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Topic: Do any of you?...
wraithme66's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:41 PM
Do any of you wonder How some people seem to find the one person meant for them on their first or second try, and somehow live blissfully ever after? Whereas... Many of you like myself have dated over and over, only to find repetitive disappointment? Is ignorance truly bliss? Or is there just something wrong with us? Are we too picky?

Dragoness's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:43 PM
I believe it is usually something wrong inside of us.

Something we cannot see or do not see as wrong.

Introspection is key when there is a pattern in our lives.

IndnPrncs's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:44 PM
I'm still working on the answer... :wink:

mbcasey's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:46 PM
Online dating has made everyone too picky. There are oodles of potential mates to choose from. Think about what it was like before all of this came to fruition.

People mainly dated who they knew in high school. Relationships were more of a lifetime investment with the other person. Now it seems it is disposable.

Goofball73's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:53 PM
At least the strippers love me.

wraithme66's photo
Mon 08/23/10 09:57 PM

At least the strippers love me.


Funny is cute once in awhile... But how about a serious answer?

mightymoe's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:00 PM
some of us just ain't meant for love and relationships...
sucks to be us...laugh laugh laugh

Goofball73's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:01 PM
Truth be told dude, the answer isn't that clearly defined. Some people are picky. Some people get close to someone, only to push that person away because they don't want to get hurt, or the timing just isn't right. Could be we don't always see that that special someone could already be in our life, such as a close friend.


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Mon 08/23/10 10:03 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Mon 08/23/10 10:05 PM

Do any of you wonder How some people seem to find the one person meant for them on their first or second try, and somehow live blissfully ever after? Whereas... Many of you like myself have dated over and over, only to find repetitive disappointment? Is ignorance truly bliss? Or is there just something wrong with us? Are we too picky?


I don’t subscribe to the theory of being too selective. We are talking about our life happiness after all.

I think the answer to your question is a mixer of (1) Blissful happiness, (2) Settling but not realizing they are settling and, (3) Settling and just dealing with it by cheating, etc.

There are a lot of people that have little dating experience and they don’t know anything else other than their fishbowl existence. Whether they chose to accept or change is just part of typical society.

Totage's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:05 PM
For me, I think I may have found love once or twice. I pull them close but once they get too close, I push away and run. Can't figure it out.

wraithme66's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:09 PM
I've had it two different ways... I've been with women who were nuts about me, and I settled until I couldn't take it anymore. And I've also been with women I was nuts about, but lost them as soon as they found something they thought was better. I've never had the whole "Happy Medium" In that sense.

jonny63's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:10 PM
Many of us want what we can't have, hmmm ring any bells? frustrated

MelodyGirl's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:11 PM

Online dating has made everyone too picky. There are oodles of potential mates to choose from. Think about what it was like before all of this came to fruition.

People mainly dated who they knew in high school. Relationships were more of a lifetime investment with the other person. Now it seems it is disposable.


Regarding online dating, I tend to agree that it's more difficult to meet and connect because the concept is so intangible. I mix real dating and online dating so I am not sequestered to just one way of meeting people. The problem is, I still can't find anyone that rocks my world in real life. People have too many issues, they lack ambition and integrity. Dating can be tiresome.

Your last statement is also true. In this modern world of instant gratification, no one wants to 'work' for anything. When something becomes too difficult - they bail. I fall into this category at times. I am so focused on finishing school and working on my business that I red flag anyone who mires my progress. I hope to find someone that just fits perfectly into my life with little adjusting. It should be that way anyway. I don't want to change a person nor will I change for anyone.

Compliment; don’t complicate :thumbsup:

wraithme66's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:16 PM


Online dating has made everyone too picky. There are oodles of potential mates to choose from. Think about what it was like before all of this came to fruition.

People mainly dated who they knew in high school. Relationships were more of a lifetime investment with the other person. Now it seems it is disposable.


Regarding online dating, I tend to agree that it's more difficult to meet and connect because the concept is so intangible. I mix real dating and online dating so I am not sequestered to just one way of meeting people. The problem is, I still can't find anyone that rocks my world in real life. People have too many issues, they lack ambition and integrity. Dating can be tiresome.

Your last statement is also true. In this modern world of instant gratification, no one wants to 'work' for anything. When something becomes too difficult - they bail. I fall into this category at times. I am so focused on finishing school and working on my business that I red flag anyone who mires my progress. I hope to find someone that just fits perfectly into my life with little adjusting. It should be that way anyway. I don't want to change a person nor will I change for anyone.

Compliment; don’t complicate :thumbsup:




Tell you the truth... In the last 2 years... I have dated 35 people I've met on the internet, and never once found one that was false in their profile, although, I was only lucky enough to find 3 in the regular world to date, and they were all horribly dishonest.

MelodyGirl's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:19 PM



Online dating has made everyone too picky. There are oodles of potential mates to choose from. Think about what it was like before all of this came to fruition.

People mainly dated who they knew in high school. Relationships were more of a lifetime investment with the other person. Now it seems it is disposable.


Regarding online dating, I tend to agree that it's more difficult to meet and connect because the concept is so intangible. I mix real dating and online dating so I am not sequestered to just one way of meeting people. The problem is, I still can't find anyone that rocks my world in real life. People have too many issues, they lack ambition and integrity. Dating can be tiresome.

Your last statement is also true. In this modern world of instant gratification, no one wants to 'work' for anything. When something becomes too difficult - they bail. I fall into this category at times. I am so focused on finishing school and working on my business that I red flag anyone who mires my progress. I hope to find someone that just fits perfectly into my life with little adjusting. It should be that way anyway. I don't want to change a person nor will I change for anyone.

Compliment; don’t complicate :thumbsup:




Tell you the truth... In the last 2 years... I have dated 35 people I've met on the internet, and never once found one that was false in their profile, although, I was only lucky enough to find 3 in the regular world to date, and they were all horribly dishonest.


I agree drinker

There is no rhyme or reason for successes and failures. A lot of accomplishment (in dating) is based on timing and luck - well and common sense.

no photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:20 PM
I Say never underestimate the power of Denial ..
It is Truly hard to take an honest look at ones own faults..
paterns of behavior and thinking WE fall into are the answer to why were "unucky" or allways get screwed .. instead of asking why unlucky **** happens or people you date screw you over. maybe ask why am I finding these crappy people and situations and making them a pattern in my life and what actions or beleifs are leading me to these terrible situations and people.

So i guess im saying its my Fault im single..sometimes it helps to get a close friend drunk and have em pick you apart ruthlessly .. apparently im Kinda a dick and no girls that know me beleive i want an exclusive relationship because ive slept with most of the people they know.and Grown *** women dont want some fool running the streets like a fake *** don juan everytime shes not there.

so theres part of my how.. the why is the next step and I KNOW what happened to make me this way (ill keep that to myself)..

But anyway I think maybe someone can benefit from asking themselves some questions like this .. i did

CleanBathroom's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:26 PM
I have elephantitis of the genitalia.

It's really hard to overcome, so to speak.

CleanBathroom's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:27 PM
NVM ... I don't have that conditon at all.

It was Meldoy's profile that had me confused. frustrated

Beachfarmer's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:32 PM
I like boobs

Jtevans's photo
Mon 08/23/10 10:48 PM
i like boobies too much

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