Topic: In general...
Totage's photo
Mon 09/10/12 05:40 AM
by what date should there be enough trust established for a couple to deceide to be an exclusive couple?

By which date would distrust be a red flag?

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Mon 09/10/12 05:45 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Mon 09/10/12 05:46 AM
There's no set schedule for exclusivity. It will be different for each person.

Distrust will be an issue right away.

Totage's photo
Mon 09/10/12 07:13 AM
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No but there is a general amount of time you should know enough about someone to know if you want to be with them or not. Right?

navygirl's photo
Mon 09/10/12 10:50 AM
I guess for me; it would be about 6 months.

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Mon 09/10/12 11:04 AM

:-\

No but there is a general amount of time you should know enough about someone to know if you want to be with them or not. Right?


Well, I know right away if I'm attracted to them. It just depends on how well things go. Communication is key. If you can't talk about those kind of things with the person you're dating, you're definitely not ready to be exclusive.

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Mon 09/10/12 11:28 AM
For me, it's usually after I have had sex with him. Obviously this is dependent on whether we've both enjoyed 'it'.

pyxxie13's photo
Mon 09/10/12 12:24 PM
Well I am not convinced there should be a set time. It took a friend of mine 3 years to discover her husband of a year then has Hep. C

And he had been diagnosed almost 7 years by then. It never surprises me to see what people hide from one another.

wux's photo
Tue 09/11/12 05:16 AM

by what date should there be enough trust established for a couple to deceide to be an exclusive couple?

By which date would distrust be a red flag?


June 29th, 2008. Any other date and it's not good.

Totage's photo
Tue 09/11/12 11:45 AM

Well I am not convinced there should be a set time. It took a friend of mine 3 years to discover her husband of a year then has Hep. C

And he had been diagnosed almost 7 years by then. It never surprises me to see what people hide from one another.


That's why communication is important, then again even with good communication, people will still be deceitful and manipulative.

In general though good communication is the key. No, there isn't a specific amount of time and every is different, but after a period of time, we should be able to open more and more to one another in a relationship. If there are issues, we should be able to deal with them with good communication and patience.

ShugahBee's photo
Tue 09/11/12 01:03 PM

There's no set schedule for exclusivity. It will be different for each person.

Distrust will be an issue right away.


I agree with what she said...

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 09/11/12 02:14 PM

Well I am not convinced there should be a set time. It took a friend of mine 3 years to discover her husband of a year then has Hep. C

And he had been diagnosed almost 7 years by then. It never surprises me to see what people hide from one another.


Me neither.

Ladywind7's photo
Tue 09/11/12 02:58 PM
Exclusivity happens immediatly upon an agreed commitment to each other IMO. Distrust should figure nowhere in a healthy relationship. If distrust has no substantial reason to be justified, in the dating cycle, someone has an issue to be dealt with.