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Topic: Long distance friendships, what's to far?
Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Thu 04/21/11 12:35 PM
Its never to far!!!!

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24660	Thu 04/21/11 01:03 PM
Yep...Believe!

pcheckmate Joined Sat 04/09/11 Posts: 48	Thu 04/21/11 01:38 PM
Why do women always assume the guys are going for the hit and run? I have never done that and I take pride in the fact that i don't have that mentality. I think i'm in too much of a hurry to date that i see past the time of friendship part. Thats my inexperience again.lol I have always been a quiet person I guess its time for me to break out of this shell and start talking and meeting more people. Before i get too old to start a family. Good luck on your trip. A short notice relocation would be very hard for me in this economy, i would need to sell my house and change colleges, and find another good paying hourly job. Does that sound like an excuse or hard times? Don't get me wrong i would love to be with the woman of my dreams and would try anything to get there,(anything in my power)even if I had to move, but i'm afraid of moving and things not working out. Is it a bad thing to like to talk to someone one on one instead of on the net?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/21/11 01:40 PM
((((((Emily)))) I guess it all boils down to what you really want in a realtionship. For myself personally I think An LDR could work because I don't want to be with someone 24/7. I would love it where sometimes he spends time at my place, sometimes I am at his place and sometimes not together at all. Where we could travel together ,have fun and also be apart in distance but not emotionally. Now the real problem is in finding someone who wants the same thing as I do. Hi Betty! My issue with long distance relationships is that I need to see someone to be able to get to know them and date them. I want to be able to do things spur of the moment, rather than always having to make plans and that can't happen when they aren't close by. I'm not talking about spending every waking moment with them, but I just need more than every once in a while. Long distance relationships work well for some, though.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/21/11 01:43 PM
Is it a bad thing to like to talk to someone one on one instead of on the net? Not at all, which is why long distance can be difficult.

pcheckmate Joined Sat 04/09/11 Posts: 48	Thu 04/21/11 01:44 PM
Why do women always assume the guys are going for the hit and run? I have never done that and I take pride in the fact that i don't have that mentality. I think i'm in too much of a hurry to date that i see past the time of friendship part. Thats my inexperience again.lol I have always been a quiet person I guess its time for me to break out of this shell and start talking and meeting more people. Before i get too old to start a family. Good luck on your trip. A short notice relocation would be very hard for me in this economy, i would need to sell my house and change colleges, and find another good paying hourly job. Does that sound like an excuse or hard times? Don't get me wrong i would love to be with the woman of my dreams and would try anything to get there,(anything in my power)even if I had to move, but i'm afraid of moving and things not working out. Is it a bad thing to like to talk to someone one on one instead of on the net? How many people have gone on blind dates and met someone they found would be a good friend to talk to and maybe get to know?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 04/21/11 02:10 PM
Why do women always assume the guys are going for the hit and run? I have never done that and I take pride in the fact that i don't have that mentality. I think i'm in too much of a hurry to date that i see past the time of friendship part. Thats my inexperience again.lol I have always been a quiet person I guess its time for me to break out of this shell and start talking and meeting more people. Before i get too old to start a family. Good luck on your trip. A short notice relocation would be very hard for me in this economy, i would need to sell my house and change colleges, and find another good paying hourly job. Does that sound like an excuse or hard times? Don't get me wrong i would love to be with the woman of my dreams and would try anything to get there,(anything in my power)even if I had to move, but i'm afraid of moving and things not working out. Is it a bad thing to like to talk to someone one on one instead of on the net? it doesn't sound like an excuse it sounds like reasonable thinking and I didn't mean that YOU would do that hit & run stuff just that she might be concerned about that w/e - just keep looking

pcheckmate Joined Sat 04/09/11 Posts: 48	Thu 04/21/11 02:27 PM


sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 04/21/11 02:42 PM
awww it's gonna be OK

citygurl Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 1619	Thu 04/21/11 11:31 PM
What's to far? Well.. If you really need a hug on Wednesday and you havta wait til the weekend to get it.. that's just to far

