My mom did it. My sister did it. And every girlfriend I've had did it too.

Nothing is settled until she gets her way. Example; she wants a dog. He doesn't want to live with a dog and says no. So, she waits a few months and asks again. Again he says no. She waits another few months and asks again. This continues until she wears him down and gets her way.

I used to cave in after a while, but anymore I tell her I'm not going to change my mind and she should stop bringing it up because it only starts an argument. Whatever it is she wants, or wants me to stop doing, I tell her to decide if it's important enough to end our relationship. If it is, she should go. If it's not, she should shut up about it.

Wow so it is your way or the highway no compromise....this is the reason I stay single and when I do date they keep their place I keep mine...Solves all those issues....he has his time to do what he wants or have what he wants and I have the same privilege...

So, if you don't get your way, you're fine with ending the relationship? Sounds like you're playing the same game you're complaining about, just from the other side.

a dog is a good 15 year commitment and some people don't realize this. instead of my way or the highway, you might try to explain why you feel so strongly against having a dog. she might see your point and get a goldfish, or you might see how feeble your excuses are and get a dog

You're putting your own spin on this. The point is, that so many women play this game. Games are about power and control over others. Why should I be forced to live with a dog (to use the above example) when I don't want to?

Anyone can play that game men or women. But whats so wromg with occasionally giving in and letting them have something they really want? Im sure their are times the shoe is on the other foot and its you wanting something. COMPROMISE

Except you're trying to show you control the situation as well. So again, you're doing the same thing you're complaining about.

Again, this is your spin on it and beside the point.

Let's use another example. Smoking. Maybe she's a smoker and I don't like it. I could nag her about quiting, I could accept her as she is or I could leave and look for a non-smoker. It's my feeling that options 2 and 3 are better because option 1 is starts an argument every time. Women seem to prefer option 1 and I don't understand why.

my way or the highway is pretty dysfunctional tho I appreciate your honesty because I think those of us who have been married or in LTRs have felt that way at times - so I really do understand....

but BOTH of u have to decide if u want the relationship enough to compromise. Assuming your values are similar as u are together, it is just as logical to determine that she should not have to ask you twice or bring it up a 2nd or 3rd time

a workable solution, based on your love for each other, should be determined the first time EITHER of you makes a request of the other - no one should have to feel like they must beg or "shut up" in a good relationship

perhaps a dog could be kept penned outdoors - or in a certain section of the house or garage where u don;t have to deal with it. or u could ask yourself would you rather live without your wife, or live with your wife & a dog. The dog could win, and it won't be because she wants a dog, it will be because your attitude toward her desires says "my way or the highway" and that says "I don;t love you"

please think this through & good luck as I remember how happy u were when u found your wife

true

You're generalizing based on a few women you know. I could do the same with men, but I won't, as I realize not all men are the same.

what does she say when u ask her this?

I'm showing I control my own life. If she wants X and I don't, I'm not telling her she can't have it. I'm telling her I don't want to live with it.

I am generalizing. This is because what I am saying is generally true. I've been involved with over a hundred women and they ALL did it. I've also spoken with many men and all the women in their lives did it too.

Men do it as well.

But, you're no better with insisting on getting your own way or ending a relationship, though.

if that is true it probably says more about u than the women. a partners request should not have to be repeated - afterall it really is not YOUR decision in a realtionship it is a mutual concern to work out together

I never insist a woman in my life do or stop doing anything. If there is something that I don't like going on I decide if I can live with it for the rest of my life or not. If I can I never bring it up. If I can't I leave the relationship.

Women on the hand, nag and complain until they wear a man down or push him to leave.

This isn't a threat. I never say "If you don't stop X I'll leave you." It's me knowing myself and what I'm willing to live with and what causes me unhappiness.

understood but it does seem to demonstrate your poor negotiation skills as your partner should not HAVE TO NAG or repeat herself

that is u not listening/communicating

were it me - I do not nag - I leave- so sounds like the women u know give u more chance than I would

yes it sounds immature - the inability to work through simple issues - imagine if there was something really important

I mean a pet is a pretty minor issue

Not everyone is cut out to have animals.... Many should never have them they are a lot of work ect. But it sounds like to me from what you are saying here is she wants a dog and you don't and that is the end of story.

Maybe you did tell her why you did not who knows.

Just the way you put it if you don't want to do it or have it then that is the final word she does not have a choice in the matter.. So where does the Power trip seem to fall?