I believe somethings are better unsaid........

why, do you know everyone's? if so, i hope you and santa don't compare list...

Ted: your observation is sooooooo wrong!!! But cute


Our relationship is based on

love
respect
caring


a "oneness" between us that is very rare between people

Thank God we dont see each other every day...Or we would be having so much sex out of the love...want..and need for each other...we would both die a premature death!!

We are both a little older and have found the type of relationship we both have longed for for many years...and yes...pure...raw...dirty ...kinky ole sex is part of it...which at our age we can both pull up our pants and still declare ourselves as mature adults


so yeaah I am a happy pappy in the sex dept

and so is he these days.......maybe its showing in my posts......


Sue me.......


love ya

Sounds like you're very happy, Tammy! That's awesome.

Thank you Sweets!

I'm kind of mixed on this issue. I don't make a big deal out of how many partners my love interest has had, but I definitely at least want to feel like I am not just "another notch" if you know what I mean? Part of it probably comes from the fact that I have never dated casually in my life. I've had 5 serious relationships = 5 lovers. While I don't necessarily brag about it, it's more a matter of that I can honestly say I have cherished every lover I have had because I was in love with each of them. Could I say that if there had been 20-30? Possibly...but most likely not.

Would you think less of someone you're dating if they've had several sexual partners, rather than having sex only while in serious relationships?

I can appreciate where you are coming from on this; but would suggest that as we grow and learn, so our motives and attitudes alter too. I can only speak for me of course - but when I was 18 and training for a job in which those of a female gender outnumbered the male of the species at least 10 to 1 : (nursing); for the first couple of years I was a bit like a kid locked in a sweet shop overnight .... so much choice ..... so many opportunities - and to be honest - many of my friends appeared to see sex as a release: (because when you are still young - all that death and destruction kind of wears you down). Indeed I can also honestly say that in most cases, it was the girl who zoned in on you - not the traditional male thing at all. Indeed - my relatively innocent 18 year old self was more than a little taken aback by it all at first ... (I did get used to it fairly quickly though).

The problem was that I began to discover that sex without the involvement of feelings was a rather empty experience. Like I say - I can only speak for myself here - and just maybe the physical act is not as important to me as it might be to others. At the end of the day - I moved on since when I've had a relative handful of serious relationships. For several years and because I was on my own bringing up my daughter from my first attempt at marriage I made the choice of keeping out of the whole relationship game. I didn't think it was right to have a series of partners moving through my and my daughter's life. She deserved and needed all of my attention and focus. A further failed marriage later (producing a wonderful son though - who spends as much time here as with his mum - with whom I remain friends), I chose to keep myself out of circulation for a while. Needed to sort out that baggage I mention somewhere on another thread you see.

All I am really trying to say is that we do all move through phases in our lives, and as I say somewhere above - the past IS the past. There's nothing we can do to alter it - all we can do is accept it, learn from it and ultimately - move on.

No...as I said, I don't make it an issue with anyone I am dating. I understand I am not the norm when it comes to sexual relationships. I technically have never "dated"....I had serious bf's my freshman/sophmore year and jr/sr year in highschool. Met my first husband at 18 and was with him till 32. Second husband couple months later and was with him until 2008. Been dating my current bf since the end of 2008.

Not particularly, no. I go with the "Don't kiss and tell" view. I prefer they have experience. I also want disease free because they cared about themselves and their partners to not be stupid.

The braggarts are a turn-off, and I usually never get to that point of seriousness, because they've turned me off totally. Someone mentioned notches on the bedpost, and I fully agree with that comment. Even in a relatively uncommitted relationship, sex should still be treated with respect, and the braggarts don't.

The only thing about the past sexual history of a person is if they have a STD.....otherwise.......all I care about is sexual activities since we started dating. Even if it's casual dating, I don't want to be dating someone who has casual sex while dating others. Sex is only between excusive committed couples.

Ron

I'm Clean and my Partner must be also, that is all that matters.

'k, babe...
I missed the other posts
extolling his other virtues,
which I know are important to you as well.

other peeps just wanna stir up chit...
glad that you read past that.

No one here was stirring anything up. I just asked a question that you seemed not to like. No big deal. We're all happy that Tammy is happy.

I don't need to know a number, just that none of them left him with a "gift" that he needed antibiotics for or that keeps coming back. And hopefully that he was taking precautions that someday there is a knock on the front door saying "You're my baby's daddy and we want all the money you never paid me!"

Well in our country, it does matter
Men can have all the sex partner they could
But for women--- NAH!
But I believe it doesn't matter, what matter is the guy doesn't have a disease

..at my age you're lucky if you're getting any..best not to push the issue..or it will be another seven years of celibacy...