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no, it means he is a guy... |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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It means he's guy=I don't know what that means. You guys tell us not to think in stereotypes yet I keep seeing stuff like that from girlfriends and the such.
I guess it really depends on HIS interests for the most part. I mean if a guy is culturally experienced he may want to continue, no matter what the topic is. Just as long as the default isn't always sex. lol |
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better?  It's not how much you say but how you say it! 
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? no. some are just menOfewwords.  I missed, but I agree with this. It may not be you after all. Could just be the guy isn't into talking. Or I always go with "he's just an extrovert" |
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? Men just keep it simple. |
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Edited by
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Wed 12/21/11 02:59 PM
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I've never had a guy respond with a longer email than mine. Of course, I can write a damn book so I'm not surprised by this. Guess it boils down to written communication skills or lack thereof. I wouldn't necessarily write the guy off (pun intended!) just 'cause you wrote two paragraphs and he responded with two sentences. If you start getting one word responses to your twelve pages, then you might be a bit concerned that you're not the perfect match. You mean he's not a match for me? Im just chatting with the guy to be friends. But the other day i called him on something that offended me and he came crawling back even though i was almost done talking to him. This was after he said it. I think that may be the reason he's so uno-sentenced. But now its a little weird. He wants to chat now even more but he's writing so little. His questions are a bit terse and that's odd. Bang, the cat comes out of the bag!!! You are not the dumm ignorant doo doo bird you have made yourself appear to be in the first little while of you existence on the forums. You are rather an erudite lady, probably an air to the throne of Monaco or Lichtenstein, and with a formal education that would put us all in shame if it ever were uncovered. I think you are like a breath of fresh air... the fresh air that the (likely fresh) heirs breathe in Monaco and Lichtenstein. |
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It means he's guy=I don't know what that means. You guys tell us not to think in stereotypes yet I keep seeing stuff like that from girlfriends and the such. I guess it really depends on HIS interests for the most part. I mean if a guy is culturally experienced he may want to continue, no matter what the topic is. Just as long as the default isn't always sex. lol Sex is not a fault, especially not per default. |
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? It means a number of possible completely incongruent things as the real reason for his reticence, and we and I and you and nobody can tell what it means. And you knew that before you asked the question. And you are probably right, if your question is a rhetoric-like one, but only probably right, with some amount of probability. |
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? |
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It could just be that he doesn't write a lot in general or it might not mean anything.
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It could just be that he doesn't write a lot in general or it might not mean anything. Exactly women tend to overthink. Men sometime don't think at all. 
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I've never had a guy respond with a longer email than mine. Of course, I can write a damn book so I'm not surprised by this. Guess it boils down to written communication skills or lack thereof. I wouldn't necessarily write the guy off (pun intended!) just 'cause you wrote two paragraphs and he responded with two sentences. If you start getting one word responses to your twelve pages, then you might be a bit concerned that you're not the perfect match. You mean he's not a match for me? Im just chatting with the guy to be friends. But the other day i called him on something that offended me and he came crawling back even though i was almost done talking to him. This was after he said it. I think that may be the reason he's so uno-sentenced. But now its a little weird. He wants to chat now even more but he's writing so little. His questions are a bit terse and that's odd. Bang, the cat comes out of the bag!!! You are not the dumm ignorant doo doo bird you have made yourself appear to be in the first little while of you existence on the forums. You are rather an erudite lady, probably an air to the throne of Monaco or Lichtenstein, and with a formal education that would put us all in shame if it ever were uncovered. I think you are like a breath of fresh air... the fresh air that the (likely fresh) heirs breathe in Monaco and Lichtenstein. I appreciate that you thought that even before knowing me. I always like to be judged before I ever talk to someone. Call me crazy but I dig it.  Either there's sarcasm in the air or you are comparing me to Princess Grace. For the sake of making things simple and nice, I'll believe the more flattering choice. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Wed 12/21/11 04:19 PM
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Just curious, if a guy writes less than you do in emails does that mean he doesn't care to get to know you better? It means a number of possible completely incongruent things as the real reason for his reticence, and we and I and you and nobody can tell what it means. And you knew that before you asked the question. And you are probably right, if your question is a rhetoric-like one, but only probably right, with some amount of probability. Actually I truly didn't know, that is why I posed the question. Though, I did have some curious ideas on what it might be. Always nice to get a few perspectives still.  Couldn't hurt.
