You have come to the forum to seek input. As a tottaly impartial someone whom you don't know, may I offer you some compassionate and sincere observations about your situation? Your entire post reads like a veritable laundry list of complaints and disappointments. Obviously, you have had some less than pleasant experiences here that didn't meet your expectations, but I think at least part of what is happening is maybe you focus more on what DOESN'T work instead of what you WANT. Take a moment to think about what type of person(s) that perspective will attract to you.

Naturally, I can only speak for myself, but I have discovered I tend to find whatever I am looking for, be it positive or negative; and when I look hard enough for something, it WILL show up in my life. Because this phenomena works BOTH ways, I have to keep a tight rein over what I allow myself to observe into my reality. Truly, the CHOICE is always OURS; whether we allow ourselves to make the CONSCIOUS decision and focus on solutions instead of problems, is an entirely different matter.

Try to remember online dating really is a "numbers" game; and thankfully, almost everyone you meet here won't be your "ONE." You might have to spend some time going thru lots of encounters that don't add up before you happen upon the ones which do....but so does everyone here! It's called "paying our dues." Along the way, I promise you'll meet all sorts of interesting people, make new friends and learn lots of interesting new things about others and yourself.

Relax, have fun and don't be tempted to take all this too seriously. More importantly,start focusing more on your successes here than the disappointments.

Hope this helps...:-)

You have come to the forum to seek input. As a tottaly impartial someone whom you don't know, may I offer you some compassionate and sincere observations about your situation? Your entire post reads like a veritable laundry list of complaints and disappointments. Obviously, you have had some less than pleasant experiences here that didn't meet your expectations, but I think at least part of what is happening is maybe you focus more on what DOESN'T work instead of what you WANT. Take a moment to think about what type of person(s) that perspective will attract to you.

Naturally, I can only speak for myself, but I have discovered I tend to find whatever I am looking for, be it positive or negative; and when I look hard enough for something, it WILL show up in my life. Because this phenomena works BOTH ways, I have to keep a tight rein over what I allow myself to observe into my reality. Truly, the CHOICE is always OURS; whether we allow ourselves to make the CONSCIOUS decision and focus on solutions instead of problems, is an entirely different matter.

Try to remember online dating really is a "numbers" game; and thankfully, almost everyone you meet here won't be your "ONE." You might have to spend some time going thru lots of encounters that don't add up before you happen upon the ones which do....but so does everyone here! It's called "paying our dues." Along the way, I promise you'll meet all sorts of interesting people, make new friends and learn lots of interesting new things about others and yourself.

Relax, have fun and don't be tempted to take all this too seriously. More importantly,start focusing more on your successes here than the disappointments.

Hope this helps...:-)

Yes, you guys are right. I need to relax. I need to allow others to not rush me too and allow me to relax. It's not like I am running off to Vegas tomorrow. I think the ones I have encountered have pretty much seen internet dating like an auction eBay and that is not what I am here for. I am here to meet people and have fun and if I run into somebody great, if not that's okay too. I have a very full life and it's not as though I need someone to "complete me" kind of thing. I am a QA. I don't know if any of you have read "Quirky Alone - a Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics". It's not we want to be alone necessarily. It just means we don't want to be in dull lifeless relationships...if that makes sense. But you guys are absolutely right, I need to ease off the gas pedal as I feel I am going towards a brick wall and get out of the car and smell the wild flowers along the freeway (and maybe calm down by breathing some exhaust fumes). That's a bad joke.