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Topic: Faith and Trust
josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 08/13/12 01:09 AM
I'm not really sure, I think part is looking forward and not back. Deciding that you are going to give people a chance without constantly looking for something to be wrong. Trust has to be given but also earned, it's giving people the benefit of the doubt. But I think the main thing is looking at it and saying well this may hurt but i am going to give it a go. Life is just an up and down roller coaster of being hurt. Stick on a band aid and keep going

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/13/12 01:34 AM
I guess it depends on a persons attitude and self pity/preservation reservoirs. You can be a wall or you can be open.

GreenEyes48 Joined Thu 08/26/10 Posts: 1319	Mon 08/13/12 07:08 AM Edited by GreenEyes48 on Mon 08/13/12 07:10 AM
I don't want to be naive or gullible...Or desperate and "needy" for "just anybody" to fill-up the "holes" in my life...But I don't want to erect 200-feet steel walls either. (With hidden "spikes!")..I think it takes time to get to know people. Everyone puts their "best foot forward" in the early stages. (This is just human nature. Don't you think?)...People don't always show their "true colors" until they have their "foot" in the "door" a little bit!...So I just want to be wary and wise. (In order to protect myself.) This doesn't mean that I'll never trust anyone. (Or stay "closed-up" forever!)...I feel that trust is "earned" over time. (And this applies to me too.)

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Mon 08/13/12 07:37 AM
I read some posts and I cant help but notice some people have trust issues because they have been hurt in relationships before. What would your advice be to someone who had lost the ability to trust? Ive noticed the same. Id just say to push through it by reprogramming our perception to cling to the positive things instead of the negative.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/13/12 12:45 PM
k.the onemore idea is "u know more info like trust honest etc from his eye"but now ur not in relationship so watch his behaviour r collect info from his friend I am not talking about me. I am talking about people in general.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 08/13/12 12:49 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/13/12 12:52 PM
Without the ability to trust, relationships aren't going to work. They need to take the time to figure out what's causing the problem and how they can work on fixing it. It could be a lot of reasons. The most common is being cheated on.

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Mon 08/13/12 12:56 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You may need to change the type you go for. If there is a cycle, learn and break it.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 08/13/12 01:52 PM
There is no pattern.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/13/12 01:55 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You can trust me. I wouldn't break you.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 08/13/12 01:58 PM
I read some posts and I cant help but notice some people have trust issues because they have been hurt in relationships before. What would your advice be to someone who had lost the ability to trust? There's really nothing you can say or do, it's something they will have to find a way to move on from and heal them self. All you can do is be there for them if they need you.

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Mon 08/13/12 02:21 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. Me to, but it's worth it, I wouldnt love if I didnt trust

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/13/12 03:09 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You may need to change the type you go for. If there is a cycle, learn and break it. I think that is easier said than done. Its a crap shoot when you are meeting people and you never know how quickly a person can change. I think Old Hippie is correct when he says there is no pattern. Me, I think its luck of the draw.

ShugahBee Joined Mon 07/23/12 Posts: 241	Mon 08/13/12 03:30 PM Edited by ShugahBee on Mon 08/13/12 03:55 PM
I agree with everyone above and You cant move forward if your always looking back,Sooner or later you will trip and fall. Everyone deserves a chance to be trusted as much as we would like to never be hurt,we cant sail if we dont get the boat wet.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 08/13/12 03:35 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You can trust me. I wouldn't break you. Oh goody!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 08/13/12 03:49 PM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You can trust me. I wouldn't break you. Oh goody! There now. Do you feel better?

Uniquely_blessed Joined Mon 08/13/12 Posts: 35	Tue 08/14/12 07:11 AM
I have big trust issues. I just take it slow . .I allow someone new a chance to prove their trust worthy. But I'm also very vigilant about not opening too quickly my heart and watching for "red flags" or signs of deception. thats how i feel too because idk how to overcome the trust issues ive accumulated n th last relationship

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Tue 08/14/12 08:23 AM
I always trust. I always get broken. It is the wheel of life it seems. You can trust me. I wouldn't break you. Oh goody! There now. Do you feel better? I feel much better. Where's my hug and kiss? Where's your bikini?

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 08/14/12 05:19 PM
I've made poor choices in the past...which i guess was necessary for me to learn. So it's not about trusting anybody else anymore, but rather it's about trusting myself to not making another poor choice.

Bigblackxxx Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 184	Tue 08/14/12 05:45 PM
I've trusted and lost, but still i know there are no two ways to love, it is either i trust fully or simply don't! While the fear of being betrayed will always be there, i'd rather trust a lady until she proves otherwise!