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I just want to say something here about the male stereotype re: this issue.
While I can't question the perception of a lot of women, to the effect that men don't like to write much in e-mails, etc., I can say this is not the case for me. Anyone who has exchanged actual e-mails with me (and there are a few on this site) can tell you that I have no compunctions about composing entire books in an e-mail. I will go on and on forever (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) if I feel it's warranted. But I'm not gonna do it for "Hi, handsome" and "How are you?" |
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I just want to say something here about the male stereotype re: this issue. While I can't question the perception of a lot of women, to the effect that men don't like to write much in e-mails, etc., I can say this is not the case for me. Anyone who has exchanged actual e-mails with me (and there are a few on this site) can tell you that I have no compunctions about composing entire books in an e-mail. I will go on and on forever (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) if I feel it's warranted. But I'm not gonna do it for "Hi, handsome" and "How are you?" what? you don't like be perceived as handsome? quite honestly I can sympathize hey u r hot is a regular message that I pretty much ignore I'm like....really. a mother of 4 grown kids who's about 15lbs over weight and in her 50s. I'm hot, uh-huh |
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I just want to say something here about the male stereotype re: this issue. While I can't question the perception of a lot of women, to the effect that men don't like to write much in e-mails, etc., I can say this is not the case for me. Anyone who has exchanged actual e-mails with me (and there are a few on this site) can tell you that I have no compunctions about composing entire books in an e-mail. I will go on and on forever (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) if I feel it's warranted. But I'm not gonna do it for "Hi, handsome" and "How are you?" Here here! I wish more men were that way. Certainly clears the confusion up. I guess its hard for some to maybe "open up." Though truly not a stereotype. Granted this topic was referring to just one person.
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It means he's guy=I don't know what that means. You guys tell us not to think in stereotypes yet I keep seeing stuff like that from girlfriends and the such. Ok here it is, I’ll try to explain... Women and men communicate differently. It has been studied and proven that women (in general) do use more words in a day than most men. (Though not significantly more.) The big difference comes when men feel (whether warranted or not) a change in the direction of the conversation or on a more personal level, the relationship. Women tend to want to talk through problems and men seem to pull back. (withdraw). Also if it is a subject that men don’t really want to talk about, or care about, they will show you their disinterest by giving you short but to the point answers to get away from a topic. It’s not unlike when a woman asks her husband how his day was. Men, in general will simply reply with an overview, or grade if you will, “ahhh work is work”, or something like,” it was ok”. Women on the other hand will actually tell you details of their day and explain to you why it was good or bad. While it may take you two paragraphs to explain something or to get your point across the guy you are talking to may only feel the need for a few words and as a guy sees all the other stuff as unimportant, even though it leaves room for you to have to fill in the blanks. In his mind there are no blanks. It boils down to the different ways we draw attachments; emotionally, romantically, platonically, it makes little difference, we are just wired differently. Then again, it could be (in your case) that he really wants more than “as friends” with you and this is how he is dealing with the realization that you are not interested. Remember, he is a guy and therefore has a male ego. Which when it comes right down to it, are far more fragile than most of us will EVER admit. |
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what? you don't like be perceived as handsome? quite honestly I can sympathize It doesn't really make much of an impression when it comes from a total stranger who hasn't even bothered to spend the three minutes it takes to read my profile, ya know? Don't get me wrong, I'm all in favor of compliments. But only if they're sincere. "Hi, handsome" is not sincere. "Hi, handsome" is "I want to get your attention and I'm either too lazy or too stupid to come up with anything that might actually include some LEGITIMATE CONTENT, so I'll try to appeal to your vanity and/or ego." And that just doesn't grab me at all. hey u r hot is a regular message that I pretty much ignore I'm like....really. a mother of 4 grown kids who's about 15lbs over weight and in her 50s. I'm hot, uh-huh Right, I mean, who says that unless they have an ulterior motive? "Hey u r hot" is not exactly deep. They might as well write "Hey i m a moron." |
