l'm one of those, so what do you think is it a positive opportunity or not
sons are a divine gift a single father or mother have to get their job as a trial in this life dimension................with or without a companion

it is hard to understand what u r asking.

yes a son is a blessing, any child is

single fathers are busy people - just like single moms

and have lot of challenges

Do you mean would we date them,

Or are they a pain or what.

I love children, and they would never stop me from being interested in someone, I wouldnt care how many he had..

I would care very much about what sort of father he was, If he bothered with them, how he was with them, how they where with him, and all of that, as how he was with his children would show me what he was like as a man..

I think you get the sympathy vote
right out of the gate.

single parenting is challenging regardless of gender
i raised 3 sons alone and yes, they are divine gifts
only you can make it a positive opportunity or not
it can be lonely at times without a companion yet
it's your lot in life for now

they grow up so fast, enjoy them

When I was dating; I would stay away from single fathers. Too much baggage.

I know there are women who will not date a man with chidren, especially if he has custody...Don't ask me why I just dont know.

I personally find it extremely challenging to find men interested in dating me because of my situation..not just because I am a single mom, but because many of the men that are in my "age range" have adult children or at least teenagers. And, most likely the women they are used to dating, their children are also in that age range. My child is still in grammer school & many other people my age are grandparents.

I cant just go out with you TONIGHT! I need time to prepare, not just myself, my schedule & my child and her schedule....a sitter or what not....sorry I cant talk on the phone all day, or even whenever....I am busy , at a softball game, cutting the lawn, taking care of the pets, the laundry, making dinner, so sorry I cant drop it all to have a little chit chat with you on the telephone! I am a divorced woman of a young child...I have the responsibilites of TWO adults now... Until, I get to know you better, then our relationship has to be pretty distant from my home life.

That is the reality of dating when you have young children....& I only have ONE!
Some women may not mind, many will. Many may try, but then realize that they are tired of being last on the list. Take it as it comes. I have broken up with, or simply not dated many men for a variety of reasons, but if it has anything to do with the fact that I am a mom , I wear that one proudly!

I prefer guys with kids .....

^^this

Your kids are your most important vocation, man or woman.

children are baggage....

I'm wondering why...just out of curiosity. I do think men who have never been married and or have no children may tend to be selfish, not use to making sacrifices.
Yes, it's a generalization...obviously is not the case for all. Something along those lines for your preference?

There are many sacrifices one can make and one need not be married with kids. Men and women sacrifice their lives every day in the military. I don't consider these people selfish that gave their lives for our country.

I am in awe and gratitude to all parents who do it right. Single parents have enormous pressure and I am filled with admiration and compassion.

I have dated a couple of single fathers.


to you

I prefer other single parents as well.


parenting takes up alot of my energy and time, it is not like a single person being randomly available for another single person and I think another parent would be able to 'come to terms' with that a little easier

I also am not having anymore children but I do plan on whomever I am with being the man of the house, fully involved with my child, and it would be unfair of me to ask this of someone who(for whatever reason) had not yet chosen to be a father to children of 'his own' or who might want to be a father someday to children of 'his own'

Someone who has already accepted the role of head of a household with children would probably be more able to join their life and responsibilities with mine


Id also love for my daughter to have more siblings, which I am not going to have,,lol

I agree that single parents should probably date single parents. I don't think any single person wants an instant family. I just have an issue with those that would call a single man that has never been married or had kids selfish. There are very many people that dedicate their whole lives to helping others. Firefighters, police officers, doctors, military personnel, etc have these weird shifts as well as some travel to help those that need help and due to their job never married or had kids. My co-worker is almost 40; never married and doesn't want kids but she has dedicated her life to rescuing animals. How about those that travel overseas to help 3rd world countries? I know of men that would love to be married with kids but because they don't make enough money; women just turn their backs on them. How about handicap people that find it hard to find a partner? There are lots of reasons why men and women don't marry or have kids but to call them selfish is damn unfair. It is yet another generalization from society because they can't be bothered to find out just why some remain single and childless. Its not being selfish; its simply a choice. Don't condemn these people without knowing the facts.

I agree and disagree. Your comment "single parents SHOULD probably date single parents" is obsurd! We all should date whom we are attracted to, for whatever reason it is that attracts us to them.

As far as the "selfish" comment, having children is one of the most selfish things a person could ever do. & I can say this because I did it. My child did not request to be born in this wicked world , but I WANTED her here! Very selfish on my part.

However, now that I am a parent, there is NO comparison to the extent I will go for my child. How the selfishness had to end the moment she was born. Not even the people who dedicate their lives helping others (and collecting a check for their efforts however so small) can compare....I get paid NOTHING...I give EVERYTHING...parenting is the ultimate selfless act

no one is condemning anyone here...breathe, relax...sheesh!

for the single fathers who love their children without condemning or trying to diminish their childrens love for their mothers,,