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Fri 04/22/11 03:51 AM
Why do women always assume the guys are going for the hit and run? I have never done that and I take pride in the fact that i don't have that mentality. I think i'm in too much of a hurry to date that i see past the time of friendship part. Thats my inexperience again.lol I have always been a quiet person I guess its time for me to break out of this shell and start talking and meeting more people. Before i get too old to start a family. Good luck on your trip. A short notice relocation would be very hard for me in this economy, i would need to sell my house and change colleges, and find another good paying hourly job. Does that sound like an excuse or hard times? Don't get me wrong i would love to be with the woman of my dreams and would try anything to get there,(anything in my power)even if I had to move, but i'm afraid of moving and things not working out. Is it a bad thing to like to talk to someone one on one instead of on the net? We dont always assume its just that there are enough jerks out there that we are wary. I would not even risk going out with anyone here as they seem to think that you want to immediately worship them in bed That was one of the reasons i chose the net to talk and get to know people. For me i was lucky my man will be able move, he can come here and have a job so thats easy.It just takes time. And there is nothing wrong with wanting someone there to talk to.. i would give anything to have fallen for someone who was closer to me but i didnt so we make it work. But its hard on both of us, especially if you do want to be held ond just want a cuddle and to feel safe, it is great being able to talk but it is never the same..

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Fri 04/22/11 03:58 AM
Alpha centauri would be too far... I'd be a little ole lady waiting for a reply from an email...

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Fri 04/22/11 04:14 AM
Alpha centauri would be too far... I'd be a little ole lady waiting for a reply from an email...

pcheckmate Joined Sat 04/09/11 Posts: 48	Fri 04/22/11 05:59 AM
good chat, good info....

fireflysgirl Joined Mon 10/18/10 Posts: 2957	Fri 04/22/11 06:17 AM
For me, within 100 miles isn't too far. It is a drive I can make without getting worn out b4 I get there and close enough where I can drive back in the same day. To expand on this topic, when I think about meeting a person over an hour away, I feel the need to cram as many activities into that day and get the most out of it. How many and What kind of activities do you do? And how do you plan them if you aren't familiar with the area you are visiting? What if you are meeting someone for the first time and don't want to pressure them into "lets go hang out at your place"? I don't want to drive so far just for a quick lunch and then have to come all the way back, any suggestions? You could use the internet to find out what things to do in their area. I did that before vacationing last year and scheduled a horseback ride in the mountains for my sisters and I close to where we were staying. Also, just ask her what she'd like to do.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 04/22/11 08:48 AM
For me, within 100 miles isn't too far. It is a drive I can make without getting worn out b4 I get there and close enough where I can drive back in the same day. To expand on this topic, when I think about meeting a person over an hour away, I feel the need to cram as many activities into that day and get the most out of it. How many and What kind of activities do you do? And how do you plan them if you aren't familiar with the area you are visiting? What if you are meeting someone for the first time and don't want to pressure them into "lets go hang out at your place"? I don't want to drive so far just for a quick lunch and then have to come all the way back, any suggestions? Why the need to cram everything into a day? Are you not planning on seeing them again? As for planning things in an area you're not familiar with, why not talk to the person you're going on a date with if they're from that area? Surely they can give you an idea of what they'd like to do and what is in the area.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Fri 04/22/11 11:19 AM
You can make yourself a billion rules about distance. Of course, you will make them alone. Here are some good pointers on criteria and methodology to help you build rules. There is distance, then there is direction, dominant wind directions, cost of transportation, looks and predictable compatibility. If you muliply the positive with the negative factors. you can make this produt into watershed-constant. Always make the "rule" into a mathematical expression, where you give different variables weights, positive or negative, small or big, and plug your criteria, already converted into weights of desirability, into the equation. I think this is the best way to do this sort of thing, but billions of other methods exist, such as flipping a coin or robbing a bank. (F'rinstance, you can say to yourself before the robbery: "If I get away with the loot, I go visit her / him; if I get caught, arrested, charged, convicted and jailed, then I take that as a bad omen for a relationship with this girl / guy, so I won't go on a trip to see her/him.")