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I just want to say something here about the male stereotype re: this issue. While I can't question the perception of a lot of women, to the effect that men don't like to write much in e-mails, etc., I can say this is not the case for me. Anyone who has exchanged actual e-mails with me (and there are a few on this site) can tell you that I have no compunctions about composing entire books in an e-mail. I will go on and on forever (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) if I feel it's warranted. But I'm not gonna do it for "Hi, handsome" and "How are you?" Here here! I wish more men were that way. Certainly clears the confusion up. I guess its hard for some to maybe "open up." Though truly not a stereotype. Granted this topic was referring to just one person. In all fairness, I should add that I'm (apparently) not a "normal guy." I don't have any shirtless pics, and I don't have any pics where I'm holding up a fish. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Wed 12/21/11 04:42 PM
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It means he's guy=I don't know what that means. You guys tell us not to think in stereotypes yet I keep seeing stuff like that from girlfriends and the such. Ok here it is, I’ll try to explain... Women and men communicate differently. It has been studied and proven that women (in general) do use more words in a day than most men. (Though not significantly more.) The big difference comes when men feel (whether warranted or not) a change in the direction of the conversation or on a more personal level, the relationship. Women tend to want to talk through problems and men seem to pull back. (withdraw). Also if it is a subject that men don’t really want to talk about, or care about, they will show you their disinterest by giving you short but to the point answers to get away from a topic. It’s not unlike when a woman asks her husband how his day was. Men, in general will simply reply with an overview, or grade if you will, “ahhh work is work”, or something like,” it was ok”. Women on the other hand will actually tell you details of their day and explain to you why it was good or bad. While it may take you two paragraphs to explain something or to get your point across the guy you are talking to may only feel the need for a few words and as a guy sees all the other stuff as unimportant, even though it leaves room for you to have to fill in the blanks. In his mind there are no blanks. It boils down to the different ways we draw attachments; emotionally, romantically, platonically, it makes little difference, we are just wired differently. Then again, it could be (in your case) that he really wants more than “as friends” with you and this is how he is dealing with the realization that you are not interested. Remember, he is a guy and therefore has a male ego. Which when it comes right down to it, are far more fragile than most of us will EVER admit. Hmm, I do like this insight. Yet again, just because I am female I am being lumped in with other women you may know based on your personal experience. While it is true women, not all enjoy long spurts of talking about shady topics, doesn't make it the trademark trait. I tend to not go that route unless he wants to chat about it as well or he brings it into the discussion. I really don't care to chat about my problems either. LOL That's what blogs/girlfriends and family are for. I am trying to get to know people so doing that may scare them away. I'm more than likely open to talking about music, art history, old/modern movies and the like. I really don't get too personal with people in the beginning stages of getting my feet wet. The overview I am assuming is men stating things in facts? I've heard of this before. You forgot to say, "the women I've met." Again, that isn't me. I won't go into long diatribes of my day's events. I will most likely sum it up as if it were a lead before the article. He may or may not what to hear the whole thing. Based on what he says next I'll give my take and so on. Yeah, being so different will and eternally make things a lot more challenging than need be. Won't stop me from my inquisitive nature popping up in the meantime. Who knows? With the distance it would be a little more trying to be conducting anything beyond more than an amiable acquaintance. I leave things up to chance sometimes. I feel like nothing is more malleable than the male bravado. |
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