hello how do u feel if your married half became handicapt and could no longer hold you or give u sexual satisfaction what would you do?

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yes he uses a cathater so I don't want the lubrication he might still have in him

The lubrication used to place a catheter is not much more that k-y jelly. But if he has a cath in you can't have sex anyway.

I would surely feel sad if I were in your shoes, that's just natural.

Your profile said you still love each other so I guess the reasonable thing to do is to take care of your husband and remain faithful to him for as long as you're still his wife. Getting attention from somebody else (as what is said in your profile) could possibly lead you to temptation. If you really love him and is still up to keeping your marriage, I guess you shouldn't even have started wishing for an intimate encounter (as indicated in your shoutout) with another man or any other man for that matter.

Just my thoughts since you asked for it - nothing personal. Your desire and your own disposition still reign in making crucial decisions in your life.

true we have talked about different ways to go about sexual encounters and our relationship but I just wanted other peoples opinion on what they would do so if theres a new idea, I could bring it to his attention to see how he feels about it. we have been married 24 years and dont hide anything. I can't even cuddle with him anymore. I wish I had the smallest attention we shared but not anymore. It's hard to deal with.

I surely understand your situation, I know it's not so easy for you, honey. Just bear in mind that the situation you are in right now is as hard for him as for you. It's nice knowing you 2 talk to each other about it. I am no expert to this so I could only wish for you to find a better solution for this. You may hear best advise from other posters.

hanks for the input I appreciate it. Please keep in touch with me as I don't get out much to talk to others other than work related friends.

Feel free to join the forums as often as you can. People in this site are great you'll find them good friends to be.

Wish you real happiness in life

I might feel trapped, stressed, overwhelmed......yet

empatheitc, compassionate, and attentive

funny......I'm actually feeling very attracted to someone chairbound right now (I see them as FAR from "challenged")

please explain how that can be because if that person is not in the right mood or constantly does not feel well, there is no sexual involvement