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Topic: HOW TO COPE WITH A HEARTBREAK
nhej's photo
Sat 12/08/12 05:55 AM
1. get rid of such objects that remind you of the person who broke your heart. return, sell , burn or throw them away. get rid of photos, letters, emails, and other such items.

2. recognize the reasons why you feel bad, think of ways in which some of these reasons can be eliminated or avoided.

3. remember why the romance ended. the relationship ended because you deserve better.

4. remember there will be better days ahead.

5. spend more time with your friends and family.

6. if you do not work out or exercise, start doing that, as it helps reduce stress and depression. exercise will help improve your body and self image.

7. take a bath or shower when feeling very unhappy.

8. start a new hobby or pastime. the pleasure of accomplishing something will counter act to the feelings of sadness.

9. keep busy.

10. find activities to do that make you happy. stay away from sad movies and the like.

11. listen to music that gets adrenaline rushing, do not listen to slow, sad or romantic songs.

12. meet new people. you might find someone who will heal your heart. :)

oldsage's photo
Sat 12/08/12 06:24 AM
A heart is never broken, it just feels that way.

Time will teach you to handle the pain. However, there will always be days where the cause of the pain, was just yesterday.

15 years of off & on pain, has taught me that.
grumble grumble ohwell :cry: :cry:

itasca's photo
Sat 12/08/12 06:39 AM
All i know is that it hurts and you have to deal with it in your own way to feel better... believe me I have had a lot lately.But just stand up brush yourself off and move on.

KimmyChoo's photo
Sat 12/08/12 06:42 AM
thanks for posting this list...having a broken heart really sucks bigtime...i'm allowing myself to do a lil 'wallowing' tears

Benji1010's photo
Sat 12/08/12 06:52 AM
So meaningful, so true - what more can one say? This is truly a wonderful sincere posting in every sense of the word.

no photo
Sat 12/08/12 07:31 AM
Yes hun. You're right. Our friends and family are always there for us. They know what we like and what makes us smile. I'm happy as I am, being single. Good for you girl. flowerforyou

Toodygirl5's photo
Sat 12/08/12 03:59 PM
I agree all but Number 1 and Number 11. I dont throu out meaningful items and I love to listen to slow romantic music.:smile:

soufiehere's photo
Sat 12/08/12 04:11 PM
The only thing I might add is..allow yourself a mourning period.
It shows you were capable of caring deeply.

And know, that when you are ready..or even when you are not..
it can happen for you again :-)

Dodo_David's photo
Sat 12/08/12 04:23 PM
13. Invest yourself in a cause greater than yourself.
14. Reach out and give love to someone else who is hurting.

mthom086's photo
Sat 12/08/12 05:02 PM
one great way is to keep busy. You don't romanticize the relationship either. Obviously it wasn't magical because someone wasn't happy with it.

Be busy, let time heal you, and meet as many new people as possible,

seamac's photo
Sat 12/08/12 05:34 PM
Sit quietly someplace you find beautiful and let your emotions have freedom. Don't push, have no expectations, just be still and allow yourself to honestly feel whatever it is that comes up for you. Grieving a lost love is like any other grief in that it takes time, a simple thing we often don't allow or make room for. A good cry and/or a good laugh, a walk down memory lane, what ever comes up let it be for a while as you sit and just feel. I still practice this simple act a few times a year over 7 years since my husbands death and more recently the loss of a love I didn't think I would find, only to lose it. I usually come away feeling lighter or cleansed if you will.

Many of the other suggestions are very good too and work over time but allowing time to just feel and not judge or question what you feel is something I think we tend to over look.

Best to you as you heal, you will heal. Be kind to yourself, never shut the door against loving again.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 12/08/12 06:01 PM
Fire always worked for me...Burn it all.

Gunny03's photo
Mon 12/10/12 11:11 AM
What I have found that works best for me is yoga and meditation. It gives you time to reflect and look at yourself objectively, to understand the situation without being bias.

no photo
Mon 12/10/12 11:48 AM
#512 Best way of getting over someone is to get under someone! :thumbsup:

michy4's photo
Mon 12/10/12 12:14 PM
tears go home to your mum and fiends they are the ones you loved be fore your heart was brokenlaugh

markc48's photo
Mon 12/10/12 08:11 PM
Edited by markc48 on Mon 12/10/12 08:12 PM
Fiendslaugh
Or friends

navygirl's photo
Sun 12/16/12 06:57 PM

13. Invest yourself in a cause greater than yourself.
14. Reach out and give love to someone else who is hurting.


Yep; this works for me. Rather than feeling bad about what I am going through; I focus on others. :thumbsup:

yana_Cieci's photo
Tue 12/18/12 04:08 AM
Four years relationship gone in a minute. How hurt it is. Since break up, we agreed to stop seeing each other. Its been a year now and he now with someone else but he can't really forget me. And me too. I have problem to cope my feeling towards him.. Obviously, i still love him with my wholeheart.. I really miss how he smile for me.... It hurt me a lot when I start thinking of something that painful..

Goofball73's photo
Tue 12/18/12 08:43 AM
Sex, drugs, and more sex....then repent....repeat. :tongue: laugh

Kahurangi's photo
Tue 12/18/12 04:10 PM
You learn to live with it.

That is all.

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