My accepted ratio is whoever I want to date that wants to date me!

Good for you

Its normal for man and women to go for younger people. Makes them feel younger. Pesonally my self, the heart has no age, younger or older.

I guess I'm not normal ..I don't mind a year or two younger.
I did see a younger man for a little while and we are still friends..but I let my age get in the way..it just seemed wrong to me. He was only a year older than my oldest son.

Always heard, "Arm candy is nice, but to much sweets will give yo a bellyache."

Older or younger both got there good qualities but not to much age difference. Went out with a guy 10 years younger than me he just seemed so immature to me. I have a friend I see he is 5 years younger and there seems to be no age difference.

Only 5 years diff? Does that make him a "man toy" rather than a boy toy?

You got it

But not so bad I can't dance. (if I could dance)

Slow dancing isn't that hard

My thoughts are, five years on either side of your own age is right in my opinion. This age range choice for a mate to me would be a natural selection thinking of physical and mental health, similiar life values by upbringing, etc. The mates then are more closely matched. Also, aging together has benefits for a longer life with your mate.

Each person is there own judge. It seems like the topicmaster though rather than asking the question is looking for back up on what he wants ... a mate 20 years younger and by the wording of the question it looks like a guilt issue or they know it is not right but want others to say it is for assurance?

Why would you want someone so much younger is a question that comes to my mind. Do you see a true healthy love relationshp existing when there is such an age gap? For, I cannot see it as so.

I am not aware of any governing laws in the legal system to judge what should be or not but I do believe the elderly(beacuse of abuse & swindling finances issues) and the young (robbing them of natural growth development in life) should be protected as they are most vulnerable. I see the young marrying an older man or woman loses out in life in the long run. It is said the younger get older faster while the older one gets younger in such a relationship. The younger one did not experience the inbetween years but is thrust to grow up quicker missing 2 or 3 decades of natural growth.

I see large gaps in interests having been raised in different eras, meaninful conversation would be nil due to age and life experience factors, interests due to physical health may be an issue as would likes an dislikes in what you would like to do especially as the older one in the relationship retired and the other would be at their prime in their career. Men of fifty dating women of 30 is too much of a difference in my opinion.

I truly believe lives are robbed of the full richness of livelihood by marrying a man or woman 20, 30 years their senior. My opinion. Another thing I would wonder about is, and something to think about is, family relations, i.e. having a wife/husband and a child around the same age causes family breakups and problems I have known that to happen. It is not natural. I see it as destructive in many ways than benefical is my opinion or my thought.

Think it out wisely is another thought in dating to mate someone 20 years younger than you. Your conscience should be your guide. It is you which has to live with your choice in life and with any consequences due to your choice you make. Even though you ask who is to judge, you know no one is to judge anyway. You ask for a verdict, rather consultation from others to derive at a good decision is a better way to go. Once you make your bed you have to lie in it. You will get older will you be abused, robbed and left ... would the younger lady up and leave you once you body starts to break down which in your fifties is starting to naturally. Could it be mid-life crisis that needs to be dealt with before making choices in finding a mate 20 years younger. Think of the young lady's life and how it will be affected.

Thanks for asking for my thoughts.

He is a sweetie..Biker/Cowboy ...oh well

I was one year older than my last girlfriend's mother! I think that there are pluses and minuses to age gap dating. I've never understood why a woman in her 20's or 30's would be interested in a guy in his 50's or 60's; however, who am I to argue?

MIGHT be looking for a "Sugar Daddy" to pay the bills.

I don't believe in it...and don't understand it..I've know a few women who married men 30 or more years their senior..and with out fail it was for what they could get from him and all had friends with benefits on the side.

I don't believe in it for myself but as I said to each his/her own. I just can't relate to a younger guy what it feels like to age; or what it feels like to have to end a career, or what I have experienced over my life time. How the heck can I relate that to a guy who has no life experience?

TRUTH from the ladies side. Always room for an exception to the norm, but facts are facts.

To me there is no relating to that. The man in my life must have experience..life is too short to raise another kid.

There is always exceptions to any rule...but when I'm in a walker, I don't want my man on a tricycle.
unless it's motorized
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