My biggest fear is to not see ever moment of my kids life. I can get over being alone and losing my best friend. The thought of telling my kids that daddy is not going to live with you makes me sick.
I would do anything for them and that is why I know moving out is for the best.
I wish it wasn't so but in my heart I know.

Help does it get easier? I miss them so!!

Over time it will. Just do the best you can, and assure them that you're still there for them, and that it is not their fault. Let them know you love them and if they need to talk you're there for them, if they need anything, you're there for them.

Getting them into counseling may not be a bad idea, even if they seem to be doing well.

I completely understood why my parents divorced and never felt that it was my fault, but counseling did help, even though I think I was fine with it, just having someone there to help was reassuring.

Yes, I felt the same and it was my biggest fear, since I grew up without my dad. But the time I do get with my kids is much more focused now, no house and mass amount of honey dew lists to fill my time. I spend quality time when I do have them. It seems like my relationship is building instead of becoming less.

My dad moved out of the house when I was fairly young, and in some ways it really sucked, but at the same time he still did a great job of being there for me and my brother... He was in the stands for every sports game, always there to give stellar advice when we needed it, and in a way the reduction of his need to be the responsible parent allowed him to become a much better friend than he otherwise could have.

As long as you can constantly show your kids how much you love them, be there for them in their big moments, and constantly support and advise them, things tend to work out... It was a lot harder on my dad than it was for us, because he did such a great job at it. Hang in there buddy.

It is a tough situation for all involved...Regardless why it happened it does not make things any easier...All I can say it all comes down to what you do with your time you have with them and the help that is given to the other parent that has them full time.

Some parents choose to have only fun times with the kids while they have them. But fail to help in every day issues and put it off on the one that has them full time...

It takes both parents to decide how issues with the kids are handled. I know at times this seems impossible for both to work together when it comes to the kids...

But what ever you do don't forget just because of a divorce it is not the kids fault. And they need all the guidance that they can get from both parents...See them as often as you can....it will make the transaction for them much easier in the long run.

As far as getting easier we just have to make the best with the time we have with our kids... It is tough not having them around as much as you did at one time but can be rewarding...

Myself I had mine full time after the divorce it is not easy being the parent raising them alone either...

Good luck to you with what is ahead...

People need to put all the issues aside when a divorce comes around and think more on the kids instead...Not an easy bill to fill but one that more need to work at..

And never ever put the other parent down it will back fire in the end...

It is easier if you parted with the mother of your children on good or amicable terms. Too often i see parents fighting even after the split...that's when it is difficult, especially for the children.

I kept my children after the divorce so I had to tell them mommy was not coming back. It was very hard to break their hearts.

Never put their mom down, they will resent you for it is all I can add.

Hey good men do what they need to do but for you it must have been hard. Not too many men can do what you did.
I thank you for doing what's right and help to give good men a better rep!

Thanks for everyone's advice! Nice to here from some men that went through their parents getting a divorce as children.

I feel for you. I think it can get better if you work on making it better,, but it takes time ...

like anything worthwhile does,,,

Quality of time not quantity of time means everything.

If it is any help remember that parenting is a life long gig. Kids may have to have less time with the non-custodial parent while they are minors but family relationships go way past the 18th birthday.

Since most kids start making chices where they want to be way before their 18th birthday by being a firm, fair, and and committed parent you will spend more time together than you think.

Especially if you actively make their life the priority it should be by being involved in their education, medical care, and interests which you are entitled to do unless you have done something really dumb to get a judge or your kids to negate those rights.

Oh an yea thinking you are going to see every moment of your kids life is whacked; you will drive them and yourself crazy so delete that idea. Perspective dude perspective.