Is there such a thing as “the one” as deals with that special, predetermined or set aside mate for you? Does that person really exist? Some say yes. I’m not one of those but that’s okay with me. I’ve always taken the attitude that if anybody has a belief in anything, go for it. Even if it’s not true you did your level best to test the waters before you just gave up and quit without having explored all avenues available to check it out. So, how do you go about “checking it out”? I don’t have an answer but I do have some observations that may interest you and cause you to think to the point that you develop your own answer. Regardless, some answer may be better than no answer. Let’s do our best to deal with this subject because it is a pressing and important issue for both male and female who are considering finding a mate for life, if that’s possible. Considering that “something is better than nothing”, we’ll proceed.

Let’s say that there is in fact a perfect mate out there somewhere that needs finding. First, let’s describe that person’s attributes, appearance, character and personality. Let’s say that you are a female and looking for “Mr. Right – Mr. Perfect”. Even though you probably realize that there is no such thing as Mr. Perfect, there may be a Mr. Right. And what makes him right? He has a good and visible steady income, is reputable, well respected within the community, relatively handsome, has an acceptable physique and carries himself well. OK so far? He’s gentle, kind, loves children and animals, smells nice, loves to dance and make you laugh. So far he sounds reasonably close to what every female in the world views as Mr. Right. Oh, you mean there’s more? Yep! He must possess the demeanor and knowledge necessary to give in even when he thinks he’s right. He should be sensitive to your needs and know when and how to deal with most every situation as it develops, especially as it concerns you. Understanding without becoming confused or frustrated is a MUST!! Even though money isn’t the most important thing he may provide its none the less important and whatever the amount you feel you need should be acceptable to him without negativism becoming involved, now or later. He needs to accept the fact that you love him unconditionally and therefore reaffirmation isn’t necessary. He needs to understand that you consider all men are susceptible to indiscretions that affect the family and not to be concerned that this thinking may have an effect on the marital relationship. That’s a given – a woman thing that men seem not to possess as a general rule. He should be able to understand and deal with the future such as when the children leave home there may be the feeling of “empty nest syndrome” and be sensitive to this without feeling anything “personal” because in fact the male mate normally is considered there in case of emergencies only, such as disciplinary action when deemed appropriate by mama who doesn’t want to be the “bad guy”. If he becomes frustrated about this, he’s just having a “man moment” and it should quickly pass. After all, he should have realized from the beginning that he is just there to provide money, protection and an open ear for the family to vent and then he can go on about his business, whatever that is and wherever that takes place.

Okay – Ken and Barbie time is over so let’s get real girls. If this is your thinking, maybe you should find another woman to be your lifelong mate. I don’t think men are cut out for that kind of life. I know I’m not. A woman’s thoughts of reality are generally considered totally unrealistic by most men I know. Neither gender is right or wrong, but are different. The differences should be accepted as that only. Right and wrong have no place in this human relationship. If you have to be right all the time, I suggest you become homosexual and find the “Mr./Ms. Right! Or can you deal with reality?

so what does that make the one, a two?

I think we have more just one soulmate in life. We learn and grow from each of them

damn this new math gives me a headache

I will tell you who he's not....stubborn as abull and won't budge......narcissitic.......lazy.......drunk...... drug addict......mama's boy.......tv watching........smells like liquor cabinet ashtray......dirty stained clothes......with bugs all over the place.....teeth missing.....*******.....without a clue.......non attentive.......non caring

If you add scratching his ballz vigorously while farting and cracking sexist remarks...I would think you are dating my ex

I forgot plummer butt too oops

Plumber butt or aka Carpenter crack

Ewwww say no to Crack!!!

i thought jet li was "the one"...

hey...i care

the penis is what grows. lol

I think anyone have their own "one" but people get it confused easily. I am young but isnt the one the girl that you would never want to hurt? The girl that doesnt have to be the hottest and you dont even want to cheat on her for more *****. The girl that you are more happy around than angry and the girl completes you. The one has so many characteristics to describe her but like i said people think they found that person, they can say they found it in someone they been with for years but doesnt mean that she is the one. Its about how you match with them no how long and not everyone can find the right one because the one can be any where through out the nation

there you go describing me in the wrong way. lol

The one

yep i do believe that there is someone especially for me.

The qualities i would look for
Are
Gentleness, patience, the ability to express love.
A strnght of character that would allow him to stand on what he believes, regardless of who did or didnt like it.
He would want to protect me from the world and hold me close to keep me safe.
he will be my knight in shining armour, the one who will never purposefully hurt me.
He will think that i am wonderful regardless of my faults, he will love my body, mind and deal with my personality.

Yep its a big ask but he is out there.

I don't know...I'll let ya know when I get done weeding through the
rest of the "wrong ones".

I've got to be close by now.

I don't think there's necessarily only ONE person out there....

Seems like you are more comforable bashing on females...not a wonder you can't find one, much less "the one."