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Topic: are you comfortable with
Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 04:25 PM
the idea of growing old without a significant other with you?

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Wed 01/12/11 04:27 PM
the idea of growing old without a significant other with you? Yep. I'm less comfortable with the idea of growing old.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 01/12/11 04:32 PM
if it has to be that way it has to be you still got family an friends

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 04:34 PM
I'm fine with growing older. In fact, I enjoy life more now than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. But sometimes I get scared of being alone. Just sometimes. Most of the time I'm good with it.

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Wed 01/12/11 04:36 PM Edited by Seakolony on Wed 01/12/11 04:38 PM
I would be okay if I had a roommate but I get afraid when I am alone........I will literally watch the windows and doors if I live alone......but would prefer a significant other to a roommate......but if that's what life offers than so be it......roommate it is I think it has something to do with my parents leaving me home alone at night without a babysitter when I was young.........

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 04:40 PM
I would be okay if I had a roommate but I get afraid when I am alone........I will literally watch the windows and doors if I live alone......but would prefer a significant other to a roommate......but if that's what life offers than so be it......roommate it is I think it has something to do with my parents leaving me home alone at night without a babysitter when I was young......... Yes, that's one of my concerns too. I have been living alone for 3 and a half years now and I still get up at night sometimes to check the doors and windows.

RowBaby Joined Fri 01/22/10 Posts: 11819	Wed 01/12/11 04:43 PM
I'm uncomfortable with the thought that maybe I've grown too used to living/being alone.

Tessa02 Joined Tue 02/16/10 Posts: 2519	Wed 01/12/11 04:45 PM
Actually no. I tell myself so many times I don't need a man to cook, clean up after, etc. But, truthfully I can't manage alone. Not financially I can do that myself. I just need someone to love & love me back. I've never really been alone & it's scary when I am. I'm the happiest when I have someone else to think of besides wallowing in my own self pity. Men...can't live with em & this ol' gal can't live without them!!

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Wed 01/12/11 04:48 PM
the idea of growing old without a significant other with you? I just have trouble with the idea of "significant other". It's a term I just can't wrap my head around, which brings up another phrase I have a problem with, but to stay focus... wait, what are we talking about again?

sparkey01 Joined Sun 12/06/09 Posts: 1877	Wed 01/12/11 04:49 PM
I'm uncomfortable with the thought that maybe I've grown too used to living/being alone. Thats what I'm thinking

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45332	Wed 01/12/11 04:51 PM
are you comfortable with the idea of growing old without a significant other with you? Not really. What will be, will be. Ask me again when I get old :-)

LMB Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 17	Wed 01/12/11 05:05 PM
I would enjoy a significant other, but don't have a need for one. If I find the right woman then of course, I welcome the idea. If it is just meant for me to raise my son alone then so be it, I'm not opposed to it. I just think that it would be more enjoyable if I had someone to share it with. Cest la vie.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 05:07 PM
I'm uncomfortable with the thought that maybe I've grown too used to living/being alone. Hmmm....yes, I can see that happening too.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 05:11 PM
are you comfortable with the idea of growing old without a significant other with you? Not really. What will be, will be. Ask me again when I get old :-) Ok I will get back to you in another 35 years.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Wed 01/12/11 05:13 PM
ruth like i said u never alone cause all ya friends an family are around

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 05:13 PM
the idea of growing old without a significant other with you? I just have trouble with the idea of "significant other". It's a term I just can't wrap my head around, which brings up another phrase I have a problem with, but to stay focus... wait, what are we talking about again?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 05:15 PM
ruth like i said u never alone cause all ya friends an family are around Very true!

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Wed 01/12/11 05:21 PM
Actually no. I tell myself so many times I don't need a man to cook, clean up after, etc. But, truthfully I can't manage alone. Not financially I can do that myself. I just need someone to love & love me back. I've never really been alone & it's scary when I am. I'm the happiest when I have someone else to think of besides wallowing in my own self pity. Men...can't live with em & this ol' gal can't live without them!! The first year was the hardest for me. I wanted someone to lean on emotionally so badly. Now I'm going on my fourth year alone. I no longer need someone to take care of me like that. I wonder if at some point you become incapable of emotional intimacy with someone. Kind of like "use it or lose it".

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Wed 01/12/11 05:23 PM
ruth like i said u never alone cause all ya friends an family are around When you really start getting older, friends die off and the kids don't like hanging out with elderly folks. You'll be lucky if they call you once a month or when they need something.

BellaV Joined Sat 09/06/08 Posts: 16223	Wed 01/12/11 05:24 PM
Great Question Ruth! I am okay with the idea. I pefer not to be alone. But as long as I have my kids and grandkids, i will be fine.