it was not always an easy process.

My only beef with her, in any event, is that I wish she would have thought it all out before deciding to follow the "norm" and become a parent. Other than that, I can have no real issues with anything else she did -- for many, many reasons, I wish she was still here today. I think I would be much more able to express my love and appreciation to her now, than I ever did when she was alive.




CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 05/05/10 04:10 PM

i have a great mother
i also have a great father

they've always been wonderful parents, wonderful people and great spouses for each other.

they have never let me down, never broken a promise, and have always been there whenever i needed them. they have little quirks that drive me crazy (as i suppose i do for them as well) but they are truly my best friends and i'm so lucky to have been born to them and not someone else.


See, you have the parents I wish I had, you can't choose your parents, but God bless the ones that have those that understand and love, unconditionally. I envy you. But I accept the life I've chosen, and I make the best of it.flowerforyou

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